I know lying is normal, but I am at a loss for how to respond. My 10 year old keeps lying.
Today, I could tell she was hiding something in her swim bag, so I asked her what it was. She said she'd taken some of her own money out of her piggy bank so she could get a snack at the pool. She's supposed to ask first. When my husband got home, he went to put his change in his change jar and could tell some money was gone. My daughter went in there and shut the door to talk to him, was lying about it, but I went in there and learned that she had taken his money, not hers.
She got water on the bathroom floor, and when I asked her to clean it up, she said she didn't do it. Of course, her and I being the only ones in the house, I knew that she had done it. Finally, she said that she was trying to clean something up and stuff got away from her.
She says she's scared to tell me the truth. Often, the truth wouldn't even be something she would get in trouble for, but the lying is. Like the water on the floor, there was no reason to lie about that.
I've talked to her the importance of trust, but she just keeps lying. I've tried natural consequences and less than natural ones, bu she just consistently lies. And she's not very good at it (although, who knows what all she lies about that I don't find out!)
How do I help her to tell the truth?