DD (5) and I are locked in battle. The situation is that her grandmother (my MIL) called to talk to her about how her first day of kindergarten went yesterday. The first time MIL called DD was reading and whined about just wanting to read her book. As the baby was screaming and I about killed myself tripping over toys, I choose to just let MIL off the phone with the excuse that DD had to use the bathroom. Afterwards, I explained to DD about how nice it was the MIL cared enough to want to talk with her and that even though it wasn't the most convenient for DD, the polite and nice thing to do was to talk to MIL for a minute and then go back to reading her book.
Fast forward several hours to when MIL calls back. I remind DD about how nice it is MIL called and that the nice thing to do is to talk on the phone for just a few minutes. She agrees until I answer the phone and then she runs into her room and slams the door. I extract her, she says she will not talk to MIL and starts to pout. At this point I'm just trying to avoid a screaming temper tantrum for MIL to hear over the phone and bribe her with chocolate ice cream. She agrees until I ask her to take some deep breaths with me so she doesn't sound so much like she's about to cry. Start temper tantrum, end my patience with the matter, baby starts screaming again and I get off the phone with MIL saying that now isn't a good time.
Right now she's raging in her room (which just about sends me through the roof when she's in her room screaming about how mean I am and how upset she is).
I don't think its unreasonable for her to take two minutes of her time to talk with her grandmother when her grandmother calls to talk with her. I do understand not wanting to do it, but as far as I see it, sometimes you gotta do it even though you don't like it. Its the polite thing to do. Its the nice thing to do. Is she too young to understand this concept?
For background information, MIL has called to talk with her maybe once or twice before so this is basically the first time as far as DD is concerned. DD and MIL get along ok, but MIL isn't very involved. Its just her personality, she's a very monotone person. She doesn't show a lot of emotion, she doesn't get down on DD's level and she doesn't relate well to other people esp children. So its not like MIL is DD's favorite person or even someone she's excited to talk to.
I am afraid that I'm expecting too much of DD and that I just get carried away in some situations like this. (I posted a few weeks ago about DD not apologizing after she accidently hit someone. Same kind of situation, knee jerk "this is how you act" battle.)