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post #1 of 26
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I just thought that I'd do a check-in with the nursing mamas.  My DD is now 24mo and has gradually decreased her nursing sessions to only once a day (at nap time).  Some days we even miss that nursing session because she takes her nap while we're out, etc.  I was on the path to tandem nursing, but I'm not sure that she's going to make it 3 more months.  She rarely asks anymore, I think that dry nursing just isn't worth the effort to her.  My milk dried up around 12w, so it's been a slow, gradual progression.  My DS nursed until he was 3.5yo, so I'm certainly up to going longer if she wants.

 

I must say that having my milk dry up was the easiest way to night-wean ever!  It's been so nice to get some sleep before this new baby comes.  I feel really lucky that I didn't have to do anything to make it happen, she just stopped waking up.  Before I got pregnant she would nurse 3-4 times every night.

 

How's everyone else doing? 

post #2 of 26

going strong here. There's only been a handful of completely skipped days. I think I might have a little bit of colostrum now, because ds has said a couple times, "little bit of milk". he mostly has it first thing in the morning when he wakes. Occasionally before bed, and occasionally sometime mid day. If he naps at home and I'm the one putting him down for it, he'll nurse a little before then too. night weaning was pretty painless here as well. We moved him to a toddler bed in our room a couple months ago, and just in the last week or 2 moved that toddler bed to dd's room and its working okay. He still comes and joins us in the middle of the night about half the time, and the other half the time he'll join us early morning when he could still use an hour or 2 more sleep, but its getting light out. Occasionally he stays in bed until he's actually ready to get up for the day! If he asks to nurse and it still dark, I just say "bumbums are sleeping, you can have them when the sun comes up" (I have no idea how he came up with the word bumbum for nursing) and surprisingly he doesn't even fuss when I refuse him! If its light, even if I expect he's going to go back to sleep for a little while longer, he can have it. 

post #3 of 26

At 21 weeks DD stopped nursing.  I miss it:(  I am sad when I think about it, because we both loved it so much.  I am hoping to wait longer between pregnancies next time and hoping that this baby will enjoy nursing just as much as DD, and for a long time!

post #4 of 26

I kinda wish I were still breastfeeding. The closer I get to having this baby, the more I miss it with my DD. She was so content in nursing and I selfishly stopped at almost 8 months. One of the benefits if you're nursing still when baby comes is that the nursing can stimulate contractions. winky.gif

post #5 of 26

We are! DS is 18 months, and has no intention of weaning. Not even at night, which would be sooo nice. I've gotten to the point that nursing can be really irritating. During the day I can distract myself, but at night it's awful. We've been out of town for two weeks, too, and he's been out of sorts the last few days and up a lot at night nursing, so I'm just exhausted.

 

I don't see any way we won't be tandem nursing. My DD weaned at 26 weeks (she was 2.5 yo) last time, which was such a relief. Part of me really enjoyed having a few months "off" before the new baby was born, and would like that again, but I also hate to encourage him to wean so young. He hasn't gained any weight since my milk dried up, so I'm hoping when it comes back, he'll pack on a few pounds quickly!

post #6 of 26

I'm just curious......what is the purpose of nursing if your milk is dried up? Is it just a soothing technique?

post #7 of 26

It still calms them down. Some kids are more affected by lack of milk than others. A friend of mine weaned during her pregnancy because her son was so upset about the milk being gone; my daughter self-weaned after dry-nursing for several months; my son is nursing happily, even though all I have is a little bit of colostrum, and he dry nursed for 10 weeks or so. In my case, I really don't like the idea of a child even self-weaning before 2 yo, so I'm continuing to nurse so that when my milk comes back (DS will be 21 mo when baby is born) he can nurse for a while still.

post #8 of 26
Thread Starter 

I have continued to nursed (after my milk dried up), with the hope that maybe she'd make it until my milk came back.  My DD has never been a very oral kid, so she's gradually stopped nursing since there's no benefit to her.  I suspect that she might start nursing more when my milk comes back..  That is, if she makes it that long.

 

I can agree with the intent of the question though.  Many times it does feel pretty strange and useless to be dry nursing.  I don't often feel motivated to go out of my way to dry nurse, which is probably added to why she decreased her nursing sessions down to 1 a day.
 

