My older DS is 26mo and is an avid nurser. He nursed all through my pregnancy, even through the time when I didn't even have any milk at all. I started talking to him about sharing his "nummies" with baby brother about a month before my due date, but he never once bought in to the idea that he would have to share. I tried to at least get him night weaned before baby came with no luck. He would cry hysterically for hours at any time that "nummies" were not available to him, day or night. He also started regressing a little the closer we got to my due date and got to the point where he wouldn't even stay asleep for his naps unless I was in bed with him the whole time and he was able to nurse continually. DH an I tried everything we could think of short of letting him CIO, but he just got more and more attached to mama and his "nummies".
Ok, now I have a 2 1/2 week old baby who, obviously, needs to nurse constantly just to sustain life, but ds1 still considers them HIS nummies and is insanely jealous of the time ds2 spends nursing. I've tried my best to not deny ds1 the opportunity to nurse because I know he needs to keep the connection to me especially while we are going through this transition to a family of four. But I just can't let him nurse 24/7 like he wants to. He keeps demanding to nurse and throwing insane tantrums EVERY time I sit down to nurse ds2. I've told him over and over that he can nurse when baby is done, but he just keeps whining and crying that he wants nummies now.
I've just about had it. I've tried to offer alternatives...snacks, drinks, snuggle time, special toys, tv time, etc, etc, etc...nothing satisfies him unless I let him nurse right then and there. I know he's very young and it's hard to understand why baby needs to nurse first/more often, but I'm almost at the point where I feel like I would be better off just weaning him completely. I really want to be successful at tandem nursing and let both of my boys decide when they're done, but MAN, this is so much harder than I ever expected!
Anyone else BTDT or going through something similar? I really need some advice.