I"m so confused and really dont' know where to start. Dh tells me last night that he has decided to move out. We do fight a LOT and it has been hard on the kids. I understand that. He doesn't want a divorce, just a separation.
However, I see this as his vacation!!! He wants to get a place and then come over whenever he wants. We've been separated before (about 5 years ago) and that's how it went then. It was a giant waste of money. We're having lots of behavior issues w/ our oldest and he doesn't want to deal w/ it. Parenting is labor intensive, ya know??
SO fast forward 5 years and another child to the mix. There's no money to fight over. Our mortgage is over 25% of his take home pay at $1300. So maybe he can find an apartment for about $600 in some fleabag area. IT won't have enough bedrooms for our three children so he'll come and go as he pleases and put it on a credit card. Our life savings is about $10,000 so I guess he'll run through that.
If I get a lawyer, how much will it cost to file for separation? Can I make him pay for that since this is his idea?? What about custody? I'm a sahm. I'm still nursing my almost 3 year old. Do I even tell the lawyer/judge that? I know nursing a 3 year old is normal on here, but it's not in the rest of the world and they might think it's weird.
ACK! I don't know where to start.