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Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN View Post

I'm just curious......what is the purpose of nursing if your milk is dried up? Is it just a soothing technique?



 

post #9 of 26

I stopped nursing right before getting pregnant (it's actually what messed up my cycles and led to conception- I guess I wasn't aware that weaning delays ovulation) but this thread is interesting to me.  I weaned because of medication I had to take while I had influenza ( I wish I had done more research, I could have just stopped nursing then picked it back up again after I was done with the codeine- I only took it a few days- but I had already talked to DS about how we were done and he didn't even flinch so I couldn't then go back on my word, etc.  long story)  

I guess dry nursing is kind of like my son still wanting his pacifier.... He still has that oral desire but he doesn't need the milk.  He's gaining weight just fine, so I suppose I'm happy that weaning was as absolutely painless (for him) as it was (I always assumed it would be really hard on him because he was SO attached to it.).  I, on the other hand, was a freaking mess.  So depressed that he wasn't my nursling anymore (My dad had also died 2 weeks earlier, and I was sick, so I was a train wreck in general.)

Some women still have a milk supply during pregnancy, right?  Or is it more common to dry up?  I suppose the body is focusing on nutrients for the baby....
 

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Originally Posted by LiLStar View Post

going strong here. There's only been a handful of completely skipped days. I think I might have a little bit of colostrum now, because ds has said a couple times, "little bit of milk". he mostly has it first thing in the morning when he wakes. Occasionally before bed, and occasionally sometime mid day. If he naps at home and I'm the one putting him down for it, he'll nurse a little before then too. night weaning was pretty painless here as well. We moved him to a toddler bed in our room a couple months ago, and just in the last week or 2 moved that toddler bed to dd's room and its working okay. He still comes and joins us in the middle of the night about half the time, and the other half the time he'll join us early morning when he could still use an hour or 2 more sleep, but its getting light out. Occasionally he stays in bed until he's actually ready to get up for the day! If he asks to nurse and it still dark, I just say "bumbums are sleeping, you can have them when the sun comes up" (I have no idea how he came up with the word bumbum for nursing) and surprisingly he doesn't even fuss when I refuse him! If its light, even if I expect he's going to go back to sleep for a little while longer, he can have it. 



 

post #10 of 26

I'm still nursing my three year old. We generally nurse at night before bed and in the morning before we get up. Occasionally we'll have another nursing session. Occasionally we'll skip one of those. Earlier in this pregnancy (around 21 weeks) I went away for a week and he still took back to nursing when he saw me again. He night weaned early on in this pregnancy when the milk dried up, and that's been really nice for getting more sleep. He was still waking up quite a bit before that. I think we're going to make it to the end and I'm really looking forward to tandem nursing!

post #11 of 26
Thread Starter 

A large amount of women dry up while pregnant, but not all.  I always had PLENTY of milk, but it was totally gone by 12w pregnant (even though she still nursed 6-8 times a day at that point).  Hormones control a lot.  I think it's natures way of encouraging your toddler to wean in preparation for the next baby.
 

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Originally Posted by jbk21 View Post

I stopped nursing right before getting pregnant (it's actually what messed up my cycles and led to conception- I guess I wasn't aware that weaning delays ovulation) but this thread is interesting to me.  I weaned because of medication I had to take while I had influenza ( I wish I had done more research, I could have just stopped nursing then picked it back up again after I was done with the codeine- I only took it a few days- but I had already talked to DS about how we were done and he didn't even flinch so I couldn't then go back on my word, etc.  long story)  

I guess dry nursing is kind of like my son still wanting his pacifier.... He still has that oral desire but he doesn't need the milk.  He's gaining weight just fine, so I suppose I'm happy that weaning was as absolutely painless (for him) as it was (I always assumed it would be really hard on him because he was SO attached to it.).  I, on the other hand, was a freaking mess.  So depressed that he wasn't my nursling anymore (My dad had also died 2 weeks earlier, and I was sick, so I was a train wreck in general.)

Some women still have a milk supply during pregnancy, right?  Or is it more common to dry up?  I suppose the body is focusing on nutrients for the baby....
 



