I really need some guidance here. My 11 year old son needs some help and we need some help helping him. In a nutshell here is what is going on...
- major sleep issues
- fears being alone, even in our house doesn't really like being on one end of medium sized house, while I am on the other
- very antagonistic, argues about everything, when in certain moods
- says he feels sad, this increases when he doesn't get enough exercise
- although not obsessive about it, thinks about death to a point he cries. He will get obsessive about it in the moment though. (I was this way as a kid/young adult as well)
-seems as though he doesn't hear me at all can tune me out to a amazing level.
Because of these things he sleeps on the floor of our room most nights. He will have evenings where he cries and just doesn't know why. The sleep issue is really hard because it affects my husband and I's relationship. He is realy really really intense and highly inteligent.
My son also on the same hand is one of the most sensitive loving people I know. He does well in school, went to school last year after years of homeschooling. He has friends, is likeable and is able to focus. Unless you spent a lot of time with him, you may never know there were issues, other than he is "spirited"... oh is he spirited, but not in a hyper way... just intense intense intense. he has been this way for always... sleep has never come easy for him unless he is exhausted.
My husband and I both have family histories of mental illness. I am not looking to get my son medicated, but am looking for a "diagnosis" that I can work with to help him. I know we need some family therapy to sort out some issues as home, but I am thinking psychiatrist because I don't want my son having to do months/years of talk therapy right now if he doesn't have to. I know there isn't a quick fix... I want my son to have tools to help him now and in adulthood.
I am really worried about him and his future... gosh life can be rough enough. I know he is feeling different. I worry about future alcohol/ drug abuse because of him wanting to feel like he thinks everyone else feels... normal. My hubby and I have lots of family history of alcohol abuse as well....
So why shouldn't I just head to a psychiatrist, instead of a psychologist? We want tools to help him..... oh I am soooo lost.
Thak you if you read all of this! I would love to help him with diet and such as well. He has lots of problems with his ears... that we are working on. This has been later onset, not problems as a baby. He has really never been ill. Never on antibiotics.. ever...
oh my poor guy.