My first and only daughter is about to turn 8 months. This morning, DH told me that he wants to take her to a birthday party this weekend so she can meet a bunch of people. I have a function that day and can't go with them. I don't know any of the people who will be at this party.
My first gut reaction is "No! You can't take her!" I can't put my finger on why I don't want her to go and I can't explain to DH why it makes me so uncomfortable. This has happened in the past when he's wanted to take her to meet people without me and it usually leads to an argument. "What's he big deal?" he says.
Is it irrational for me to cringe at the idea of strangers handling my baby? I know DH thinks that the more exposed she is to strangers, the more comfortable she'll be around people in the long run. I don't know if this is true and prefer for her to spend her time with people who are going to be fixtures in her life (family and good friends) rather than a bunch of random albeit friendly people. I know I should be happy that he wants to show her off and it'll only be for a couple of hours, but it still really rankles me.
Am I way out of line here? How do I explain this to DH in a way that doesn't make me sound ridiculous? Is it true that being around strangers a lot is good for her social development?
Any suggestions, advice, reassurance or kicks in the pants would be greatly appreciated...