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post #41 of 53

Linda, thanks for that explanation.  That's a better overview of her system than I've ever read. I go to her web site and get overwhelmed.

 

Dh and I both joke that Ma Ingalls would find some way to use dryer lint.

post #42 of 53
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 I go to her web site and get overwhelmed.

 

 


I think her web site is cluttered. winky.gif

 

I did flylady years ago -- may be about a decade ago -- and it totally changed my life. It helped my marriage. She taught me how to clean house and let go of things I was done with! 

 

BUT, when I look at her site now, I can really see how she is naturally a disorganized person who has troubling letting go of things. There's a lot more on there now than there was back when I was learning the system.

 

post #43 of 53

I need to do the same thing I need to get rid of a lot of stuff I also loved to hoard stuff and I really do need to get out of that habit.

post #44 of 53

I hear you all so much!  We moved into our current house while I was very pregnant and we have NEVER recovered from it (in terms of organization, etc.).  Of course -- I always hold onto too much stuff and leave things around.  What's strange is that I grew up in a very neat house, but I never seemed to be able to learn the organization and cleaning skills that my parents have mastered.

 

However, I did have a breakthrough just last week on this.  My dad was helping us with some yardwork, and after we were done, he got out the hose and washed down all the tools and then put them away.  And I realized that both my husband and I have been thinking of the "job" -- whether its doing the laundry, yard work, repairing things, etc. as just the job -- while the "job" really is both the job and the putting things away afterwards. 

post #45 of 53

 

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the "job" really is both the job and the putting things away afterwards.

 

That's huge!  thumb.gif

 

Laundry doesn't just stop at 'laundering' the clothes, there's the folding and putting away (yuck, detestable).

 

When you mow the lawn you need to sweep the walkway afterwards. And putting the tools away, too.

 

My kids are learning that 'do the dinner dishes' doesn't just mean load the plates and forks into the dishwasher. It also means put the left-overs away, wash the pots and pans, rinse the sink so it isn't layered with food scraps, and for the love of God, wipe down the counters.

 

I'm thinking this is slightly different from what you described, but it's related.

post #46 of 53
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I hear you all so much!  We moved into our current house while I was very pregnant and we have NEVER recovered from it (in terms of organization, etc.).  Of course -- I always hold onto too much stuff and leave things around.  What's strange is that I grew up in a very neat house, but I never seemed to be able to learn the organization and cleaning skills that my parents have mastered.

 

However, I did have a breakthrough just last week on this.  My dad was helping us with some yardwork, and after we were done, he got out the hose and washed down all the tools and then put them away.  And I realized that both my husband and I have been thinking of the "job" -- whether its doing the laundry, yard work, repairing things, etc. as just the job -- while the "job" really is both the job and the putting things away afterwards. 



 



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That's huge!  thumb.gif

 

Laundry doesn't just stop at 'laundering' the clothes, there's the folding and putting away (yuck, detestable).

 

When you mow the lawn you need to sweep the walkway afterwards. And putting the tools away, too.

 

My kids are learning that 'do the dinner dishes' doesn't just mean load the plates and forks into the dishwasher. It also means put the left-overs away, wash the pots and pans, rinse the sink so it isn't layered with food scraps, and for the love of God, wipe down the counters.

 

I'm thinking this is slightly different from what you described, but it's related.

 

It is huge. And in my house I have to also remember and remind DH that dinner cleanup also encompasses wiping the stove top and, wiping down the booster seat or high chair and sweeping the kitchen floor (which usually has food on it by the end of dinner). It's a little more than just washing the dishes, but it's what keeps our kitchen maintained and ready for the next meal.

 

Now I have to train myself that getting out of bed means also making the bed. That's a big one for me.
 

