Hi just wondering if there are any others due in November with high risk pregnancies?
Last year my son was stillborn in May at 23weeks, the initial autopsy report showed no reason which we'd been told to expect as often no reason is found. SO we were told it was just a horrible, random thing and no reason to expect it to happen again. I then had a miscarriage in September at 8weeks (on the due date of my stillborn son). This pregnancy I was put under the high risk specialist as a precaution to closely monitor this pregnancy due to my history.
We'd just finally started to let ourselves get excited once we hit 24 weeks and this little rainbow has been measuring on for dates (our stillborn son was small for dates), then a week later I got a call about a final autopsy report. I've spent several days on the phone chasing it up with the hospital I birthed my son in and the hospital his autopsy was done at and finally was able to speak to the dr that did his autopsy. Seems a copy of the final report was sent to the hospital I'm at for antenatal care but somehow got lost on the way. Turns out that they DO know the reason my son died. This alone was a shock and a lot to process. It was an issue with the placenta and cord caused by the mothers (so mine) body. Apparently this issue has a very high chance of recurring.
In the midst of all this I had another unexplained bleed at 25 weeks (had one at 16 weeks too). The doctor that did the autopsy urged that it is very important I see the high risk specialist again ASAP with this new info as the baby I'm carrying could be at risk. I'm 26weeks along today and have an appointment at the hospital on Tuesday. I'm so desperate to get to 28 weeks so that if the placenta starts to fail him they can get him out before it's too late and he'll have a good chance.
Just wondering how others with high risk pregnancies cope with the fears. Do you feel able to bond with you baby? Have you prepared anything or purchased anything for the baby or are you holding off?
I've been doing things I regretted not doing with the baby I lost - singing to him, organising photos of me looking pregnant etc. I worry about my children, we waited till 20 weeks to tell them about this pregnancy because losing their little brother last year hit them hard, they are so excited now I just couldn't see them go through that again. We just found out my brother and his wife are 12 weeks along and they are so blissfully happy it's hard not to feel jealous when at 26 weeks we are still in fear and waiting to see if we get to keep this baby. And through all of this everyone tells me the best thing I can do for this baby is to not stress!! How do I do that!?