My oldest boy E stared blankly at the paper today when the class was asked to write a letter to their principal asking three questions. In the hour (not sure if it was a full hour) they were given he ended up not writing a thing. When DH asked him what happened he said he just did not know what to write. The teacher said he did not ask for help.
He does not like talking to people, let alone strangers and with only a week of 2nd grade under his belt the teacher certainly falls into the stranger threshold for him. He socializes almost too well with kids, K-1st were usually 1-2 days in the week getting a warning for joking/playing when they were supposed to be working.
He is reading well, and seems to enjoy it. He loves math. His school work issues tend to revolve around open ended assignments, like the letter. The more parameters he is given the better he seems to do with assignments.
He had problems getting to the bathroom K-1st because he did not want to tell the teachers when he needed to go.
So, I would like some advice on what I can do as a parent to help him be more confident with his new teacher. Just telling him it is okay to talk to her hasn't worked out in the past, we've even role played a little at times with no real results. Any suggestions?
I would also like some advice on building his self confidence in his ability to do open ended things like the letter. His teacher said any three questions would have been fine and I'm sure it was more a way to get them to write than a desire to "grade" their work right or wrong. I don't want him to feel punished with extra work after spending all day in school, however. Any ideas?
I'm not overly worried about him being tested, apart from making sure he doesn't feel singled out. I don't see ADHD as inherently a bad thing, however, I am pretty uncomfortable with the idea that on the second week of school his new teacher is already mentioning it. I'm also concerned that she either didn't notice him (alone of all the kids in the class) not doing his work for such a long time and/or she did notice that his paper was still blank and did not come to him to see if he needed help. Is this reasonable?
TIA for reading this and any advice would be appreciatted.