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post #41 of 81

All of us East Coast Mama's ready for the hurricane? I'm actually hoping my birth supplies I ordered come in today or tomorrow! I am having a hospital birth but my last 2 births were so fast I wanted to be prepared in case I end up having no choice but to UC somewhere! I ordered from Confident Beginnings and they have an awesome supply list of affordable birth supplies if anyone is still looking for supplies.

http://www.confidentbeginnings.com/shop/

They also sell a lot of herbs as well and some postpartum and BF supplies too. Anyway just looked up the tracking on that and it should be here today! Yay! Personally Id rather have her at home with DH rather than risk driving in 90mph winds in labor with 2 kids and perhaps deliver on the side of the highway! Not that Im due right now but DD was born at 37 weeks and I will be 37 weeks this weekend...thinking ahead is all! :-)

post #42 of 81
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I don't know if it's the pregnancy monster that's taken me over or what, but I'm getting irritated at people that think they have a "right" to the baby. Nobody has any rights to my baby except me and my husband!

 

My grandma still talks about how when my son was born, and they came to help out for a few days. They assumed that they would be taking care of the baby while I rested, but they barely held him the whole time.

 

My inlaws think they are coming within days of the birth to help with the baby, but we are going to ask them to wait until my husband has to go back to work. I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old who get super wound up when they come to visit and I can't think of anything worse then having two wound up, over-sugared, undisciplined children with a brand new baby. They are great grandparents, but the thought of them being there 'as soon as possible' totally stresses me out. They have always been there really really soon with my other two and all it does in invite more people and more chaos into my house.

 

I got a very very funny look from a friend the other day who was suggesting a girls get together around Christmas time. I said it sounded great but that baby would be coming too. Baby will be 10-12ish weeks old and she assumed I would leave the baby with my husband and a bottle so I could go play for a long evening. I hate leaving my babies and I hate sharing them. My last baby got RSV at 5 weeks from his brother who got it from the same woman's toddler on one of the rare occasions that I decided to leave the house. So, I think I will be even more protective and possessive of this baby. I believe that baby's belong to momma from even before they are born. :)
 

 

post #43 of 81
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Btw...definately a bribe! In case I decide to go the hospital route I will say very clearly: "I'm going to be a crunchy pain in the butt...here's some chocolate as an advanced apology of sorts, now leave me alone, I will call you of I need you!"


I think I might use that. thumb.gif
 

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All of us East Coast Mama's ready for the hurricane?

I'm ready as I'll ever be. 

 

 

My blood sugar went the lowest it has ever gone last night when I woke up at 12:30am.  It was 46.  Eeek!!  I have been feeling the effects from it since I got up until I layed down and rested a bit for an hour or two just now.  That really was not cool and my last blood sugar check before going to bed was good and I wasn't worried.  I don't like waking up with any kind of low blood sugar.  I was so glad to be at my MIL's when it happened.  That was way scary.  Got on-line while I was waiting for it to go back up so I could distract myself without totally freaking out and getting my MIL out of bed to babysit me.  No fun.  I hope it doesn't happen tonight.  I will be doing extra checks tonight right before I go to bed for sure.

post #44 of 81

I know... Dh and the girls have to be at a wedding when the babe will be anywhere from 4-6 weeks old.  IF I go to the wedding I wont actually be able to "attend" since there is a firm "no kids" policy in place for the ceremony and reception (despite dd1 and dd2 being the flower girls lol).  The bride reassured me that she got a sitter so people with children could bring their kiddos (it's a destination wedding that lasts for 3 days).  That's a very sweet gesture, and I'm sure it's going to help other families, and she honestly thinks that it's ok to leave a 5 week old babe with a sitter for a few hours.  Sigh.  If I go I guess I'll just wait outside the ceremony to collect the girls and then take all the kiddos to the hotel room to hang out or something.  I mean really, I doubt the sitter would be thrilled with watching a dozen kiddos ranging from 2-8yo AND a newborn!  And as if a babe that young could go more than a half hour or so without mama in anything short of an emergency.  Which a wedding reception most certainly is not.  LOL

 

I think most of my relatives still don't "get" the AP/NatFam approach to parenting.  Which is fine, it's not the way they were raised or the way they raised their own kiddos, so it's not like this is something they've spent much time thinking about.  But it's hard when their assumptions suddenly get dropped in your hormonal lap... after our first child I basically said "no one, and I mean NO ONE, for the first week and then only people I specifically invite for the next week".  I do ask the grandparents to come to the hospital to meet the babe since it's a more controlled environment (they can't stay!  lol) but once we're home, babe and I are off limits for our babymoon.

