Stressing out with baby mania... + I have a question! :(

[morganxobrooks]

So, I'm freaking out a little bit. I am married to a wonderful man named Joey, with a 10 year old little girl. We were both previously married, I was pregnant last year and lost the baby...and he has his little girl. So, we're obviously both capable. But, I'm getting a little baby crazy! I tried with my ex husband for about 8 months with no luck, then I got pregnant and lost the baby at 9 weeks. And, my new husband and I have been married a few months now. We've been trying once or twice a day for a baby, I've been watching my diet, cutting out caffeine, trying not to stress.... but nothing has been working. I've wanted to be a mom for so long that I wanted to speed up the process, so I went to my obgyn/fertility specialist. I do have mild endometriosis, so I went to see if there was anything she could do to help. She did a pelvic ultrasound and saw a follicle (I think that's what its called) that was like 20mm. I think that's what she said? Anyway, she gave me the HCG trigger shot to induce ovulation. She said to have sex the day of and after, and my chances of pregnancy would be good. We had sex about five times in that two day window, and I had my legs and butt propped up like 20 minutes afterward...haha, I heard it could work! :p And to take a pregnancy test at home in about 2 weeks. Well...it's been a few days, and I've been researching the shot online and looking at success stories. And, my hope is going down the drain! It says on most websites, the chances are 15% ! I'm like, she said my chances were great and is THAT great? I need some hope, encouragement, or some success stories!

I see babies everywhere I go! I'm reading all the baby books, doing everything right, praying all the time...I just want a baby so bad! I know I'm not the only woman out here who feels tired of trying. I need some support. All of my friends have children, my best friend is pregnant...they don't understand. They just keep telling me to not think about it, and it will happen! How do I NOT think about it? It just pisses me off so bad when people say, just don't think about it, stop trying and you'll get pregnant. They've obviously never had any difficulty with pregnancy. I see so many bad parents out here, it's hard to understand why so many people that could be wonderful parents don't get the same opportunity!

Am I the only one feeling like this? :(

[hippiemombian]

Okay, this might sound stupid and but are you tracking your ovulation? Are you using OPK's? IMO having sex 5 times in the two days you were suppose to is too much. In theory more is better, but it isn't. Everytime he ejaculates he is lowering his sperm count, it needs time to build back up. Sperm can live in the body for days so if it were me I would do it that night and wait until the following night to do it again.

[Jaimee]

As hippiemombian mentioned having sex more than once a day does NOT double or triple or quintuple your chances.  Once a day is sufficient, and usually considered the best.  If you at all suspect a low sperm count, DTD every 36-48 hours instead.  But, sperm was obviously present at the time that ovulation was supposed to occur, so there is no reason to suspect that your chances of pregnancy are not good.  There is always a chance of pregnancy when you have unprotected sex around the time of ovulation.  The question is, did you actually ovulate within that two day window?  And keep in mind when you're reading statistics about reproductive technology that you're dealing with a population of women that are experiencing a wide variety of infertility issues (or in the case of this shot in particular, AI/IUI for other reasons- which has a lower rate of success than intercourse).  Most of these issues will not be the same as your issues so your chances of success with the shot may be much higher.  You don't really know.

Tracking fertility signs like your cervical fluid and basal body temperature will tell you when you are fertile, when you ovulate, how long your luteal phase is, when is a good time to test, if you're pregnant, when to expect AF, and if there is anything of concern happening with your cycle.  I think I responded to one of your earlier posts and mentioned charting, so if you're interested in starting, just post again for more information!

So did you notice fertile cervical fluid around the time of the shot?  Creamy or eggwhite in consistency?  Did it dry up the day or two after the shot?  If so, how many days has it been since it dried up?  How many days since the shot?  Some women get accurate results on HPT's as early as 8 or 9 DPO, but most of us have to wait longer, more like 12-14 DPO for accurate results.  Be sure to pick up a pink dye test that has an hCG sensitivity of 25 like a First Response Early Response, dollar store test, most generic drug store tests, Answer strips, etc.  Good luck!

[morganxobrooks]

Hi, ladies! Thanks so much for your replies! I totally agree with the fact that alot of the statistics online are for women dealing with infertility issues, and that makes me feel much better. I did have alot of little, twingy cramps about two days after the shot...and milky discharge. I definitely ovulated! :) It's been about five days since the shot, and I've had a lot of symptoms. I've been having nausea constantly, breast swelling and tenderness, mood swings, tiredness, cramps and just feeling like I could definitely be pregnant. I keep having baby dreams! I'm not trying to get too excited and get my hopes up, but I am excited. My doctor said she thinks my chances are good with this shot so I'm just praying it will work. I guess it threw me off reading online that the shot is 25% effective. But, if my hubby and I are both really fertile, maybe my chances are higher? I can take my pregnancy test in 1 week and 5 days! (But who's counting?!) And I'm just praying that it will be positive. My husband and I are so anxious waiting. I'm trying to keep myself busy, but it's so tough. Anyone else absolutely hate not knowing if you're pregnant or not? Wish me luck, and baby dust! And good luck to all you ladies in my same situation!