 

post #47 of 53

So proud of you!!!  Go momma!!!  You're inspiring to me. 

post #48 of 53
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It's been a while since I've been able to update this thread, but I have thought about it often, in the past few weeks. Specifially:

 

1. my mil visit went much better than expected (this is HUGE!!!!) The kitchen was decluttered and rearranged, and I moved a bunch of MIL's stuff out. It was wonderful that she had to ask me where things were AND I knew where they were instead of the other way around. She is one of those 'organized hoarders' and it was so infuriating to have to ask here where x y and z was stashed.

 

2. My son fell down and skinned his knee while we were walking with our neighbor. I was able to invite her in. The place was a mess from breakfast, and toys all over; but I still felt comfortable sayinh--hry  this is how we live

post #49 of 53
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sorry, I had a baby crying! I just wanted to quickly comment on something posted above. I really do think that people who keep their homes clean, clean/tidy quite a bit more than they realize. Yes they might only do a big clean once a week (or day, with kids) but I've been suprised at how much energy it takes to keep up the house. I've also watched other poeple who do seem more on top of things, and they put quite a bit of effort, it just seems to come more naturally to them. i'm hoping to pass on those habits to my kids.

post #50 of 53
I agree! I was cooking dinner today... marathon cooking enough for the week b/c my dd's has a crazy after-school schedule these days, and I was thinking this is a lot of work, but it doesn't feel like work. I kind of have it in my head, "Of course I am making dinner. That's what needs to be done." However, not all people do that. So why can I have that attitude about cooking and not cleaning? Cleaning as I go is not a given for me like it is for others. We have to have systems in place to compensate for the fact that I will take ____ dangerous object from my little on and put it up high in some random spot. You just never know where you'll find my scissors, my favorite pen, etc.. Trash is in a cabinet, which is sometimes locked, so I have to have a few set times to throw out the trash which I have set on the counter because i didn't want to take the time to unlock the cabinet. Other people would wash dishes while they cook, not wait until the next morning when they will hopefully have energy.

The times when I have been 100% on top of things were when I was nesting at the end of my pregnancies, and I cleaned ALL DAY even when I had things organized. It's tough to be a grown-up sometimes! :P
post #51 of 53
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 I really do think that people who keep their homes clean, clean/tidy quite a bit more than they realize. Yes they might only do a big clean once a week (or day, with kids) but I've been suprised at how much energy it takes to keep up the house. I've also watched other poeple who do seem more on top of things, and they put quite a bit of effort, it just seems to come more naturally to them. i'm hoping to pass on those habits to my kids.


Yes that is true.... my cleaning habits have changed dramatically since I started doing 'motivated moms' chore lists. And by doing that, it has made me realise it's a constant ongoing process. Now I am basically cleaning every day, but as long as I keep going with doing a bit at a time, it never feels overwhelming.

 

Yes cleaning dishes as you go when cooking certainly makes it easier!

 

post #52 of 53

Ooh, dishes are a success story here. I'm really proud of what I've done. Though honestly it took years!

 

I cook all dinners. And I was doing most of the dinner dishes, dh did it sometimes.  And because I'd be wiped out after dinner I usually left the dishes till the next day. I was getting pretty resentful and tired of how chaotic the kitchen felt.  A couple years ago I started having the kids empty the dishwasher.  Boy do they keep track whose turn it is. smile.gif  It's certainly easier to do dishes when the dishwasher is empty, but still, it was either dh or me doing any dish-washing. Gradually I started having the kids take turns loading the dishwasher after dinner. I let them leave the big pots and pans for me or dh.

 

Now we have a schedule on the fridge and the kids take turns doing all the dinner dishes.  It's fantastic. broc1.gif Dh and I take turns supervising. Last step, they need to not complain when I insist they do dishes immediately after dinner, not hours later when we're all tired and need to go to bed.  And wipe down the counters without being reminded.

 

There are busy nights when we get off track and the dishes don't get done.  But for the most part I come out in the morning to a clear kitchen. It is sooo much less stressful. 

 

 

post #53 of 53

The rest of the home might be chaotic but at least we've got a shared dish-washing routine in place.

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