Hugs to you!
I've been pumping exclusively since DS was 6 weeks old. He turned 11 months last week.
My advice:
Most importantly, don't think too much. Don't worry about how you're going to do this tomorrow or next week. Just do this one pump.
Figure out what distracts/relaxes you best. TV, internet, a book, crafting, whatever.
Drink lots of water, eating oatmeal is supposed to help. There are plenty of "over the counter" herbal supplements out there. You might be interested in consulting a homeopath if you're having supply issues, or see about getting domperidone. Massage before and during pumping tends to help, or at least makes me feel like I'm helping.
Find a way to manage your stress, even if that's just taking Rescue Remedy. It's hard to make milk when you're terribly anxious. Maybe relaxing music?
Make sure you have a good pump (get the very best you can afford), and keep it in good working order, and make sure the flanges fit.
Don't worry about washing out the pump every time. Keep the flanges in the fridge between use and wash once, or every two days as you are comfortable. You could splash out and get two sets so you can just throw the one in the dishwasher and always have a clean, dry rig ready to go.
Something that continues to help me is to keep a log of when I pump and how much milk I made. At the beginning, it was hard to remember when I actually pumped last, and keeping a running tally helps me feel proud of myself and motivated to keep going. Do stickers help? I draw a heart for myself every time I pump. :)
Experiment to see if it helps to have your daughter in the room with you (maybe even holding her?), or if you do better leaving her with your partner or a helper.
Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. I will keep you in my thoughts.
And congratulations on your beautiful daughter!
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