 

Oh... does anyone else have a babymoon planned?  I don't go as whole hog as some, but I follow a general "three days in the bed, three days on the bed, three days near the bed" routine with a new babe and I find it to be really relaxing and supportive.  Basically DH does everything during that time frame (wrangles the older kiddos, teaches the homeschool lessons, cooks and cleans and brings me food, etc) and the new babe and I spend the time bonding and snuggling and hanging out.  I do use the computer (a lot) and watch dvds and stuff during that time, but always with the babe in my arms or right next to me and we nap and nurse and recover and listen to music.  And one of the biggest pluses of this is that any company that comes over during that time gets to play downstairs with DH and the bigger kids but the babe and I are off limits.  Since the grandparents meet the babe at the hospital and since we don't invite anyone for that week, it's an easy way to deflect people who assume they can just drop by.

 

post #45 of 81
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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post

I know... Dh and the girls have to be at a wedding when the babe will be anywhere from 4-6 weeks old.  IF I go to the wedding I wont actually be able to "attend" since there is a firm "no kids" policy in place for the ceremony and reception (despite dd1 and dd2 being the flower girls lol).  



Hold on hold on hold on.......So the kids who are IN the wedding aren't invited to the reception?  And a 5 week old "counts" as a "kid"?  WTF??????  I was pretty "firm" with no kids but seriously?  That's utterly CraZy!!!!!

post #46 of 81
Wombatclay I've never heard of a baby moon! How lovely! I love the idea of three days in bed...
Dh will only get a few days off after the birth, but is it ever tradition for dad to stay in bed too? My aunt and sister and friends are going to take care of food and laundry and such. Do you get bored at all? (ok, possibly a ridiculous question but I've never really spent time with a baby!)

On a side note, I woke up with what I think was a ctx, like an intense menstrual cramp with serious tightening, lower back pain, and some stabby sensations in my pelvis. It lasted a good minute and I thought to myself "holy crap...can I handle this?"
Yikes
post #47 of 81

Anyone know any good exercises to turn a transverse baby?  Had an appointment today, and little munchkin has decided to lay sideways in my uterus.  Got another appointment next week to see if we can get him to move back to head down.  He was there once, hopefully he'll get back there.

post #48 of 81

I got some good news at my midwife appointment today! I'm 38 weeks today, and she asked if I wanted to be checked. I was getting the GBS test today, too, so I figured why not. I'm not too excited about that fact that I'm 2cm and 50% effaced (although it's something smile.gif), but she couldn't feel any scar tissue!! I have been super freaked out about it because during my c-section, I had 2 huge cervical lacerations (4cm and 5cm), and I have been worried about not being able to dilate all the way this time. But she said my cervix is smooth all the way around, and she didn't feel any scar tissue at all! Yay!biggrinbounce.gif

post #49 of 81

I'm so glad your cervix is in good shape. thumb.gif How did the lacerations happen? Just curious -- tell me if I am asking for TMI. winky.gif

 

And I would be so happy to be 2cm/50%. Congrats!
 

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I got some good news at my midwife appointment today! I'm 38 weeks today, and she asked if I wanted to be checked. I was getting the GBS test today, too, so I figured why not. I'm not too excited about that fact that I'm 2cm and 50% effaced (although it's something smile.gif), but she couldn't feel any scar tissue!! I have been super freaked out about it because during my c-section, I had 2 huge cervical lacerations (4cm and 5cm), and I have been worried about not being able to dilate all the way this time. But she said my cervix is smooth all the way around, and she didn't feel any scar tissue at all! Yay!biggrinbounce.gif


Val -- I think you should talk to Smurfy. Just PM her (or read her posts in the VBAC/breech threads). She knows a lot about turning a breech -- I am glad you are at least halfway into a good position and not breech!

 

post #50 of 81
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Originally Posted by Ms. B. Sprout View Post

I'm so glad your cervix is in good shape. thumb.gif How did the lacerations happen? Just curious -- tell me if I am asking for TMI. winky.gif

 

And I would be so happy to be 2cm/50%. Congrats!
 


The answer is I don't know. I didn't even find out about it until I got my medical records. Under "complications," the doctor wrote "cervical lacerations." So I looked at the operating report, and it pretty much says 'I started to stitch up the uterus and oh hey, look at this. There's a 4cm extension on one side of the cervix and a 5cm extension on the other side, so I stitched those up, too.'

 

I did push for 3 hours, but my doula said that there was no bleeding at all, and that cervical lacerations bleed a lot, so if it had happened while I was pushing, she would have seen blood. She says it had to have happened during the c-section. 

