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post #141 of 241

((HUGS))

post #142 of 241

I need to go bra shopping, it's an hour away, and if I go today (which I need to) I'll have nobody to go with me AND have to take the kids. If I get down there, I want to get some shirts to wear to work too, and possibly go to a scrub shop and buy some bigger pants for work.

post #143 of 241
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Insidevoice...I'm so sorry you're going through so much :(.  We're here for you if you need to vent.  If you don't want to do medication, is there a way maybe you could do some therapy or something?  I have heard EMDR can be very helpful for flashbacks, healing from trauma, etc.  Hugs to you...

post #144 of 241

EMDR is amazing, and I did have a therapist who was really quite skilled at it when I had recall of the whole event- as it had been suppressed- at least the details- for about a decade.  I'm doing a lot better today than I was yesterday, and have very limited access to mental health services locally.  The clinician I saw has moved away.  I have done a good job of taking care of myself this weekend and plan to over the next weeks as well.

 

A combination of yoga and meditation work wonders for me, so that's the approach we are taking.  Also, my security cameras at home are now set up and that helps with the anxiety. I'm sure it seems like overkill, but crazy neighbor is crazy AND has now established (as of about two hours ago) a pipeline workyard and pipe storage yard approximately 15 feet from my front door. The county atty and local law enforcement wanted a surveilance system since they want to be  able to enforce a restraining order if necessary.

 

*sigh* I've managed (mostly) to let go of some of the anxiety and just remember that, this too, shall pass. 

 

Happily, other than emotions that have been strained, the pregnancy seems to be going well.  :)  I'll celebrate that fact and strive to focus on the positives.

 

 

post #145 of 241

My SIL ended up taking my kids and I spent all afternoon shopping kid free! It was amazing and I spent too much money, don't tell my DH. LOL

post #146 of 241

So, I can't seem to stop eating today.  So far I've eaten a waffle with a veggie sausage, wheat thins with cheese, a bowl of raisin bran cereal and a salad.  And it's only 11am!  

 

Also, I'm continuing to have pain in my pelvic bone area.  The front and the back hurt all day long.  I waddle around and have stopped getting up from the couch once I sit down (unless I have to pee) because it's too painful.  

 

That's all.  Hope you all have a good day!! :)

post #147 of 241
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My complaint is my eating too.  Now I'm up 37 flippin pounds.  Ouch.  I'm gaining more than 2 pounds a week.  I don't feel like I am doing anything different from DS but at this rate I am going to end up gaining 60 pounds by the time I'm done instead of 40.  Sounds a little more daunting to take off.  And I am super swollen. I was getting a little concerned about pre-e especially with a 149 over something blood pressure a few days ago, but then the next time they took it, it was 116 over something.  Usually I run low, like 90 over 60. Can never remember those bottom numbers.  I think the swelling is probably mostly fat.  ugh......

post #148 of 241

Yup Wendiz... I think baby girl is having another growth spurt because I am a freaking bottomless pit. I don't think it would be an exageration to say I could eat a decent sized meal every 90 minutes all day long. I'm just trying to hold back a tad. lol. I really wanted to keep my gain under 30lbs initially... ooh I was so delusional. 

post #149 of 241

My complaint... 26 weeks and STILL on the zofran pump! Hyperemesis is better but not gone. Struggling with horrific reflux. greensad.gif

Also, I'm sooo tired all the time.

Any one else still sick?

post #150 of 241

I've just gotta rant a little...so grumpy and frustrated...

 

Didn't get enough sleep (never do)...pregnancy makes me super tired, plus I'm anemic (which the dr I was going to didn't care about) and it's probably gotten worse. Thought I found a new midwife, but she doesn't do payment plans and we can't scare up $1500 in the next 11 weeks (the insurance covers half of out-of-network). Found another midwife, which will HOPEFULLY work out since she does payment plans, just gotta work our schedule and roommate's schedule with the midwife's to even get a consultation, since we have to use roommate's car. (Ours needs the engine replace -- AGAIN -- and we don't have the money to fix it or get a new one. I hate it.)

 

Plus the roommate keeps complaining about this and that...she's grumpy because she didn't get enough sleep ONE NIGHT...the upstairs neighbors (who have been annoying) have way too loud music (funny though, I couldn't hear it, even though it was supposedly louder than when their stereo was over my bedroom and she could hear it)...or yesterday she "didn't get enough sleep" and complained that people kept waking her up, including me, when...I never get enough sleep and she wakes me up and I have the grace not to complain about it to everyone she knows! :P

 

Normally she's not very irritating to me...she thinks SHE was grumpy yesterday on "too little" sleep...I don't think she knows what "grumpy" or "too little sleep" MEANS. x(

 

Heartburn has been keeping me up at nights too. >< Can't wait to HAVE this baby and let my husband do some taking care of her LOL

post #151 of 241

Here's my list...

