May I ask you a question...and I guess some other posters too. If you despise the natives so much, why do you live in these countries? Why not move back to US?
Some opinions state here reminds me of 19th century white anthropologists opinion about Africa. There is a positive side to this gossipy, in your face and your business culture. When was young, I felt totally safe playing in the apartment complex playground by myself. So did my mom. Why? Because of all the gossiping babushkas on the benches. They knew everyone. There was no chance of some creep approaching me or my friends or luring us away. I had far more free range childhood because of that. Yes, everyone knew everything about each other, and apartment walls were thin but if I was short on sugar or flour, I could just go to my neighbor. It is simply not done in US. So on and so forth. People do what they can to survive and different cultural behaviors work in different societies for a reason.
I don't despise "the natives". Like I said in the previous post, I am a citizen of this country. I can't "move back to the US", because I am not from the US. My dad was from the US, but he died when I was very young. I am multicultural and don't think I belong in the US any more than I belong here - I only ever lived there for two years, very long ago. Every country has its downsides, and here gossiping neighbors who are more concerned with others' lives than their own is one. I couldn't despise anybody because of their culture or heritage, but as a multicultural person with many international moves under my belt, most of them during childhood, I don't have the luxury of having a culture of my own.
It is nice that gossipy neighbors made you feel safe, and I can see that being true. As for me, I feel comfortable taking care of my own family's safety and I dislike the gossiping neighbors. To clarify, I dislike gossip anywhere in the world, not just here. With the sentence "Some opinions state here reminds me of 19th century white anthropologists opinion about Africa." you are basically accusing me of racism? I dislike gossiping neighbors because they make my family a target of racism, not because I am racist myself.