 

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That came out wrong. I am happy that there's something going on down there, I'm just not getting all "OMG, I'm in labor right now!" because I'm 2cm. wink1.gif

 

post #51 of 81

Oh I hear you about the 2 cm thing -- I figured you had to be pretty happy with it -- I just wanted to chime in that I am jealous! I don't know what I am, and I am a little nervous to find out. upsidedown.gif

 

I was afraid you were going to say it was a surgical incision. I was also at 10 cm when I got cut, and I'm scared that my cervix was cut. My records don't reflect that, fwiw. My MW has broken up cervical scar tissue at multiple births before, and she can do it for me if need be. But it's not pleasant. bigeyes.gif I'm so glad you are in the clear!

post #52 of 81

Are you taking Evening Primrose Oil?

 

I had a conversation with my midwife at my last appointment about breaking up scar tissue if need be. I admit that it didn't sound pleasant, but it couldn't be any worse than a repeat cesarean, right?

post #53 of 81
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I talked my MIL into making my belly cast for me!!!!  Yay!!!  She will do it on 37 weeks 2 days like my last so I can compare.  That is Sunday.  Got the stuff at the craft store today.  Only spent $20.  Yippee!!!  So exciting!!!  Lets see if I make it until then.  lol.gif  That's when my baby shower at church is too.  It was kind of embarrassing that they put it in the bulletin.  I'm like, oh my gosh, everyone in the church is invited.  I hate being the center of attention, but I do love the people at my church, even though I feel bad that I'm not super religious, I just like the community part of it.

 

The nurse that helps me with my insulin pump helped me hopefully get my insulin straightened out so that I don't go low again tonight.  Because baby is taking more from me than my placenta is giving out glucose at this time, I'm actually needing less insulin, it was just coincidence that dh was leaving and gone at the same time. lol.gif  So, that makes me feel better that I'm probably not as stressed as I thought I was.  I'm just stressed about going super low again tonight.  MIL is going to check on me at 2 am and I will take my bg then too.  It does make sense because last time at 37 weeks I started losing weight instead of gaining.

post #54 of 81

Bignerpie - Yay for the good news!

 

Ms. B Sprout - Thanks for the tip, I'll definitely contact Smurfy to see what she suggests.  I found some exercises online last night, and spent a good amount of time with my butt in the air - guess I'll be in that position a lot over the next week!  

 

Cathy - Yay for the belly cast, and good luck with the insulin!

 

Hope everyone has a great weekend!  As I mentioned before, I guess I'll have my butt and/or feet in the air all weekend trying to turn baby, and trying not to get blown away by the hurricane force winds and 10 inches of rain that's called for.  Good times.

post #55 of 81
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Trying not to worry.  Hands are starting to swell more and checked my bp and it was up to 123/76, which is high for me.  Eating everything I can to thwart it.   I'm going to have an egg salad sandwich for dinner and go get more bacon tomorrow for the sodium.  I don't know if it was the bacon or not that got me more close to my normal bp last time.

post #56 of 81

That's really not too bad for your bp.  it might be high for YOU, but it's really not high on the overall scale.  As long as it stays under 140/something it should be alright.  I have days that I'm more swollen than others too.   A lot of it has to do with eating out and humidity for me.  Hang in there sweets!  Rest up and drink up!  I personally wouldn't recommend bacon either.  A good natural salt is good for you, but overly salty foods like that...not so much.  wink1.gif

post #57 of 81
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That's really not too bad for your bp.  it might be high for YOU, but it's really not high on the overall scale.  As long as it stays under 140/something it should be alright.  I have days that I'm more swollen than others too.   A lot of it has to do with eating out and humidity for me.  Hang in there sweets!  Rest up and drink up!  I personally wouldn't recommend bacon either.  A good natural salt is good for you, but overly salty foods like that...not so much.  wink1.gif

Thanks, its just high for me.  I think the bacon did get me to flush out the water.  I usually get the organic stuff, but hoping just eating more eggs will help.
 

 

post #58 of 81

bignerpie, i'm 2 cm as well (and he could feel baby's head.) i'm just glad all these contrax and whatnot are at least doing SOMETHING.

post #59 of 81

i had my first pre-labor contrax last night (after sex!)...just got really crampy...so i got up at 4am and ate and felt better afterwards. :) i had an appt with my midwives this morning and i let them check me - almost 4cm and 70% effaced. i said, "will this baby go as late as DD? she arrived 10 days after the due date..." and the midwife replied, "...no, i really don't think so..." 

i'm crossing my fingers! 

 

otherwise, i sure wish it would cool down here. :( we haven't had a high temp under 92 for weeks and weeks...we have no AC...waaahh. and my best friend is now Pepcid. :( sigh. 

