My 8 YO DD will get her own snacks, including things that need toasting or microwaving. Both she and 11 you DS generally are "free snacking" during the day and don't even ask for food help. She can certainly get out her own ice cream (her favorite snack)! She can use the stove and oven with supervision.
On a regular basis she gets herself ready for bed with multiple reminders/checklist (she has ADHD and by bedtime her meds have worn off and she can't remember from one minute to the next what she's supposed to be doing). We still read to both kids before bed and DD still likes to snuggle until almost asleep. However, she went to sleep away camp for the first time this summer and was completely "bed time" independent!
She walks to friends in the neighborhood (about a block) now and will start walking 5 blocks home from school tomorrow. Well, I'll probably go and walk with her tomorrow but after that I expect her to do it on her own.
Clean up without being asked? There are kids that do that? Where do I get one???? Seriously, this child will trip over things for weeks without picking them up. She cannot/will not remember to put her food trash in the garbage and her dirty dishes near the sink. Its probably my biggest pet peeve with her at the moment.