 

My feet and hands and vagina are swollen and throbbing in pain and keep getting tingly and falling asleep...and I had no clue my lady parts could fall asleep LOL

 

I have horrible heartburn

 

I'm nauseus and feel like I am on the verge of throwing up most of the time

 

I feel weak and shakey

 

....I wonder if I am getting sick or this is pregnancy stuff...anyone have similar complaints?

 

The good news is my physical therapy is working and my pelvic joints are actually hurting less than before - though still pretty instable.

 

 

post #152 of 241
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My complaint... 26 weeks and STILL on the zofran pump! Hyperemesis is better but not gone. Struggling with horrific reflux. greensad.gif

Also, I'm sooo tired all the time.

Any one else still sick?


Lotus...I'm so sorry you are still sick.  Fortunately, I am not sick anymore (ended at about 22 weeks), but I am still unable to eat meat of any kind without getting sick.  I hope it goes away for you sometime soon!  Hang in there!

 

post #153 of 241
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My complaint... 26 weeks and STILL on the zofran pump! Hyperemesis is better but not gone. Struggling with horrific reflux. greensad.gif

Also, I'm sooo tired all the time.

Any one else still sick?


Oh, I am so sorry to hear that you are still ill.  It is so awful to be sick. 

 

I thought I was one of the last ones to still be suffering, but I think you win this prize.  We should award you something huge for suffering this long.  The "Grand Master of Nausea, Vomiting and all Things Truly Terrible" award goes to lotus1!  

 

I was ill till about 22 weeks as well and it was a long, horrible stretch of time.  Feeling better, eating again, still tired and I did have a random puke in the street the other day for no apparent reason.  Maybe my body just missed the old days of vomiting every couple of hours?    shrug.gif

 

post #154 of 241

Ok, I have to bring this one back to the top... 

 

DH's work may be taking him away from mid November through early January.  He 'probably' can't get out of it- well, he might be able to, but it would be a HUGE career misstep. I am trying to be positive and see the big picture, but right now, I am really upset at what this is likely to mean for me (I know- it's selfish and terrible and all that, but UGH!)  

 

So, I'm having a 'how do I juggle three kids and a newborn all alone?' panic attack.  Am very sad. 

post #155 of 241

*hugs* It's hard to reframe that time period without your SO in it. 

 

DH and I had a convo today about what is going to happen when I go into labor. He's in between jobs right now, but very likely will be working as a paramedic out of town by December. He was basically saying that there's a good chance that if I call and say "I'm in labor", he might not be able to leave until the end of his shift (ie potentially a 12 hour shift once you count in the drive). I said I think he's underestimating the power of the words "Can someone come in and cover my shift, my wife is in labor", but he thinks I'm being too hopeful. So I basically have to consider the fact that I could be laboring alone during early labor. I do have a doula, but I was hoping not to have to call her until labor really got going and I -needed- her there. 

 

Now, that seems small in comparison to not having him for weeks/months at a time. Do you have any good friends/family in the area that will be able to act as somewhat of a postpartum doula for you? I'm lucky that my MIL literally lives 2 blocks from our house, and only works one day a week (plus a ton of babysitting for her other grandchildren). So as much as I would rather not have her coming over all the time, it's very reassuring to know that if DH is gone for long shifts out of town, she can come over for me if I need, or run and do a quick grocery shop type thing. It's not my ideal, but I guess it's all about compromise. 

post #156 of 241

My parents would be able to watch the kids, and I'll probably do that.  I'm just saddened that he'll probably miss the birth and first weeks.  I just have to deal- it's not his fault, and in the best interest of the family as a whole, it is the way things needs to be I suppose. 

 

I just don't particularly WANT things to play out that way, but if they do, I'll deal. 

post #157 of 241
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That really sucks insidevoice.  I hope it works itself out somehow.  I'd be stressed too :(. 

