Im torn on this topic too. I cant ever remember to take bc pills, and i havent taken them in almost 5 years... i dont really know how i feel about an IUD, it kinda freaks me out, but I dont want to get pregnant again anytime soon (if ever)... not ready for the big V yet for DH though....
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the only hormonal bc i used ever was the nuvaring. I get affected by dosages not adjusted according to my body size very easily so i was not hopeful when i started but it took me a good two years before I started feeling some negative affects. so it may be a good alternative while trying to make decision? you just need to remember it once a month (i did every 25th)
beware though if you are prone to yeast infections, it may increase their frequency. and this was about 4 years ago so i have not kept up on their potential side effects.
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Yup. Theres still semen, just no sperm in the semen. They still function the same.
i had a partner for several years who had a vasectomy.....yes, there is definitely an ejaculation but his always had a fair amount of pain associated with it. he was very regretful of his vasectomy- not just because it wasn't thought out well, but also because of all the related pain he had in the years following.
We will use FAM and condoms again. We used this method for about 5 years before DD came along. I am allergic to latex so all latex products are out of the question and any spermicides bother me greatly. I also had issues with the pill--the hormones really mess with my system. I suppose at some point we might decide for DP to get a vasectomy, but as we are not opposed to another child I am not too stressed one way or the other about getting pregnant. Preferably not right away though--not too worried about this at DD was about 18 months old when I got my first PP cycle.
I found that FAM worked great if you really follow the rules and avoid or use alternative protection during potentially fertile times. The key is to actually follow the rules and not cheat
I dont think we will really "use" anything... I hate pills, we hate condoms, he hates pull out method, I tried charting and cant figure it out, and so ... well... we will have to see what happens.
I was thinking we might be done, but Ive heard the big V isnt all its cracked up to be and can make for health problems... I always just thought that we will take what is given to us. children are blessings to us... Im interested in what you all have to say though. maybe it will spark our interest in something
We use Creighton Model FertilityCare System and have found it to be very effective. We have had great instruction and I love my practitioner and can call her anytime, which helps. DH and I are very conservative with the rules when we do not want to get pregnant. No hormones or barriers, it just does not suit our beliefs or life style. We likely will have one more regardless, but if we mess up and have a 'failure' it would not be the end of the world for us.
We have been discussing this too and haven't come up with any solutions I hate hormonal bc ... kills my libido and makes me cranky plus I tend to get a lot of UTIs. My cycles were so screwed up when I stopped taking it. Hubby hates condoms and so do I. I have never tried charting so I am thinking that we might give this a try, I just need to learn all that goes along with it. Financially we can not afford to have another baby after this one arrives ... But we see children as a blessing and would love to have more...
Is FAM Natural Family Planning, like charting to determine peak fertility times?
I believe Mothering put out a really good book on charting to achieve or avoid pregnancy naturally. I have the book and used it to get pregnant with DS. Seriously, I was within a month of reading the book. I'm planning on charting this time to, only charting to avoid for a while. I won't take anything hormonal, though. I've tried birth control pills and the patch when I was younger and didn't do well with them. We do plan to have 1 more child. I'm not too worried about an "oops" before I am ready, though. I plan to exclusively breastfeed and I hear that *most* of the time it takes quite a while until you're fertile again. I got my period back early with DS because he had surgery at 2 1/2 months of age and they wouldn't allow me to nurse him for an entire week. But this pregnancy was also planned for us. Ideally, I'll TTC again after a couple years, so there will be 3 years between babes this time. But if it doesn't work out that way, it isn't the end of the world for me.
So...that being said......
I've used a diaphram with success...but, it's not the greatest for impromptu sex. With as many kids as we have...impromptu sex is sort of....needed. Unplanned moments are essential.
We've thought of the essure system. It's only for people who are SURE they are done. It's not surgical or hormonal. They just put tiny coils in your fallopian tubes, and they cause enough scarring to block the tubes, rendering you infertile without cutting up your body or causing any damage.
Dh is apparently not ready to commit to something so permanant. The guy loves having babies apparently. Wants to wait at least a year or two before we say "NO MORE". wow. After all the stress and worry of this pregnancy...I can't beleive he'd want to do this again...I am not sure, no matter how much I love my babies....I don't know that this mama can go through this again. Not sure my body wants to do this again...not sure my spirit could take the stress or possibility of another loss. But, our policy is to listen to each other....so, I'll use a diaphram, because I do not do hormones well...my cousin died from blood clots related to YAZ birth control and left 3 little ones behind without a mama. No thanks. She was a year older than me. so sad.
Diaphram, constant nursing which will pretty much assure that I am naturally infertile (that's how it's always worked anyway....) and then...we will revisit the idea in a year or so. More kids???? We'll see. I have one thing to say....if in a year, we STILL have a negative bank balance...I'm getting the coils. Dh assures me that won't be the case. But......at the moment...I totally feel like mary walking into Nazarith riding a freaking donkey into a barn. I can't beleive my student aid and regular writing gig were cancled last minute. We'd be fine otherwise. Lame. Dh always has a slow therapy month in July...his clients take advantage of the rare beautiful weather, and he can't fault them for that! After all.....ending depression and anxiety in the warmth of summer through activity is something he enourages!!! So.....he has a slow month....and no bonus....which we needed. Especially this year. Maybe next year will be more abundant? Whatever....I imagine that next year will just feel lovely....because, we're having a little girl....and that reminds me of everything beautiful in the universe.