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[BubbleMa]

Originally Posted by Stevi 

BubbleMa...   I am soooo jealous of your every-other-dailies!!!

Luckily our work schedules have allowed it.  Usually he ends up working extremely late (12-1am) on the nights when I have to be up super early the next morning.  The week before last we were on vacation and last week (and this week) we're home, but he hasn't been closing at work.  :)  It's been really nice!

Originally Posted by janellody 

BubbleMa - We are DTD every other day, too.. it's our first month so I wonder how long we should go until we can give it a break but I secretly want to keep going until AF, also.. JUST IN CASE, you know?? 

I don't chart so usually I just guess when I ovulate, based on my calendar and also most months I can feel it.  However, I'm wondering if what I'm feeling is something else and we're missing ovulation.  Since we typically only DTD every other day for about a week or so around ovulation time.  This cycle we're trying to do it the entire cycle.  Just to be sure!  We'll do the same next cycle too, if it doesn't work this time. 

[toothfairy2be]

Stevi- I would never feel like spitting in your face, I agree with what both you and Gemmine said, somehow month after month we pick ourselves up and go on.

Onward & Upward

             I figure the only other option is to stop trying and I will never give up, so until we achieve success another month is just our next chance. Ya know, it gets easier faster every month. Last night I cried for like 2 minutes just because my DH was telling me that he was excited just like I told him he would be (he always says he is scared when we get our BFP he is going to be too scared to be happy).

The hardest part is that I kept myself so guarded for almost all of my 2ww and then with all those weird things the last 2 days I figured it just had to be something new. I promised myself I wouldn't get hopeful anymore (or test early...)  I still don't know what caused the nausea (still present but not as bad). I am glad to be starting my testing at the RE tomorrow. I did test last night and this morning, BFN. My temp was still up and AF seems to not want to just jump in, but I have been crampy a little tonight, so I am hoping she starts ASAP since I told my RE I was CD1 today so I could get my bloods and u/s tomorrow before vacation. Anyone here done CD3 (or CD2-4) bloods & u/s, I use a diva cup, should I keep it out for the u/s?? Do they do it transvaginal?

Christy- congrats! That is a fantastic souvenir ! H & H 9 mos to you!

Gemmine, kittenbritches, jennellody, bubblema- Yay for EWCM & for O, I hope all the juices are a signal of a nice strong egg waiting for a strong swimmer. Yay for sextravaganza--- even the extended every other day sextravaganzas!

andthestars- thanks for all the hope... I'm telling you, my charts are like, unbelievable, looking at my temps, symptoms, etc- you would never know that I have so many problems with my cycle or making a baby- frustrating! I gave up temping for a few months because really all they tell me is that I ovulate, they don't help with anything else!--- I edited to add that maybe the progesterone kept it high and is keeping AF from coming full force, but I am only using a half dose and its only a topical cream, WTH??

[TenzinsMama]

cbaa, I just finished my fertility work-up-- I started out with transvaginal pelvic u/s, then had CD3 bloodwork, then on CD6 an HSG.  I'm CD10 today, and our appointment to get all the results is in 1.5 weeks.  My DH has had SA already and we know that the results are really good with that, and same thing with the pevic u/s (I had that done a couple of months ago because we have already been to see our fertility doc a couple of times so that we could talk about ttc'ing sooner rather than later.)  So yeah, we will get a clearer picture of where things are at with the additional tests, and decide on next steps.  About your questions, I would assume that the u/s would be done when not bleeding, so you would just book that a little later... probably would be transvaginal.  Hopefully if AF is gowing to show up, that she comes soon... I don't know about your clinic, but ours has some definite instructions about how to count the CDs-- they say not to count spotting, just full flow, and if it is after 3 pm, you wouldn't count that day but the next day would be CD1.  I'm not sure what the difference would be if the days were a little off, when it comes to the lab values... maybe others can shed some light on it... I also wanted to say, I totally hear you about the other things you write about (i.e. the emotional side) -- I can relate to so many things you said.  I've been struggling ever since AF arrived for me, because I was like you-- I had so many different things going on with me, I was sure I was going to get a bfp this time around.  I thought, yeah, yeah, it'll happen because I'm going to get all these tests scheduled and then not need them... *sigh* 

[Stevi]

cbaa2010...   I'm glad you took it the right way! :) I hope things level out soon with this cycle so you can get the testing done, and then get on with whatever needs to be done to get you that baby. Onward!!!!!!

