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post #21 of 241

Ok, so far it's fixed (temporarily) I paid them the money AGAIN and they 'will have accounting fix it'.

 

Grr.  When pigs fly.  But at least it's fixed for the moment.  I just don't deal with stress well.  And I had to drive 100 miles round trip to show them receipts of the amts paid all along and the woman at the office had the audacity to say, "Oh, it looks like there may have been a mistake in our accounting department."  I think my biggest frustration is that it's one thing to deal with things like this when you are financially in a position to cope, but I know it's happening to other people too, and I know it isn't possible for *everyone* to just come up with several hundred dollars at the drop of a hat to buy time for the company in error to look through their books and fix things. Makes me angry that there really is no recourse for people without a savings account or enough save themselves from being taken advantage of.  I feel lucky that we can, but what about people who just plain can't?  Do they have to do without while a company takes however long to solve THEIR error? 

Much anger at a broken system. 

 

Anyway.  I actually let the kids pick out really cruddy frozen dinner snacks for a treat and took them out to a park and when the boys fell asleep in the car, I parked in the shade near the river so DD and I could look for neat rocks while the boys napped, so we made a nice afternoon out of a stressful day.  

 

I want my usual emotional  resilience back. 

 

 

Mummoth, I am amazed at your patience with the inlaws.  It's amazing that you facilitate that relationship as well as you do, because it's something I would struggle with.  As much as I am boggled that DD's father doesn't want to be involved with her, I also respect how much easier it makes our lives now.  He had no living family, so I don't have to juggle nearly as much as you do in terms of keeping your family going. 

post #22 of 241
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I am glad it worked out insidevoice!  That is pretty sucky having to drive that far though...that is a lot of gas and time. 

 

post #23 of 241

Oh, I'm glad it's sort of resolved and you made the best of the day!

 

I almost *only* have to deal with the ex in-laws. XH has access by email and phone, which he doesn't exercise... which takes supervised visitation completely off the table. If he ever tries,he'll have to answer in court as to why he hasn't taken advantage of that, and why he wouldn't participate in a court ordered report (a counselor would have interviewed him, me, and the kids and make a recommendation on how much access would be appropriate) DH wants to adopt the kids, and I emailed XH about it about a year ago... his response was "I have no comment at this time. I need to consult legal advise when I am able." In a way, we're lucky... my kids don't have to feel like they are betraying anyone by liking DH. Grandparents don't have the same rights as a parent does, so as long as I make the kids reasonably available to them (free babysitting?? hell yeah!!) they don't have any recourse. However, I reserve the right to complain if I get a threatening lawyer-court-court email in the next day or so!

post #24 of 241

I just need to complain about the HEAT!!!

I can't wait for end of september beginning october!

 

I had to walk in 111 degrees the other day to pick up my son from school, walk home and we both were just exhausted when we got home!

 

This heat and being pregnant is HORRIBLE!

 

post #25 of 241
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I almost *only* have to deal with the ex in-laws. XH has access by email and phone, which he doesn't exercise... which takes supervised visitation completely off the table. If he ever tries,he'll have to answer in court as to why he hasn't taken advantage of that, and why he wouldn't participate in a court ordered report (a counselor would have interviewed him, me, and the kids and make a recommendation on how much access would be appropriate) DH wants to adopt the kids, and I emailed XH about it about a year ago... his response was "I have no comment at this time. I need to consult legal advise when I am able." In a way, we're lucky... my kids don't have to feel like they are betraying anyone by liking DH. Grandparents don't have the same rights as a parent does, so as long as I make the kids reasonably available to them (free babysitting?? hell yeah!!) they don't have any recourse. However, I reserve the right to complain if I get a threatening lawyer-court-court email in the next day or so!


That's sort of lucky of you... my ex-MIL is funding my ex-H in attempting to get sole custody.. now she's been writing me horrible emails. Still.. my ex and his family are my only complaints.

