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post #21 of 24

I was struggling financially for a few months following our divorce and sent kids to live with ex h for 2 months. It took me two years and twenty thousand dollars to get them back.  THIS IS NOT COST EFFECTIVE!!!!!!!!

DO NOT DO THIS. You will regret it. There are more important things in this world than things.... and a mothers love is one of them.

post #22 of 24

I haven't read everything here, however, I wanted to ask if you've looked into non-traditional student programs anywhere? It takes a little internet digging, but there are several schools I have been looking into that cater to students over 24 (most of whom have children) and often have family housing, cheap childcare, etc. I'm not sure where you are, but the majority of these programs are in the NE US. There are also a few schools with programs that cater SPECIFICALLY to mothers...one I'm looking into right now is Wilson College, in Pennsylvania. They have a program called 'Women With Children' that sounds like the most amazing situation for a mom ever! I think they only take mothers with two children but if you can fit all of you into a two bedroom suite, maybe they would make an exception. Many of these colleges are women's colleges, private colleges, and as a result will give you personalized help to figure everything out. There are tons of scholarships available....if you transfer in with a 3.75 gpa at Wilson, you get 50% off of tuition!!

 

Just wanted to say that I soooo understand that feeling of desperation, the feeling that if things continue this way for another minute your head is going to explode. I understand being a mean, impatient mommy because you are tired and stressed and afraid. I even understand feeling like, maybe my child would be better off with someone else. But I just want to say to you, mother to mother, that you CAN do this. You can make this work for you and your children, without leaving them, while still achieving your dreams and goals and making a better life for all of you. There is a third way that will be presented to you some way, somehow, I just know it.

post #23 of 24
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I haven't had time to read all of the comments but I'll mention that my mother left when I was prepubescent to live in another state because she couldn't afford to live in our area after she was laid off a couple of times within 2 years. They foreclosed on our house and she went to a job far, far away. I had to go live with my father and stepmother and their family. I said I was OK with it, but I was a child and unable to even comprehend the pain that I felt at not seeing her everyday, much less articulate it.

 

Don't leave them. Take a lesser paying job and adjust financially. Wait tables if you have to because it doesn't matter. I was never the same after my mother left. Neither was she. You will NEVER get that time back. Even though we talk regularly and have made great effort at repairing our relationship I still have abandonment issues that have even carried over into my other relationships.

 

Or take them with you. I doubt the new girlfriend with 3 kids can even house 3 more.




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This is the bottom line. Know what you are giving up. Be honest with yourself. You will never be able to get that time back.

 

By the way, if dad is doing so well, where is the child support???? Raising 3 children as a single mom is really, really hard work. If parents can help out with school in another state, then they can help out with supporting you for part-time school, can't they?

post #24 of 24

I don't know what field you're in, but there are lots of online/low residency programs offered these days. It will probably take some digging and some creativity, but I imagine that you can find a program to work around your needs so that you don't have to uproot. Best of luck in your decision!

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