Here's the situation:
The mother of the boy works for my mom. My mom and her have a professional, but strained relationship. Mainly because this woman is very emotionally unstable and her breakdowns and delusions affect the quality of her work. She is very isolated in this country. She is an immigrant from eastern Europe, her husband is still there, and she is taking care of her father who has terminal cancer. I have met her several times and her child once when he was an infant. She is almost 42, and was 40 when she had her son. She aborted a baby Previously when testing revealed that it could have a very slight learning disability. She had said," I don't want to be the only mother whose child doesn't go to college." With this child, she has been obsessive in regards to his intelligence. She "trained" him with flashcards, videos, etc since the day he was born to be a "genius". When she noticed that he wasn't rolling over "on time", she consulted with a European neurologist through Skype, and has been injecting her son with some kind of supplement he prescribed since then. To "improve his brain function". So yes, she is as crazy as she sounds....
Recently she has mentioned to everyone in my mom's research lab that her son has been banging his head on the floor endlessly, to the point where he bruises and hurts his forehead. She thinks it is behavioral though, and she said she just walks away and lets her father watch him so he doesnt think she is reacting to his behavior. She has also said that he stacks and arranges toys, and that when there is a lot of sound he SCREAMS. Not cries, but screams.
My mom told me all of this yesterday, but she didn't know enough to know it could be ASD until I told her those were likely signs. But she is not in a position to talk to this woman about it. And I kind of feel like neither am I.... But this woman, aside from being kind of unstable and eccentric, is pretty much alone. If no one says anything, what if her son doesn't get the help and intervention he needs?
What would you do?