 

post #26 of 241

I'm going to go ahead and complain about the heat, too.  Not only does it feel like I'm ON FIRE when I'm out in the sun, but afterward it wipes me out!  We went to the Fair this past week and I could barely hold a conversation later that evening because I was so drained from the sun.  I am definitely ready for some Fall weather around here!! cold.gif

post #27 of 241

I am SO totally ready for Fall too!! I HATE the heat. It makes me sick. I can't walk around in it, it was really really hard when I had to ride in my husband's a/c-less car. It would take up to two hours for me to recover after a half an hour drive!

post #28 of 241

Ouch!  I think I must have overdone it this weekend.  You know- actually standing up and cooking and trying to clean my floors. *sigh*  I was quite well-behaved about it all but I'm having horrible cramping today that is a belt from my lower back all the way down my thighs and wrapping around.  *sigh*

 

I'll up the water and hope it settles down.  At this point it's more like menstrual cramping than anything else- not at all BH like, but very much early labor like. Coupled with a very vivid dream about labor/delivery last night though, I'm paying attention.  I put in a call to the OB, but I'm hoping to avoid having to take a trip in to see him as there's really nothing he can do at this point and the drive in is more demand than I want to place on my body today.  Hopefully a couple days of more strict bedrest instead of modified bedrest will (hopefully) settle things down. 

post #29 of 241

One word: HEARTBURN!!!

post #30 of 241

I am really relieved that I am not the only one experiencing all of these symptoms!!  I don't remember being so tired and achy with my first one.  It's amazing how you forgot all of these things and I've been looking back on my pregnancy as a wonderful, enjoyable time all of these years.  :)  I was beginning to think that I just have a defective body and complain too much, but you all seem to be feeling a lot like me too.  

 

This thread is great! :)

post #31 of 241

UGH! The heat is horrible... and then I'm having the issue of not eating enough so I feel like crap. Boo.

post #32 of 241
Thread Starter 

How are you doing insidevoice?

 

I am also feeling like my body is defective.  I am so big and I cannot breaaaaaaaathe after I eat. I seriously look 9 months pregnant and there is just no room in there already.  I am going to my OB later today and really wigged out and fearful that she is going to try to touch my cervix when she does the FFN test even though I am going to tell her not to :(. 

post #33 of 241

I'm having a very lazy day.  Dinner is only going to be cold sandwiches and a pasta salad I can toss together in about 10 minutes.  The water wasn't helping much, but I drank a BIG bottle of gatorade and that seems to have helped some.  

 

Ugh, I'm feeling grateful that I haven't hit the 'big and uncomfortable' point yet.  I hope your appointment goes well later today! 

post #34 of 241
Thread Starter 

I'm glad the gatorade helped a little insidevoice.  My appointment went well.  OB kept her fingers out of my vagina and FFN was negative.  Yipeeeeee!  So much for complaining today ;).  I am sure I will be back to complain tomorrow!

post #35 of 241

insidevoice-- I lived on gatorade during my MS weeks. Even when I didn't feel like drinking it, I could tell after even 1/3 of a bottle that it was helping. 

post #36 of 241
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My appointment went well.  OB kept her fingers out of my vagina and FFN was negative.  Yipeeeeee!  So much for complaining today ;).  I am sure I will be back to complain tomorrow!



Woohoo!  I am, however, obligated that this may be the most amusing sentence phrasing of the day. :)

 

post #37 of 241
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insidevoice-- I lived on gatorade during my MS weeks. Even when I didn't feel like drinking it, I could tell after even 1/3 of a bottle that it was helping. 



It's kind of amazing.  I don't drink it routinely, but it has been helping a lot. We are having a heat wave so maybe I'm not tolerating it as well as I would like to think. 

post #38 of 241
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Woohoo!  I am, however, obligated that this may be the most amusing sentence phrasing of the day. :)



Lol!!

 

post #39 of 241

I have pretty much the worst sunburn of my life because my brilliant pregnant self forgot about sunscreen at the water park yesterday, where we spent seven hours. We didn't remember until i was too late because the water was nice and cold. So we're housebound today while we heal, and DS is grumpy! 

post #40 of 241

Mummoth - use vinegar to take the heat out of your burn and it'll tan/ not peel. Soak washcloths, put on the burn, when the cloths heat up, rinse in vinegar and repeat until the burn isn't fevery to the touch.

and PS sunscreens are not necc good for you - I encourage everyone to do some research on the ingredients!

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