This is where we are too. I feel kinda stuck. My middle sister lives with her MIL who clearly has some undiagnosed mental illness, and still wants to stay out partying until 2am(even when she agreed to be back at 10.) She also spanks and is sometimes just mean to her kids.
Youngest sister is very responsible and level headed, but lives at home and is just starting college(In a few years, she might be the best choice)
Youngest, my brother, now 21 dropped out of school at 15 and hasn't had a steady job.
Option 2. Good friends of ours. I'm not sure how much of a support system they would have. Her parents live nearby, but her father made/makes comments about her weight, as in "Do you REALLY think you should be eating that?"
DH and I were recently discussing option 3. My aunt and uncle. They wouldn't spank, mock or belittle a child. Their kids seemed kind or spoiled when we were kids but they all grew up to be decent people. They live about 8hrs away from my family. My DH is hesitant because he wants to get to know them better. So far they seem like the best choice, at least for now.
Sorry, correction. DH misunderstood my question regarding my aunt and uncle(He thought I was asking if he thought they had Aspergers or not). He agrees they would be a good choice.
Edited for yet another correction.
Edited by Abvnx - 8/19/11 at 9:54am