[MommyMatsumoto]

I just dropped in to say...

Viv - OMG! OMG! OMG!  Congratulations and many blessings to you and your little peanut!!!  
 

Originally Posted by vivica2 

ill start this thread of with a pic for your stalking pleasure  http://canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=13911

yipee!  ill miss you guys, but im happy to leave! haha! hope you can all come with me very soon!

-viv-

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by MommyMatsumoto 

I just dropped in to say...

Viv - OMG! OMG! OMG!  Congratulations and many blessings to you and your little peanut!!!  
 

Now come over the graduate's thread!

[Stevi]

And I'm sick again. Why does this always seem to happen in the tww, instead of before ovulation when I can safely use medications? Sigh. Fever came on this evening, and now my  throat feels scratchy.

[faerieliss]

Hello!  I posted in another thread last night but have felt like I was interupting.  Can someone please let me know where the best place to start out in this forum is?  I am currently in 2WW and would love to meet some others in the same situation.  Thanks x

[Gemmine]

AndtheStars: Planning for a sextravaganza Saturday-Tuesday; hopefully we can get in 3 out of the 4 days!

kittenbritches: Yay for EWCM!! I haven't seen anymore since yesterday morning but hopefully it will return in the next several days. How much EPO are you taking a day?

cbaa: ::hugs:: Let us know how your first appointment goes!

Hi MommyMatsumoto and TTCCoC!!!

Stevi: Nooooo! Sending germ-fighting dust (??) your way.

faerie: You are welcome to stay here, just ask in bold to be added to "Waiting to Know". If your only goal is the 2WW and you won't stay here past that, there should be a 2WW Support thread somewhere in Trying to Conceive.

[kittenbritches]

BubbleMa - That is a ton of BDing!!  My hubby would be in *heaven* if we did it EOD for an entire month.  Once upon a time, when I was all young and full of life, I could do it every day.  Now I'd rather sleep or tell whipper snappers to get off of my lawn! 

cbaa - I hope you can get some answers at the RE.  KMFX for you!

Stevi - Oh no!  I hope it is short-lived for you and you don't get full-blown sick!  Tylenol should be fine to help with your fever and sore throat.  Get better soon!! 

Faerie - Welcome to MDC!  It can always be a little intimidating to jump into a new forum where other ladies have already had a chance to build relationships, but feel free to jump in wherever you're comfortable!  I joined MDC in 2008, but only just started posting to the forums within the last week-ish.

Gemmine - I'm sure you'll see more over the next week!  CD 9 is still so early!  :P  I'm hoping that I'll see some more today.  I'm taking 1000mg of EPO a day...what about you?

Janellody - I'm stalking your chart to see where your temps are today.  Are you having any more O symptoms?

AFM - Huge temp drop today...which can only be an O drop (regular thing for me).  I was hoping that I O'd yesterday, but with my temps and other sxs today makes more sense.  When DH went to work last night I told him he should really try to wake me up -- he tried the night before, but I was apparently in a coma -- so we could get more BDing in.  It took him a good 15 minutes of coercing last night to even get me to roll over.  LOL.

**TMI ALERT**  My vagina has been really engorged and tight the last two days...like, my one finger fills it when I check CP/CM (sorry, sorry  LOL).  Has anyone else had that happen close to O time?  Everything just feels swollen in there -- no pain, just super engorged.

[janellody]

Kitten - Chart updated, not much change in temp.  I have began setting my alarm for 6am by the way and taking it at that time every day if possible.  So of course yesterday, I had to wake up at 5:25 so that threw it all off again, but hopefully the 6am thing will be regular now. 

Yesterday was BD day and.... we failed.  So I am crossing all fingers and toes that yesterday wasn't the day we HAD to do it... I feel like such a failure now :(  Our first month and we already can't BD every time we want to.  And least not.. finish. My poor hubby tried but it's just getting really difficult.  Sorry if that's tmi!! I am being positive and trying again today but now I feel defeated already.

Oh, and I picked up some preseed yesterday so started using that, hopefully we are on the right track and can get some action tonight (lol).

