I am freaking out a little. Our whole extended family lives in the Midwest (we're in NJ). My mother has flown out for my previous births, but she has been unsupportive and unpleasant for this pregnancy, and I don't think it's feasible for her to come for various reasons. She certainly has not volunteered. That leaves:
-My mil, but she can barely walk, so she can't do basic things like pick up ds at the school bus stop or follow toddler dd up the stairs at home
-My sil, but she has no vacation time at her job, so she can't come
-I have a regular college-age babysitter, but she has a full load of classes so isn't really available for extended times during the day (or night)
-I have two fairly close friends nearby, but I feel uncomfortable imposing.
-Friend #1: has kids the same ages as mine, but they go to different schools. She lives about a mile away from me. She has a small car, so my kids wouldn't fit in her car with hers, so I'm not sure how school logistics would work if my kids stay with her. One possibility is she could borrow my car (we are in the process of buying a minivan). My babysitter might be able to help somewhat or pick the kids up from her house.
-Friend #2: lives fairly close to the hospital, but far away from me and in a different school district. I'm not as close friends with her but I know she would help me out in a pinch. It would be difficult for her to manage my kids' school pickups/dropoffs. It would be difficult for my babysitter to get to her house. She does have a big enough car, though.
-Wild card: I have an old friend from high school who I'm still pretty close with. She works from home and doesn't have kids, so she may be able to come and stay for a week and watch my kids in between times they're in school or times my babysitter can come. I haven't asked her.
It is fairly likely I will be induced, so I may have some time to plan....but obviously I could go into labor naturally at any time. The best solution dh and I have come up with so far is to hire a doula, try to patch together a plan with friends/babysitter, and accept that I might be giving birth without dh if he needs to watch the kids. I hate that thought. Feeling so alone right now....wish I had more family support. This stinks!