 

I've been in the hospital for over a week after going into preterm labor.  Basically my cervix is paper thin and I was contracting every two minutes. They haven't checked it in over a week now because anything could set me off to go into labor again, so here I wait on strict bedrest.  I obviously don't want to have a baby in the NICU but I am totally devestated by being separated from DS.  It is killing me to have him crying and begging me to come home, and he just doesn't understand why I can't.  If any other hospital bedrest mamas have ideas on how to make it easier on him, I'd appreciate it.  This really sucks.  I am so concerned about the meds they had to use to stop labor and that I am still on too.  It seems like it really is necessary and better than having a baby this early, but it is hard to know.  Looks like I will not be going home until baby comes or 35ish weeks....   On a happier note, maybe, I have lost four pounds since I have been here since the food sucks and I've been eating for two instead of eating for like 10.  It is probably good because I was up almost 40 pounds and I am really short and have a small frame. 

post #158 of 241
*hugs* APToddlerMama!! I'm sorry not to have any suggestions about how to help your DS - I'm sure others will chime in. Just couldn't read and not send you a hug!

And *hugs* for insidevoice too... I would have a hard time thinking about/looking forward to having my DH away during that time period too, even knowing it was best long term for the whole family. I hope the timing works out that he can be home when baby is born AND still be able to take the career steps needed!
post #159 of 241
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That really sucks insidevoice.  I hope it works itself out somehow.  I'd be stressed too :(. 

 

I've been in the hospital for over a week after going into preterm labor.  Basically my cervix is paper thin and I was contracting every two minutes. They haven't checked it in over a week now because anything could set me off to go into labor again, so here I wait on strict bedrest.  I obviously don't want to have a baby in the NICU but I am totally devestated by being separated from DS.  It is killing me to have him crying and begging me to come home, and he just doesn't understand why I can't.  If any other hospital bedrest mamas have ideas on how to make it easier on him, I'd appreciate it.  This really sucks.  I am so concerned about the meds they had to use to stop labor and that I am still on too.  It seems like it really is necessary and better than having a baby this early, but it is hard to know.  Looks like I will not be going home until baby comes or 35ish weeks....   On a happier note, maybe, I have lost four pounds since I have been here since the food sucks and I've been eating for two instead of eating for like 10.  It is probably good because I was up almost 40 pounds and I am really short and have a small frame. 


Oh gosh- I'd been wondering if something was up since you have been among the missing. :(  

 

With my 3 year old I was in the hospital for a few weeks throughout the pregnancy (PPROM/ PTL) but he did stay put.  I have a lot of questions about the impact all of that had on him as he did also have developmental delays, but he's currently 38 months old and sitting on the floor behind me sounding out words with Super Why on PBS, and has actually begun speaking in sentences!  I think there was some impact from the meds and the steroids, as well as simply from the complications of the pregnancy, but he's catching up beautifully now.  In the grand scheme of things, they helped to bring him into the family safe and whole. 

 

The hospital got annoyed with me for not eating enough when I was there on bedrest.  They finally gave in and let me order meals from their 'sides' menu most of the time.  So I arranged for things like yogurt and granola instead of whatever powdered eggs they offered for breakfast.  My husband also knew to bring me something yummy whenever he came to visit.  Even a sandwich from home was a treat at that point. 

 

To help kids adjust, there's not a lot you can do other than keeping lines of communication open and offering a lot of reassurance.  Your husband has to carry the weight of that for now- making sure things are still fun and exciting and reassuring him.  Maybe making a calendar for how long you have been there and if you have a kid-friendly digital camera letting him share lots of pictures from his day can help him still feel like you are involved.  I also liked to leave 'to do' lists for my daughter (she was a little older when I was in the hospital though, so she could read them.)  I would leave maybe one or two 'chores' and then some fun task for the day- 'go for a nature walk and make a collage'  'go to the pool and draw a picture of what you did there today'. Somehow, she felt more secure when she had tasks to do that I had assigned. 

 

 

 

As for me, I'm doing a little better with everything.  I don't always cope with being blindsided as well as I would like to so I try to allow myself a couple days to cope with things then I start planning.  I think that if things go forward as they are shaping up, we will simply delay our relocation until after the holidays and I will stay here where my family is so I have really great support for those first weeks.  It means reframing the picture I had in my mind, but if I do that I will ask my mom to take December away from work (she has several months of accrued leave) which would be good for her as well as for me in terms of ensuring support.  I'll figure it out over the next couple weeks.

 

post #160 of 241

I came here all ready to complain about the nasty, achy cold that knocked me out for a few days, but I'm just completely bowled over by the much greater woes you all have! My goodness! Such sympathy I have for you all with missing partners and hospital stays and sad children. Sending lots of love your way!

 

We've all been chatting for so long now, I feel like we could build some happy real-life relationships, and it's hard not to wish we all lived near one another to share hugs and meal-making and childcare and LOVE when everything is tough!

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