Want to try again after miscarriage

[ThreeLittleBirds]

We recently miscarried, and the pregnancy was a complete surprise (our DD is only 10 months). I thought perhaps "oh well this is meant to be, wanst a good time to have a baby anyway. We will try when we are ready".

But i want it to be now. We accepted the idea of another baby the day I got that positive pregnancy test...and i want that PREGNANCY BACK DAMMIT!

I mentioned to DH that perhaps we should just play pregnancy roulette again...not really planning, but not really avoiding. Thing is..I started charting. And to be completely honest i know I will try on my fertile days. So its not realy roulette if you are doing it on the days you KNOW you can get pregnant on.

If I had never gotten pregnant i wouldnt even feel this way. I would have waited till next year to talk about getting pregnant ( i would like DD and the next to be 2-21/2 years a part).

But I got a taste of that excitement...the anticipation...thinking of a new little one. I want that back.

Its normal right?

[kittenbritches]

My BFF didn't want kids until she had an oops with her hubby that ended in m/c.  After her pregnancy had ended they decided that they wanted to TTC and a couple of months later they conceived their now 3-yo DD.  If you want it now, I think you should go for it (as long as your DH is on board).

[Jaimee]

I felt exactly the same way when I had my second early m/c.  My spirited, high need dd was 25 months old and I thought all my friends with similar aged kids were crazy for TTC again at that point.  Then I had an oops and a m/c and boy did that do a number on my head.  I freaked out at first and then when I m/c I was sad for a couple of weeks.  I couldn't shake it... until I O'd again.  My hormones had been regulating for quite some time and my LP was not quite fertile yet.  But after that m/c my LP shot up to a fertile length and I could feel it.  I was ready to be pregnant again.  We did the whole not try, not avoid thing the next cycle and didn't conceive.  The following cycle we avoided b/c my SIL was TTC at the same time.   Well, despite avoiding, my SIL and I ended up pregnant on literally the same day.  Meant to be, I guess.  So, yes, totally normal!

[meghanc]

ThreeLittleBirds, we were in the same DDC with our miscarriages--mine was just a couple days after yours. I think it's totally normal--we were quite determined that this would be our last, because we just can't afford to do this again...but here we are, a day after our trip to the ER, trying to figure out how we'll do it again.

Are you planning to wait at all, or are you hoping to dive right back in?

[ThreeLittleBirds]

I have no idea..lol. I just started my Midwifery Apprenticeship , my husband will be getting a new job (software engineer) in D.C which means next June we will be moving. So on one hand we should wait...but on the other I think "well..it takes 9 months anyway!" lol. We shall see. Im leaving it up to DH. Its the best way I can handle it is to just let him decide because im not thinking straight

Originally Posted by meghanc 

ThreeLittleBirds, we were in the same DDC with our miscarriages--mine was just a couple days after yours. I think it's totally normal--we were quite determined that this would be our last, because we just can't afford to do this again...but here we are, a day after our trip to the ER, trying to figure out how we'll do it again.

Are you planning to wait at all, or are you hoping to dive right back in?

[gitanamama]

I definitely share that same ambivalence. My mind says that we're not ready for another one yet, but my body is ready to go! I have a very active and spirited 15 month old that still breastfeeds around the clock, so in terms of energy, there's no way I'm ready to have another baby. But I find myself longing for the experience of pregnancy and birth again. My maternal grandmother had six kids in a span of seven years, so I blame my reproductive haste on genetics! I'm sorry for your pregnancy loss---best of love TTC, if that's what you decide to do.