Weekly chat Aug 26-Sept 2 - Page 2

[Liss86]

Big hugs to you all and hope everyone survived Irene.

I second yay for hear beats! I am waiting for my next apt. With midwives in sept. I will be 11 weeks. Renting a heart monitor is tempting but if I couldn't hear I would fret so waiting it is for me.

Judy, what a super cute outfit! Very inspiring. I am hoping to take a class to learn how to put my serger to better use in sept. But that involves an hour commute to the city. Where did you learn how to do that? Very cool. I wish we learned more sewing and knitting stuff in school(girls and boys).

Thursday, sorry to hear about your mom. Big big hugs!***heads up for mamas unable to read about the f**d word...skip this part*** About diff symptoms I feel this way too. With dd I was so sick I slept in front of the toilet and crawled to the bed(which felt like running a marathon) when I could muster up the strength. The thought of greens and meat and everything made me repulsed. I lost like 10-15 pounds. This baby I feel queasy but only got sick once. I can only eat cereal or oat meal during the day but at night I crave meat(last week made family drive to Cuban part of nj about an hour away so I could eat ropa vieja). I can eat it at night but there is no way I could prepare it my stomach isn't strng enough for that. Plus If I think about it too much it becomes repulsive to me. For weeks 2,3,4 of this pregnancy (two before finding out and one after) all I did was craft hot dogs, hamburgers, and peanut butter and these are three things I usually dislike. So, I think this might be a boy. But it's still kind of early I don't want to make that call. Lol


Momma2be, Good luck! Also I am from north jersey too.

Flavorful, how'd Irene treat you? I hope you are doing well. We are in north jersey and everything seems fine but across the street there is a pond when there is usually grass. Oops. All in all we are very fortunate.

[RosieL]

Crazy dreams here too. No sex drive, but when DH initiates it is EXTREMELY pleasurable. So that's good. He just has to get over my lack of initiation. ;) 

Liss you have now made me mad for ropa vieja. We have a GC for our favorite cuban place; I'm gonna have to make a date for it tomorrow!

My mom is making crabcakes tonight have having us over for dinner. Now's the time to tell her. I think she can keep it secret from DH's parents for the week that's necessary (we go up to visit them next weekend). I still have NO IDEA why I'm so reluctant to tell, because I know they'll be overjoyed. Maybe because it still doesn't feel real yet. 

Hope this week treats us all very nicely!

[beaner&tiegs]

Hello all, enjoying reading through these threads but not often finding the time to read.  We're finishing up building our house right now, so that feels all consuming, plus keeping up with the kids.  I'm feeling more tired for sure, and also really nauseous if I don't eat, but then never really wanting to eat anything - fun!

No crazy dreams so far....as for sex drive, it's so interesting, with both of my girls I had a crazy sex drive especially in the second trimester, and then with my son I had no sex drive at all.  Too bad, DH was really looking forward to that stage with my third!  I'm curious to see if my pattern holds true for this pregnancy, and predicts the gender???!!!  

Hope everyone in the path of Irene is well.  We're getting lots of wind up here in Southern Ontario, but hopefully not much more than that.  I still want a bit more of summer, to finish our list - water park, lake swims, picnics......  I do love fall, but I'm not QUITE ready to give up on summer!

[Mom2SammyJoe]

DH went back to work today, and I managed to get up before the kids (yeah!) I am actually having a really good morning. I just need to pace myself so as not to be completely worn out by the time he gets home this afternoon. We have canned 42 qts of peaches in the last 5 days as well as putting some in the freezer. There are still some more to deal with, and I need to get them in the freezer today before they are a lost cause.

DH wants me to call our Flex spending company today to see if we can use it toward the doula or homebirth midwife. Our insurance will not cover either. We have to decide in the next few weeks how much to put into the account for the year. I don't want to put an extra $2k in there if we can't use it for the birth. There is no way we would use that much for anything else. Right now I am thinking of putting enough for the doula (550) because we will use her no matter where we birth. But if something happens and we can't have a homebirth, I don't want to have the money put away and lose it, either. Last time the MW was $1600. We live farther away this time, and honestly, I hope she charges us more. She is totally worth it, and I don't think she charges enough for all her time and supplies. She even told me once that she charges enough to cover her costs. Anyway, that is where I am at right now.

As for sex, well, it has been a while. At some times during the day, it sounds like a good idea, but by the time we have time, I am so not interested. I am looking forward to the 2nd tri in this regard, bigtime, and so is DH.

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

A good friend of mine was able to use her flex spending to pay for her illegal homebirth midwife. She just said it was "birth services."

[Christy1980]

Sorry, I am on a computer all week @ work, I hate getting on one on my time off on the weekends!

BIL freaked, he was totally excited.  We called his DW and told her, she was totally excited.  

I'm calling my grandmas tonight, and will let them pass the word to aunts/uncles.  DH still has to call his G-parents and he wants to tell his aunts/uncles himself.  SO that should fun!

I've been having pains on my right side.  Just occasional twinges and sometimes dull pain, like a muscle or ligament is pulled/stretched.  I did move some chairs around for church, and I think I overdid it, but was feeling it a couple of days before, like when I would run.  Has me worried about ectopic, but no spotting/bleeding, and it only seems to hurt when I'm active.  Plus, it's not a sharp pain or shooting pain, and it seems to be over by my hip.  But after 5.5 years of TTC, I'm paranoid/worried about everything.

I tried calling the MW I want to use, and left her a message.  I'm going to call her again today.

[Christy1980]

How did all our Hurrican Irene families do?  You guys OK? 

[Liss86]

Originally Posted by RosieL 

Crazy dreams here too. No sex drive, but when DH initiates it is EXTREMELY pleasurable. So that's good. He just has to get over my lack of initiation.  

