I was wondering what to expect, if anyone could just share their experience with an older child doing this? I'm wondering if I'll be observing or if he'd be alone? What kinds of tests will they do? Is this an accurate test to determine if he is on the autism spectrum or has ADHD?
My son has hydrocephalus and is pretty much normal functioning, but he has several traits that have made me think and have made more than a couple friends actually ask if he was autistic. I have not done testing yet because basically after spending his first 6 years with specialists and feeling it really didn't help or get us anywhere, I stopped it all after he was dismissed from Speech Therapy when he was 6 because we were homeschooling and it was through the school (I felt it wasn't doing anything, which is why I didn't fight this). I was glad to be free of outsiders and their meetings and shuffling around, which in our case, never seemed to do anything but waste time. (No offense to others' experiences ... this was just our experience). I took a pretty relaxed approach to homeschooling the first couple of years, then we started ramping up but we wasted a lot of time on a math curriculum that did NOT work for my son and have since switched twice more and are now using a program that works for him. His writing skills are behind, as well.
Most things have been a huge struggle academically speaking. He takes piano, for example, and my husband has to help him with all his practicing, and he struggles with some of the concepts (step up/down) and instead seems to just memorize everything. We really don't even KNOW how he does it, because he does use the music, but in his own way.
His social skills are not great. When he was younger, he never played with any children except his two cousins for years and years. Even after 2 years of preschool and many playgroups and playdates. I think he was about 7 before he started to play, and even then, he only played if it was something HE was interested in doing, and things like the other kids' names were things he never cared about. He'd play with a new kid for an hour or something and I'd ask him, "What was his name?" and he'd say he didn't know. He never asks personal questions of kids. I notice this contrast a lot when comparing him to my daughter, who will notice someone's eye color right away and ask their name, compliment their outfit, etc., and she's 3!
Just to throw some other things out, he didn't talk until he was almost 3, he's VERY stubborn (he does this martyr thing where if something isn't just so, then he won't have it at ALL), and one thing I've noticed is he gets almost shy using people's names in the first person - even MINE and his dad and sister! He'll say, "Is dad at work?" But he won't say, "Hey, Dad, what are you doing?" He'll just say, "What are you doing?"
Anyway... He's a good kid but I know he at the very least has ADHD. I am afraid that since we homeschool, any academic issues might be blamed on me and not realized to be a symptom - that's why I'm wondering how they do these tests and how do they tell the difference? I worry that if the doctor has a bias against homeschooling that he won't get a fair evaluation.
Sorry for the very jumbled post - just throwing some things out and hoping for some responses that are helpful :)
Thanks!









