Haha, Tiffani! Yes. It has been awhile.
Here is our little update:
We are still in UG and just received our visa today! It has been a struggle on that front, but a nearly perfectly sweet transition for us.
We went with our gut about a slow transition (sort of) and have maintained contact several times a week with his grandma. It wasn't as slow as we first planned, but mainly because he really took to my husband! It was really sweet to see how they bonded quickly. It was more "child lead" than planned out and we felt good about having him come stay with us just seeing his excitement for it.
We have gone back to see grandma many times, and it has been good too. I noticed that he does stay close to me, at times I have encouraged him to go play with his friends (that all run around and play together) and he does so happily, but then comes back after a few minutes.
The only sort of bad thing that happened was that is grandma decided it would be "funny" to tell him he had to stay with them for 2 days and I would come back for him... all not in english of course. He got this panicked look and just stared at me... like he was waiting to see what I would do. Then they told me what they had said (and they were laughing about his reaction). I told them to please tell him they were joking. And I grabbed his hand. Poor boy still acted afraid until we got in the car to leave, then he slyly looked over at me with a big smile. I could have shot them for saying that... But I think it both affirmed to us that we belong together now. But still, really peeved about that one!
He's had a nearly ideal transition... at least so far.
I keep anticpating it all crashing down. But he has a really easy going temperment and I do think has been treated with love most of his life.
Honestly food has been our biggest struggle. He is slightly picky and really just wants simple UG food. Anything "normal" for us is really strange to him. And if he doesn't like it it will not pass those lips! :-)
Language has been both fun and at times wears me out... but really it isn't even worth mentioning, except that I am beginning to think he knows way more english than he is willing to use. He doesn't like to copy and is soft spoken even in his birth language. But I think that is just who he is.
Him and I are bonding slowly, but in good strides each day. I think we are understanding each other more and more and I think he guenuinly likes me. Which is nice to know, as a mom. :-)
And to be honest, I sort of hate to write this, mainly because it is NOT the norm and what we have prepared for. And who knows, it could all "hit the fan" tomorrow. But I do think "older child" adoption can be a really sweet and easy thing... sometimes.
Hey... and know if it all does break down I will commit to update that too.
Now getting home... the next phase begins.
With that, any ideas on how to minimize fear in public places/strange places?
Our little guy does really clam up in unknown places... like going to the embassy seemed like torture for him... he wouldn't say a word, is slightly unemotional, and gets an overwhelmed/scared look.
Normally, he chatters on, sings, and is very carefree acting.
I just know that the airports, airplanes and stuff might be fightening to him.
We are not doing the whole "airport party" thing for this very reason (not to dig on those that do), but he hates it when strangers are all up in his face and asking him questions... so why would we create that environment as he first gets home... tired and overwhelmed any way?
Oh dear, wrote a book, didn't I.