Liss you have now made me mad for ropa vieja. We have a GC for our favorite cuban place; I'm gonna have to make a date for it tomorrow!

My mom is making crabcakes tonight have having us over for dinner. Now's the time to tell her. I think she can keep it secret from DH's parents for the week that's necessary (we go up to visit them next weekend). I still have NO IDEA why I'm so reluctant to tell, because I know they'll be overjoyed. Maybe because it still doesn't feel real yet. 

Hope this week treats us all very nicely!

ooh and crab cakes they sound so good too

[rajahkat]

Add me to the list of folks looking for a bigger house. There is one not too far away that I'm drooling over. Close enough to the mountain that we would still get nice snowy winters, On the river, almost 4000 square feet and affordable. Now to convince the husband. He hates moving.

In other news the icky stomach kicked in yesterday. I feel like I have to eat constantly to keep it at bay, and the only things that sound appealing are totally unhealthy. Like French fries.

We haven't told anyone yet. Probably won't for quite awhile. I'll tell my MIL most likely when she comes out at the end of Oct.

So, off to the airport to pick up the husband. Take care all!

[flavorfull1]

We are in Brooklyn and Irene was just another rainy windy day.  Not something I felt like we should go out in, so a little more than just a typical day, but not scary and we did not lose power.  We are very thankful and fortunate to pretty much just have had to stay inside for 48 hours.  DS was stir crazy but that was the worst of it!  Hope everyone else fared well too.

[adoremybabe]

To all of those that are feeling the ick. I'm right there with you and not loving it at all. Know that you aren't alone!

These days are difficult because our pregnancy is a secret and DH is out of town so I have my little old self to rely on. I can't wait to feel good again!

[adoremybabe]

To all of those that are feeling the ick. I'm right there with you and not loving it at all. Know that you aren't alone!

These days are difficult because our pregnancy is a secret and DH is out of town so I have my little old self to rely on. I can't wait to feel good again!

[adoremybabe]

Double post! ...lovely.

[Christy1980]

Interviewing a MW next week!  I'm pretty sure we are going to go w/ her, we've had so many referrals that were all positive, plus she knows my pastor's wife, (they are neighbors), and I've just heard all great things.  EXCITED!  this is making it more real! 

[Mom2SammyJoe]

Christy- have fun with your midwife! exciting stuff.

rajakat- it is a really good thing we live so far from fast food. I had French fries last week, and they tasted so good and actually seemed to settle my stomach. I could probably eat them every day right now. As it is, I had peach cobbler for lunch. I made it with whole wheat flour, and it had milk and fruit in it, so it could have been worse, I guess.

I just called are Flex Spending company, and I was surprised to hear that they won't reimburse for a doula, but they will for my homebirth midwife! I had the lady send me an email so I have something in writing. What she sent just mentioned that a midwife was covered. I emailed her back and had her send another email that said a CPM for a homebirth was covered. I am keeping this forever! DH's checks will get smaller as more is going to go into the account, but this birth will cost us less than last time, overall, so that is great!

[broodymama]

I wish we could get a slightly bigger house!  Right now DS1 and DS2 share a room and DD1 and DD2 share a room.  The boys' room is slightly larger but the girls' room has a bigger closet.  Once this babe is born s/he will (eventually) share a room with the same sex pair of siblings.  So down the road we'll put bunk beds in the larger room, and see if we need to swap rooms.  DS1 and DD1 each have a demi-loft bed and the plan was to have 4 of those, but now those plans need to change a bit.  I do kind of wish we had another bathroom.  When we moved in (with only 2 kids), 2.5 baths seemed like a lot but for some reason all the kids always seem to need to go at the same time, another toilet would be nice! 

I went and saw my chiro today, always feel much better afterward.  It's been too long since I've been!

[Thursday Girl]

that's funny about the bathroom, I always thought it was silly when people said they needed at least 2 or 3 bathrooms, well with 3 potty trained girls and dh and I  and only 1 bathroom,  I SOOO WANT a second bathroom!

[justKate]

I've thought about the room situation some too, although we have space with only one DD and this little grape on the way.  Right now we have a guest room, a room with DD's clothes in it, and the master with our bed and DD's toddler bed.  The new LO will sleep with us, so there's really no point in having a room for him/her.  My plan is to keep both kids (and their beds, for when they use them) in our room and make the other a dressing room, basically.  It would be easier if this one is a girl.  Funny, this irritates my mom to no end but it works really well for us so far.

[loudmama]

Hey all,

Some how I missed last weeks thread until late in the week, & then I was too overwhelmed to respond.

I'm feeling crappy. Tired, nauseated, basically just pregnant. Ugh. And I've already gained 10 lbs because I eat whatever looks good, & it isn't always healthy. Not being able to work out hasnt helped either. I think I badly bruised or broke my toe a week ago, so even wearing shoes with anything over that toe hurts. And before I hurt my toe my stamina sucked & couldn't workout for shit.

We told the kids about the baby. My youngest is excited, my oldest is probably more excited than she let's on. My parents & sister were surprised & excited. This will be the 14th & last grand child for my parents. We haven't told DH's family yet.

That's all I can think of for now...

L

[justKate]

So I read somewhere, and of course I can't remember where, but it was recently, that the risk of m/c overall is about 15%, BUT once you hear/see a heartbeat, that risk is only like 1%.  Anyone else read this?  1% is pretty low, if it's true--about the same risk of having a minor heart defect, or a number of other conditions that are considered super scary and that we know are relatively rare.

My point was,  I guess, if this is true, once we start hearing/seeing heartbeats we should take some comfort....