I've never posted here before, but I find myself in a very unpleasant place. Kitty is 17 years old. She's had a thought-to-be benign tumor on her abdomen for a long time. This past winter it started to grow, but it still didn't seem to be bothering her, and the vet said not to worry about it unless it did. Then around April, she started to lick it. It got raw, red, and nasty. I tried ointments, and home remedies to help her out, but nothing worked. It recently got to a point where it was bleeding and oozing pus, so I took her to the vet again. While there, the vet discovered another lump just a little higher up. He took an asperite for testing, to see if it was cancerous. He also took a peek under the microscope and said he could see a lot of round cells, which are often indicative of cancer. He wasn't optimistic and seemed pretty certain that Kitty has cancer which is starting to spread rapidly.
Over the past year, I've noticed that her appetite has decreased. She still seems to enjoy all of the kitty activities she did previously, but she is also old and mostly just sleeps. She has never chewed her food, so she has some dental problems and we were planning on having her dental work done at the same time as the surgery to have the tumors removed.
The biggest problem, and I feel horrible about this, is money. The surgery plus dental work will cost at least $1000, an we spent $400 at the vet yesterday for all of the labs, etc. We've had a bad run of financial luck lately (plumbing work, car repairs, hospital bills), and the logical part of me says that spending $1400 on a cat that is 17 and has cancer is ridiculous. But I just lost twins to miscarriage not even a month ago, and losing the kitty I've had since I was 12 would be awful.
We could let her stay in the Elizabethan collar so she doesn't lick her tumor anymore and it can heal on the outside, but she is miserable in that thing. She doesn't walk around much, she gets stuck on furniture and carpet when she does, and I feel it has a huge negative impact on the quality of her life.
I just don't know what to do.