I suppose this is half vent/half looking for feedback.
My ex-MIL watches ds 2 days a week while I work from home. Yesterday, I must have heard her say "how big is Lorenzo? sooo big" about 15 or so times. She wants him to put his arms out with the so big.
It drives me crazy! I feel like she's trying to train a dog to go get the ball. My philosophy is to let the child lead in his learning. Mostly this means to hang out and pay attention to him while he does his thing and to be involved when he seems to want that...and not to distract or direct him with over the top attention, praise and teaching.
I didn't say anything to her. When I came down at one point she tried to get him to perform the trick in front of me and he didn't. I just didn't emphasize it and changed the focus. Really, I'm not sure what to say or how to approach it that doesn't feel to me like controlling her interactions with him. Once a while back when he started pulling to standing, she wanted to have him perform for his dad. I said "no, I don't want to make him do tricks. his dad will see when it comes naturally." So in general she knows my stance.
While I do make a point to say what I want with the "big" things (food, no tv, etc), with the day to day interactions I generally feel unsure about my place. I lead by example in how I interact with him and realize everyone will have their own way. Maybe I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it is?
I'm actually considering looking into alternative childcare because of the way that she is.
Any thoughts or perspectives?