When my twin girls were just starting to try foods I read the book "Child of Mine" and loved it. I bought into the mantra that it was a parent's responsibility to offer healthy, balanced meals, and the child's responsibility to decide whether to eat and how much. That was then. My girls' eating habits have gone downhill since then, and coming from a family of hearty, healthy eaters, it's very hard to me to decide what to do about it.
The girls are 3 1/2. They agree against milk of any kind (we have tried everything, offered, offered, offered, peer pressure, cool cups, sitting down as a family). They will have milk in smoothies, frozen yogurt, or ice cream, but not liquid. Also, no meat of any kind, with the very occasional exception of a bite of an adult's meat lasagna, bacon, hot dog. Eggs are hit and miss. Tofu has been totally rejected.
One twin will eat dairy - loves yogurt and cottage cheese. She's the ever so slightly more adventurous eater who ate some lasagna, once.
Both will eat veggies and fruit with some regularity; I am happy with that.
Rice and cheese are out of their diets because of ongoing constipation problems.
So, here are our main foods:
peanut and jelly sandwiches
fruit and veg
They will sometimes eat beans - limas, black, etc.
bread, crackers, sometimes pasta, sometimes french fries
I'm bored and frustrated with their diet. We sit down and eat as a family, and they see my DH and I eating fish, poultry, meat, cooking, leafy greens, all sorts of things they wouldn't touch. We offer frequently off our plates. Sometimes they tell us they'll eat that as a teenager, sometimes when they are a mommy.
I'm OK with offering as balanced a meal as I can and leave it up to them. But there are two problems: first, terrible elimination issues. We're dealing with this as well as we can with Miralax (last resort, we tried everything natural we could first.) But I can't help but think this is related to diet. And of course the "adventurous" eater has fewer BM issues.
My much bigger worry: the twins are identical; they share the exact same DNA as monozygotic twins. And the twin that eats protein (by way of yogurt and cottage cheese, eaten with gusto), she is significantly bigger than her sister. Has been since before birth. Now she's probably 2 inches taller and several pounds heavier. Strangers with a good eye aren't sure if they're even twins. The "big" twin looks a lot like me at her age. My littler one looks like a pixie / changeling version of her sister.
My mom successfully got my little one to eat cottage cheese pancakes. It got me thinking that maybe I should work on disguising protein and calcium rich foods for the girls. As much as it galls me, maybe get some protein powder for drinks, or protein bars. It kills me not to give the girls more natural, healthy foods. But my policy of waiting for acceptance is leading to a stunted kid.