Anyways, enough whining.  I have no idea about your engorged vagina lol, I will leave that to the experts!! If today is O day for you then that is exciting!  2WW!  Hopefully I will be there soon, too!! :)

Faerie - There is a 2WW thread going on in this area if you are interested, but I like this specific one also because it's for everyone!  I am new as well and I jump in pretty much anywhere and ask silly newbie questions and everyone seems to be fine with it   Welcome!!

[kittenbritches]

Janellody - Don't get too down about BDing yesterday! Based on your temps, you haven't missed your opportunity!  Hopefully the Preseed will help tonight.  The first time DH and I DTD this cycle he didn't finish.  He takes an antidepressant that makes it take AGES for him to finish, and I was worn out so we stopped.  He stopped taking it for our fertile window and he's not having an issue getting the job done now.  :)  I'm sure he'll start taking his medication again after I've got my CHs.

[janellody]

Originally Posted by kittenbritches 

Janellody - Don't get too down about BDing yesterday! Based on your temps, you haven't missed your opportunity!  Hopefully the Preseed will help tonight.  The first time DH and I DTD this cycle he didn't finish.  He takes an antidepressant that makes it take AGES for him to finish, and I was worn out so we stopped.  He stopped taking it for our fertile window and he's not having an issue getting the job done now.  :)  I'm sure he'll start taking his medication again after I've got my CHs.

Thanks Kitten, that makes me feel better.  Tonight... it is on!! :P

[SKJ2011]

kitten - I read in Taking Charge of Your Fertility that engorged vulva/labia/vagina can be a sign of ovulation.  Sounds like your body is working like a dream!  TCOYF also talks about some other subtle signs, like a particular lymph node in the pelvic region that swells around ovulation.  Ahh, that book is just sooo fascinating.

[toothfairy2be]

janellody- don't get too down, and don't be ashamed about the not finishing thing, TTC is stressful (if you hadn't already noticed, lol). It has happened to us as well. The pre-seed helps actually b/c it is smoother if ya know what I mean! Good luck tonight, I honestly have found if we set aside more time for BDing and make it more about love than just finishing, it is better in all areas-- also, talk to your DH about taking time to finish together, sometimes trying different positions and taking it slowly makes it more arousing, or maybe after TTC this long we just needed to try something new-- it is good for the swimmers too!

Stevi- run away damn cold- run away! Drinking ginger tea with the whites of scallions in it is supposed to warm your center and kill a cold, actually taking tylenol to reduce your fever makes it a cold last longer b/c if your internal temp stays lower it lets the germs grow. I would think that letting your body take care of it would be safer than having germs around for a longer time. Plus, as long as your temp stays low grade and doesn't spike it shouldn't hurt any potential growing babe- I mean, in the 2ww my temp is often 99.6 or higher and that is without being sick!

Hi MommyM & TTCCoC - I hope we are all joining you on the other side soon!

Welcome Faerie- everyone is welcome in the one thread - that's why it is the one . There is a 2ww support as well, but we are happy to have you and keep you for as long as you are around. I hope that this is your last 2ww and you get your BFP soon though!

AFM- I had my blood work and u/s done this morning, AF still is not full force, but they didn't ask, so I stayed mum. I s'pose they will mention it at my follow-up that my stuff wasn't right, but I can always re-do it next cycle, hopefully they will give me the clomid or femara after my followup and I can do both! It was a PITA scheduling my HSG b/c they can't do it next Wed (my only day off) so I had to talk to my office manager (which I did NOT want to have to discuss at work), to get time off Monday... She was actually very supportive but at the same time was kind of all business about it, no pitying, which in the end is really better for me, she wasn't insensitive at all, she just didn't get into I'm so sorry blah blah and ask a lot of questions, but they will be accomodating & she is going to discuss it with my boss - the dentist- tomorrow, when I am out on vacation, then he is gone all next week, so I will have 2 weeks kinda before I potentially would have to talk to him about it. He and his wife had infertility tx for their 1st (then had 3 more boom boom boom with no help), so I expect he will be just as understanding, I think it is really harder for me to admit that is kept me from telling them to begin with. (how was that for a run-on sentence!) So as for my u/s---  She showed me my left ovary and was all like 'see the little black dots, thats what I am counting, that is what we want to see- antral follicle reserves)-- she found it right away and took some pics and then turned the screen back again and kept bouncing along, and then she asked me to put pressure on my right side, and she wiggled the thing, and kept moving it and snapping pictures- saying nothing- for a long time, never said anything about my right side... and she didn't have me put pressure when she did the left... I always have back and pelvic pain on the right side, I have problems with my right hip, I have a pull at the floor of my uterus everytime I go for my arvigo massage. So I am all freaked out that something is wrong with my right ovary-- I mean, why would she say nothing? Why would she need pressure on one side but not the other, why would she show me one side and not the other... I'm so sad and scared... Other than that the bloodwork and stuff was fine. I still feel a little nauseus today and I have a massive headache. I've had a few episdoes of AF like cramps, but still no full flow (oops on my part about scheduling today), but my temp dropped & cervix is LSM- it is gross feeling, like a sponge. So AF should be here right in time for my vacation. Speaking of vacation, now that I told my life story for today, I need to pack before DH gets home, we are leaving in an hour! Also, DH gave me and iPad last night early for my birthday, so I can use it on vaca - woohoo!