 



 

post #12 of 26

I'm still going with my 36mo dd.  There's some colostrum in one of my breasts but the presence or absence of liquid seems to make no difference to her at all.  She is very oral and nothing is going to break her routine of boobie upon waking and before a nap.  The only thing is, she has become terrible for chewing my areola with her teeth.  Whenever I feel teeth I make her come off and go back on properly again and we usually have to do this several times before she either falls asleep or gives up.  I have considered weaning or changing her routine and I even tried not feeding her down for naps for a few days.  It doesn't take long to be reminded of how strong-willed she is!  I feel that the effort of changing her routine is just too great and too disruptive, and I will trust that things will work out OK when the new baby arrives.  Let's hope I like tandem nursing; I think there's going to be a lot of simultaneous feeding going on!

post #13 of 26
Thread Starter 

My DD has been digging her teeth in as well.  I think her latch has gotten lazy because there's nothing in there to suck out.  It hurts!
 

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Originally Posted by munchymum View Post

I'm still going with my 36mo dd.  There's some colostrum in one of my breasts but the presence or absence of liquid seems to make no difference to her at all.  She is very oral and nothing is going to break her routine of boobie upon waking and before a nap.  The only thing is, she has become terrible for chewing my areola with her teeth.  Whenever I feel teeth I make her come off and go back on properly again and we usually have to do this several times before she either falls asleep or gives up.  I have considered weaning or changing her routine and I even tried not feeding her down for naps for a few days.  It doesn't take long to be reminded of how strong-willed she is!  I feel that the effort of changing her routine is just too great and too disruptive, and I will trust that things will work out OK when the new baby arrives.  Let's hope I like tandem nursing; I think there's going to be a lot of simultaneous feeding going on!



 

post #14 of 26

This sounds like my DD as well, who is 28 months, teeth and all. I am nearing the end of my rope with nursing her, yet it is still less hassle and emotional upheaval to just let things run their course with this strong-willed and persistent child of mine. I'm curious about tandem nursing, so I don't want to take a hard line until after the baby is born and we have a few weeks to iron out the kinks. 

 

She's getting a couple of her 2-year molars right now, so we can nurse up to 6 - 8 times a day, including straight from about 3am - 7am. When she wasn't teething, she was just nursing before and after night's sleep and nap. But as she falls asleep she gnaws. Shudder. And I have to choose between gritting my teeth or waking her up. On days where I choose to wake her up to relatch, it can take over 2 hours before she's finally asleep. 

 


 

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Originally Posted by munchymum View Post

I'm still going with my 36mo dd.  There's some colostrum in one of my breasts but the presence or absence of liquid seems to make no difference to her at all.  She is very oral and nothing is going to break her routine of boobie upon waking and before a nap.  The only thing is, she has become terrible for chewing my areola with her teeth.  Whenever I feel teeth I make her come off and go back on properly again and we usually have to do this several times before she either falls asleep or gives up.  I have considered weaning or changing her routine and I even tried not feeding her down for naps for a few days.  It doesn't take long to be reminded of how strong-willed she is!  I feel that the effort of changing her routine is just too great and too disruptive, and I will trust that things will work out OK when the new baby arrives.  Let's hope I like tandem nursing; I think there's going to be a lot of simultaneous feeding going on!



 

post #15 of 26
Thread Starter 

This is one reason that we decided to completely change our bedtime routine.   Now my DH puts my DD to bed, lays with her for a minute and leaves the room.  It only took 2 nights (about 30 minutes each time) to make the change.  Now she'll easily go to bed on her own, which is sooo nice.  I couldn't imagine being responsible for putting 2 small children to bed, so we needed to do something.  I was actually surprised at how easy the whole thing went.  There were a few tears, but DH was there to sooth her and let her know that we're right here for her.   We now have almost an hour more to ourselves at night, bonus!  :)
 

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Originally Posted by KayPea View Post

This sounds like my DD as well, who is 28 months, teeth and all. I am nearing the end of my rope with nursing her, yet it is still less hassle and emotional upheaval to just let things run their course with this strong-willed and persistent child of mine. I'm curious about tandem nursing, so I don't want to take a hard line until after the baby is born and we have a few weeks to iron out the kinks. 

 

She's getting a couple of her 2-year molars right now, so we can nurse up to 6 - 8 times a day, including straight from about 3am - 7am. When she wasn't teething, she was just nursing before and after night's sleep and nap. But as she falls asleep she gnaws. Shudder. And I have to choose between gritting my teeth or waking her up. On days where I choose to wake her up to relatch, it can take over 2 hours before she's finally asleep. 

