I am not ignoring my son's learning issues, and I never said I don't want to deal with it.
We are dealing with it in other areas - I do not want to talk about it HERE - I came here to address my issues with my anger.
I know this isn't exactly what you wanted to discuss but I must address it. I grew up being told I was stupid, lazy, a day dreamer. I was none of the above. I was, however, suffering from ADHD and dyslexia. Ignoring your child's learning issues isn't going to make them go away. He will become more withdrawn, more angry and make your resolve to gently parent dissolve. Please stop saying you don't want to deal with it. You don't have to but he does. You have a responsibility as his parent to ensure the best education you can provide with the least amount of obstacles.
My best friend also has ADHD and dyslexia. Her parents were proactive with her learning challenges and got her tons and tons of help. She went on to college, got her degree (even though it took 8 years), has an amazing career and earns 6 figures.
My parents felt I was too stupid and lazy for college. I never went. I earn a decent living but am stuck in a rut that unless I find a way to go back to school, I will probably never get out of.
What do you want for you son? No one is saying it has to be meds. There may be other things that can be done for him.
Please, I'm begging you, address this issue as soon as you can.