Long post- sorry
Mommas who have BTDT...please offer some perspective.
This past summer my son was accepted to a private school that is PK - 12th grade. My husband and I are very excited as it is an IB school which offers alot to it's students.
He will be 4 in November and so was placed in the youngest of the two PK programs.
Prior to this, he has attended a daycare since 16 months of age and has always done very well. He is a good-natured, outgoing, active little boy. He isn't always the best listener, but we have always received very positive feed-back from his teachers. At his "interview" for the new school, he was observed participating in an hour of the "summer-fun" program and did very well (lined up, waited his turn, initiated friendly play with a little girl etc).
This past Friday was his first day of school. They had half the class start on Thursday and half on Friday to ease the transition. When I picked him up Friday his teacher told me he had a great deal of difficulty with circle time. He did not want to sit and when she took his hand to guide him back to the circle (he had started playing with another toy), he screamed and cried. I told her that at his daycare he did not have to do circle time as long as he did not disrupt the class and would need to learn the new rules. She seemed in agreement and I thought all was well. Over the weekend we played circle time with stuffed animals and talked about the importance of listening to our teachers.
Today was the first day with the whole class. At pickup my husband was told that DS again did not participate in circle time, was not listening well, and dumped sand on another child's head at recess. My husband apologized and assured her we would continue to work on listening at home. She seemed supportive and all was well.
I just received a call from my son's teacher stating that because DS was consumming so much of the teacher's aide time that there were "real concerns about his ability to transition". She stated that as of now, he would not be allowed to stay for the extended day we have already paid for (11:20-2:30), which really only includes lunch, playground time and nap. She also wants my husband and I to come in for a conference with her and the principle this Friday. I asked her if I needed to be concerned that my son would be asked to leave the school and she said, "at this point I do not know".
I am so completely confused and sad. He seems like such a laid-back little guy to me. Babysitters always love him. We went to swim class this afternoon and he listens perfectly to his instructor. I dont understand why he is having so much trouble.
I also feel as if he is not getting a fair break. He has only been there two half-days with a weekend interrupting the days. He is not yet four...this is a new school with new toys, friends and adults...he is not agressive or sassy (he really does want to please) and honestly is very empathetic (I am sure he would offer an apology and hug to the poor kid who he dumped sand on)....
I dont know...I just feel so sad and judged.