 

 

post #60 of 81

babymoon- lots of cultures have a tradition of "pampering" (or "confining", it depends on how you look at it) a mom and new babe.  Some traditions are very very rigid in what they allow or don't, while others are more relaxed.  Often there is a period of around 40 days (interesting that this number crops up in cultures that are very different/isolated from each other) where mom and babe are treated differently than normal... often they are supposed to remain indoors, or eat only certain types of food, or refrain from certain activities, or whatnot.  And their community more or less supports them (food, house work, etc) in this seclusion.

 

The "three days in the bed, three days on the bed, three days near the bed" is a better fit for most American families than a full on 40 days (there was an article in Mothering about babymoons that used that formula).  Since there really aren't any firm "rules" it can be more or less whatever you like... the goal is to nurture yourself, recover physically and emotionally from the immediate stresses of pregnancy and birth, really get to know your babe, and ensure that breastfeeding is firmly established (if you're breastfeeding).  I generally set up the bed and the table next to it with all sorts of comfy pillows and fun stuff... books (light hearted stuff and books of crafts, arts, organization, waldorf parenting), magazines (like Mothering, Living Crafts, MaryJane's Farm, SageWoman), and my laptop (I don't read the news or anything distressing during this time, but there are SO MANY wonderful and beautiful websites... Magic Onions and SouleMama and Rockin' Granola, Girl Genius and Hathor the Cowgoddess, and Confessions of a Pagan Soccer Mom, and Raising Olives, and...well... all the blogs and sites I never seem to have time to browse).  I also have all my homeopathics and herbal remedies there on the side table, and some soft tissues, since I tend to be pretty emotional.  DH brings me food/drink at regular intervals and does all the housework and older child entertaining so the only time I have to go downstairs is to use the bathroom... and DH holds the babe while I shower and sitz bath and pamper myself during that week.  It's not boring... in fact, it's really relaxing and kind of fun.

 

I think that if I was faced with a more traditional or restrictive babymoon I'd enjoy it less (one of my friends married into a huge Indian family and within their particular group there are a lot of rules about what a new mom can/should do that took her by surprise when her first child was born... some traditions were really nurturing but others really bothered her and she had to "fight" a bit to assert her rights to her own child at times!).  But overall I enjoy it... I usually wear comfy clothes (not jammies, but soft skirts or sweat pants with pretty/comfy nursing tops), create a nest of pillows, nap and nurse and watch the baby.  Then the week is over and reality hits... Dh goes back to work and I'm alone for most of the day with four crazy kiddos, a bunch of animals, and all that!  LOL

 

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Saw the midwife this morning and agreed to a VE (for those who missed my other update, my dad's heart condition is bringing him to the end of his journey and my MIL just got a cancer diagnosis that has her very rattled so while I generally think induction, and especially induction of a VBAC mom, is "not good", my midwives and I are considering an AROM induction if I have a strong Bishop's score).  And kind of like I thought, there is NOTHING going on down there.  LOL  She said barely 1cm and so posterior it was a real challenge to even reach my cervix.  We'll check again next week if I don't go on my own before that... but given that my other kiddos have been born well after 40 weeks I'm not really surprised that at 38 weeks there isn't much happening.

 

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Cathy- hope everything calms down and there are no more medical curveballs in your path.  I bet you'll be able to knock the bp back down with food/drink/rest.

 

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The mold is gone!  And the tile is almost done... we just need to grout it.  So hopefully that will happen tonight and we'll be able to move everything back into the living room tomorrow.  Huzzah!

 

Though my mom was here today and... I'm just dreading leaving the kiddos in her care while I'm at the hospital.  We actually had no contact with her for a few years because she was so erratic with the children.  :(  She is very old school in terms of how she deals with children (a lot of hitting and shaming and the use of really inappropriate ethnic slurs that she considers "cute") and even in the hour or so that she was here she really crossed a lot of lines (called ds by an ethnic slur, when dd2 was crying over a bump she told her to "stop having a fit" and then "ignored" her till she stopped crying and apologized.  Apologized?  For getting a bump and crying?  WTF?).  I'm honestly scared of what she will do when she is unsupervised with the three kiddos for several hours.  This is NOT a worry I need, but there it is.  I'm sort of wondering if I can ask a friend to drop by for a "play date" or something... the real problem is my due date is more or less the first day of school here so while I could certainly have DH call someone if I was laboring during the day, they may not be able to come over, and if they did they probably wouldn't have their kiddo with them.

 

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wedding- I don't mind that the girls wont be at the reception... especially if they'd be the only kiddos!  There will be a cider/donut reception sort of thing prior to the ceremony that everyone (children too) can attend (though that's another issue... it's a destination wedding, but with dd1's celiac we'll have to pack all her food for the weekend since the catering service doesn't offer gluten free meals and we can't be sure we'll be able to pick out safe foods).  But it does make it a bit harder to enjoy the event!

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