Ex says the amount of $ he pays in support is too much because he doesn't get that much access.
I could really do without the support. its kinda a drop in the bucket. I've been saving it in a bank account for DD.
Should I let it drop or persue it, I could really do without it and I don't want him to be talking about me being greedy...
Anyway he says he would feel more fatherly towards DD, and help out more with $, if it wasn't for my DF.
DF has been with me since I found out I was pregnant and DD is 4 now. She starting calling him daddy at 2, when ex was not in the picture. My mom said... well he is the closest thing to a dad she has. He is there every night, changed diapers. snuggles her, finanically helps and disciplines.
This infuriates ex, when he decided he wanted visitation and child support was established I told him he was not around and DF has been playing the role and DD calls him daddy. but he could be "dad" for clarity's sake or whatever he chooses.
I understand it hurts, but to be mad at my DF for being there, for supporting us, and blame him bc DD is slow to warm up to him, doesn't help anyone.
DF and I are getting married next year, so we will be living together.
I'm sure that it will feel funny when I hear my DD call ex'es wife "mom" one day. But I know its irrational and I'm going to have to deal with it, and I hope she will be a good step mom. And thats my issue to get over.
But I just don't know what to say to ex. The social worker has told him, that DF is in her life, and has been and he's going to have to get over it. But I just didn't know until he exploded with the "your bf takes my place and she'd love me more if it wasn't for him"
Me, DF, him and his wife and DD have been to lunch! and I thought we had an ok time. All politeness. But I'm thinking I should def NOT tell DF ex feels this way, bc DF is always nice and I want that to continue to be genuine.
How do we recover?