[janellody]

cbaa - Thanks for your words today, I am already feeling better.  Last night I did suggest that we take MORE time, as we have just been allowing about 20 minutes before bed to DTD and not really making it about love at all, since we both kind of dreaded it each time.  After our epic fail last night, we went to a sex shop (first time ever for hubby!!  Weird right?  My girlfriends and I went immediately when we turned 18 hahaha!).  We found some fun card games and massage games and some new things to try to make things different and focus on foreplay and having fun more than just getting the job done, if you know what I mean.  We also agreed to set aside an hour each time, not just "fit it in" right before bed.  I don't want to make it boring and a chore, so I am hoping that these steps we have taken will help and will be the beginning of making it better!  I am hopeful :)  Thanks again for your advice girls!

I never have a ton of advice for you girls who are way farther along than me and having doctor visits and such, so I will let the others help out with that but yay for iPad and vacation :)  Have fun!

[Stevi]

The fever was down by the time I went to bed, and this morning's temp plummetted. So I think I may have escaped a real illness, but now I'm wondering if the temps I charted earlier were higher due to a low fever instead of ovulation. The lower temps are more normal for me; I'm cold blooded! :)

Oh, and I generally do not take anything during my LP. I try very hard to hold out until AF, just in case. My medical issue has to be extreme for me to use any medication (like that Chlamydia a little while ago), including Tylenol, aspirin, etc.... (I did gargle a bit with salt water for my sore throat.)

cbaa2010...   Maybe the person didn't say anything about the other side because it was unremarkable? Meaning normal? I don't know what they were looking for exactly, but don't we generally ovulate from one side or the other for any given cycle? Maybe the dots were seen on that ovary because that is the one preparing to mature an egg this cycles, whereas the other ovary is on break? I honestly don't know, I'm just speculating.

[hellothere]

I'm very new to this site and i am lost! How do i make a chart and is this even where i post questions? I'm very sorry i am unfortunatley not very computer savvy.

[Stevi]

I changed my avatar, hopefully it will make seeing my posts less depressing.

[KM84]

cbaa - I'm with Stevi, your other ovary was probably nothing to get excited about, and since you only really need one of them to do its job at a time, I'd guess the doctor is just having you focus on the one for now.

janellody - I know "just relax" is the most obnoxious and useless advice when you're TTC, but if he's having trouble gettin-er-done (as it were), you might see what you can do to take the pressure off (of both of you!). I'm guessing that the pressure to preform is stressing him out, which makes it that much harder. It sounds like you're on the right path though.

Also this is super TMI, but I've found that if I, uh, prime the pump before going at it, things go *much* more quickly, which can be a blessing if I'm sore. I think it's a lie that men just want to DTD without any preamble.

afm, still waiting to O but we may actually sit this cycle out. My husband confessed this morning that he'd rather wait a few months. I'm a little bummed, but I'm glad he was up front about it. His job is in a huge state of flux, and I think it's stressing him out. We also want to move closer to his family before we have a baby, and after two full days of looking at houses (12 of them!) we're wiped. We found one place we really loved, but in the time it took us to research the neighborhood/schools/etc, someone else grabbed it. We weren't enthusiastic about any of the other places we saw, so we're taking some time away from house hunting. It's too hard to resist comparing each house unfavorably to "the one that got away."