 


 



 



 

post #16 of 26


Way to go Olivine!! :)

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Originally Posted by Abraisme View Post

This is one reason that we decided to completely change our bedtime routine.   Now my DH puts my DD to bed, lays with her for a minute and leaves the room.  It only took 2 nights (about 30 minutes each time) to make the change.  Now she'll easily go to bed on her own, which is sooo nice.  I couldn't imagine being responsible for putting 2 small children to bed, so we needed to do something.  I was actually surprised at how easy the whole thing went.  There were a few tears, but DH was there to sooth her and let her know that we're right here for her.   We now have almost an hour more to ourselves at night, bonus!  :)
 



 



 

post #17 of 26

Oh, I wish it would be this easy with DD. We tried for a week of DH putting her to bed. The result? All of us up past midnight with an hysterical child. I couldn't help it, I caved on the 3rd day. Ugh. I cringe just thinking of it. And even though DH was there with her, comforting her, it felt just as heart-wrenching as CIO. So much screaming. But I was so done with the marathon bedtime "routine" and none of our gentler methods had worked thus far. But we're back with "Mama nursing her to sleep for hours" and now just asking her every night if Dada can put her to bed, and telling her that when the baby comes, Mama won't be able to fall asleep with her. We're also looking into getting her a different bed - a twin-sized bed, and tell her that "Mama doesn't fit in that one anymore." She has a double mattress on the floor right now. 
 

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Originally Posted by Abraisme View Post

This is one reason that we decided to completely change our bedtime routine.   Now my DH puts my DD to bed, lays with her for a minute and leaves the room.  It only took 2 nights (about 30 minutes each time) to make the change.  Now she'll easily go to bed on her own, which is sooo nice.  I couldn't imagine being responsible for putting 2 small children to bed, so we needed to do something.  I was actually surprised at how easy the whole thing went.  There were a few tears, but DH was there to sooth her and let her know that we're right here for her.   We now have almost an hour more to ourselves at night, bonus!  :)
 



 



 

post #18 of 26

This is sort of the opposite of the original question, but I saw Abra's post and wanted to share our little success story, too!  Since ds stopped nursing (around 17 months- when I was around 3-4 months pregnant), he slowly transitioned from needing nursing to needing to hold my nipple, to just needing to snuggle in order to fall asleep.  Now dh (and even my dad who hasn't seen ds since he was about 6 months old!) is able to put him to sleep!  It's been awesome!!!!  The next step is transitioning ds to his own room before baby gets here.  We'll see about that one.


Edited by Jaimee - 9/3/11 at 8:02am
post #19 of 26

We're nursing!  I don't know why I ever feared that my ds (2 years old in a couple of weeks!) would wean during this pregnancy.  I lost my milk, as I always do, but he kept on.  In the last week or so, I've started having colostrum. He is so thrilled. Having something there has made him even more eager to nurse several times a day.  It's not very comfortable sometimes, but it's clearly very important to him.  Nothing soothes him more when he's scared/hurt/tired. I'm looking forward to the return of my milk when the baby's here; he'll be so happy.  love.gif

 

Oh, and we were also concerned about me being the only one who's able to put him to bed.  I started nursing him before bed, but not to sleep- and then telling him I was leaving, but Papi would stay with him to fall asleep.  It also went better for us than I expected.  He whimpers and is a little sad, but he does go to sleep for his dad. KayPea, I don't blame you for not going any further when it clearly wasn't working with your dd!  I have shut it down too, when my kids weren't ready for a big change. Many times, I tandem nursed my older kid and new baby to sleep at the same time because the alternative was just too stressful for all of us.  It's not ideal, but it's better than the hysterics.

post #20 of 26
Thread Starter 

Yay!
 

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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

This is sort of the opposite of the original question, but I saw Abra's post and wanted to share our little success story, too!  Since ds stopped nursing (around 17 months- when I was around 3-4 months pregnant), he slowly transitioned from needing nursing to needing to hold my nipple, to just needing to snuggle in order to fall asleep.  Now dh (and even my dad who hasn't seen ds since he was about 6 months old!) is able to put him to sleep!  It's been awesome!!!!  The next step is transitioning ds to his own room before baby gets here.  We'll see about that one.



 

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