How lucky you are to have such amazing and supportive family. People who don't have children may think second or more baby showers are tacky but I think they are totally effective. Why should one baby be celebrated and not the others? You still need things for a new baby!!!! No matter if it's your first or tenth! The need for diapers, wipes, burp cloths, a double stroller, car seat, etc... never changes. Our family wouldn't have a shower for our second and it hurt me alot because it felt like he wasn't wanted. Which some people made it clear that he wasn't! Which was more hurtful than anything. It wasn't that I wanted more things but there were things we needed. When you have your first, people buy frivolous items unregistered for that are un-necessary and NO ONE ever includes a gift receipt so you can get what you need! Some ideas of things we would use with our first changed with our second:: ie-crib use, cloth diapers, breast pump replacement pieces, etc... It's just thoughtful for people to do something. We won't have anything for our third either...family has decided it's still too much burden to think we should be having another child! Unless it was a girl...It's sad! All of my children are a blessing and deserve to be celebrated!! We do register so that we can get the discounts on items we need. Our swing and double stroller were great items we need and some other small things that have come out or that we need to replace--swaddling muslin, baby proofing items, newborn diapers/wipes, etc...Then you get discounts from Target and Babies R Us for 10% off or so. Awesome that your family is so thoughtful and thinks so wonderfully of your growing family!