struggling with decision to force wean @2yr or hold out for CLW

[bethseth]

I had 'threatened miscarriage" with my 1st and then recently had a miscarriage @7 wks. I know from my Lactation Specialist that BF causes the uterus to contract and can cause miscarriage if prone to it.  Here is what I struggle with.....do I force my son to wean out of fear of possibly losing a pregnancy....or do I CLW and take that chance as to not lose that bond with the one I already have!????   I wrestle with this question ALOT and would love your feedback and to hear suggestions or tips on weaning gently if possible!

[greenmulberry]

I only have a 6 month old, so I have not been in your position, but I think that if you feel, and your health care providers agree, that weaning gives you the best chance of a successful pregnancy, that you should should not feel guilty about weaning at two years.

Nursing for two years is an amazing success!

[Marissamom]

no one can make the decision for you, but a few of the things I would take into consideration: your age and how many more child-bearing years you think you'll have, how many children you want to have, what you think would be the best sibling spacing for your family, if you've had a hard time getting pregnant in the past, how much your 2 year old is nursing (I would be more hesitant to wean a child who's nursing 12 times a day over one who's nursing once a day). if you feel that right now it makes sense to wait to get pregnant again you can always wait 6 months and then re-evaluate.