Back in April my 6 yo old (who has just been nursing a little in the morning for quite a while) had some talks about finishing weaning. What came out of it is that he decided to stop when he turned 6 1/2. That date is coming up in a few weeks. He is still good with it, so I think it is really going to happen. Clearly he is ready--he usually nurses less than a minute now. He is in a lovey stage right now, so I'm so glad there will be lots of other snuggly ways for us to be together.
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A couple things on my mind about it, I'd love to get some ideas about.
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One is that, while I think he is absolutely ready for this and the way he chose was lovely, I am feeling sad. Partly because I am a sentimental person. Partly because I'd hoped to have a second child and it hasn't been working out (miscarriages). Now I'm 44 and I don't know if I'll ever have a second child or if I'll ever nurse again, so that makes it extra sad and uncertain. Maybe it is just a matter of letting myself grieve this. Though I share a lot with my son I don't want to expose him to my grief about it much, because I want him to have confidence about this step for him. So anyway, any suggestions would be appreciated. I think just writing about it (that came with some tears) helped.
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The other thing is that I want to mark the occasion with him. We already made some art and words about the subject back when we set the date. I'd like to take him to the beach that day, a place we both love and talk about it a little. It seems like it would be nice to give him something. I've been feeling a lot of pressure about it. Maybe we'll just find something at the beach and decorate it. That just came to me. Because he's a boy a pendant doesn't work so well, but something about that size. Any ideas on that would be appreciated, too.
