Yesterday, DH and I (and my 10 month old DS) decided to come over to his best friend's house for a visit. He and his girlfriend have a 18 month old son who is a little on the wild side and doesn't ever slow down. Anyways, these two also live with DH's half sister and her fiance and she is pregnant at the moment but she will of course have another kid around the house. She ALSO babysits her best friend's 2 y/o son for 12 hours of the day who also doesn't slow down. These two kids are all over the house, screaming, kicking each other, watching tv, terrorizing the cats... all that good stuff. lol. DH's 15 y/o niece come over time to time and watches/play with them. So let me recap here who lives here: DH's pregnant sister and her fiance, DH's best friend and his girlfriend and their son, and the 2 y/o who his sister babysits everyday, and sometimes DH's 15 y/o niece. It's a crazy house! I had a headache when I left.
Anyways, the problem is the cussing. DH's best friend AND his gf cusses constantly. So does his sister's fiance. They get scolded but they don't stop the cussing. It drives me nuts to hear these words. What I consider cussing is things like the f word, the b word, and the s word. That's it. But I hear it every 5-10 minutes. EVEN the kids say it! O_O What do I do here? I was thinking of doing something like if I hear 6 words, I will go home? DH would not like it though.
NEXT problem is they have the tv blaring the whole time. I don't mind the tv sometimes (we don't watch tv at home but if it's on at somebody else's house... I will let him.) but only if there is a kids show or something of the like. But nope. They have MTV channel and the show was Bam's Unholy Reunion or something like that. >_< really?
NEXT is the second hand smoking. They DO smoke outside but I personally believe the smoke lingers onto everyone's clothes and skin and once the child is near you, they can smell it and they will be exposed to second hand smoke. DH still smokes and he has been trying to quit but he has no desire to quit. He has promised me so many times that he will quit... but he doesn't and I don't believe in the promises anymore. :(
NEXT problem is the way they parent. I don't judge on how anybody parents but I don't want my kids exposed to it. The two toddlers were threatened a spanking and a timeout. One didn't listen and finally was given a spanking. I couldn't watch. :( I'm a full believer in not using my hands to hit. What if they were watching my child? Are they going to spank him for not listening?
BUT these people are great friends. They will drop everything to defend you or to be by your side if you get hurt. His sister is most like a sister to me and I actually like hanging with her.
DH and I had talked about this. He thinks I am being too anal about how to raise DS. Unfortunately, his best friend is the only one who has a kid closest to DS's age and lives close to where we live. They are not MY friends because I am unfortunately shy and don't talk much. BUT DH thinks that if it's the only way to get DS to socialize with other kids his age, then that's the way it will be. DH thinks it's exciting with all this commotion at this house. I don't. I like peace, quiet, and no yelling. People make fun of me for being too "Amish" like. How can I compromise??
