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Hey ladies, so we did our insemination. We did it at home with 10 ml syringe and it was full. I put a lil preeseed around the syringe just to give a little more wetness. Have any of you used preeseed or are? whats your thought on it? Also I had a question, we were kinda giggly and when the syringe was in she laughed and it came out. I had already inserted all the sperm but I just want to make sure we are ok. since the syringe was all slippery due to the wetness it came out like 2 times but i didnt see anything come out if it did. But i figured we probably are ok right since we inserted so much? Now shes at home with her legs up for as long as she can keep them up lol well her butt propped lol. We going to insert one more time tomorrow to cover us. But im hoping for this one to be a good one and good timing due to the temp dip and usually after a temp dip she will O that night so to me this is good timing what do you think????

 

Carmen- I hope so

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Just dropping in to let you all know our u/s today went well.. we saw at tiny heartbeat.gif at exactly 6 weeks!  Thanks to all for your ongoing support and well wishes! blowkiss.gif

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handerson- That sounds like great timing to me! Fingers crossed for confirmation of O! :)

ad astra- I am SO happy for you!
 

mrsPP- I mentioned it already on your blog, but it sounds like it might be really good timing- far better than OUR first insem which was only one insem using frozen sperm... and my O ended up being two days after insem. eyesroll.gif

 

AFM- Bad news today. I went to the dentist for my regular cleaning and to my SHOCK I have my first cavity ever. On my wisdom tooth. This really makes it clear that I need to have my wisdom teeth out, but we are scheduled for transfer in a little over two weeks. If I have the surgery now, I'll have to stop this cycle and postpone the transfer until the surgery is done and I'm totally recovered. In addition to the fact that we do NOT want to change our transfer date, we're worried about how the stress of surgery will affect my body/my chances of pregnancy. The dentist said he thinks it would be just fine to wait until after the pregnancy and birth are over with to do the surgery, but in the meantime there is always the risk of pain or infection from the cavity during the pregnancy and we're not happy about the possible risk of abcess which would mean immediate surgery regardless of what stage of pregnancy I'm in. (Dental anesthesia is lower risk to the fetus during the second trimester than the first or third apparently.) Anyway, tomorrow I have a second opinion with my own dentist (who was out for an emergency today) and I'm going to ask him about the possibility of just getting a filling over the tooth for now and waiting to do the surgery until after pregnancy. No one mentioned that possibility to me today while I was there, which I think is because dentists tend to think that any and all wisdom tooth problems should be solved with extraction, but I'm thinking perhaps a filling would be a reliable temporary fix. Then again, what do I know? I've never had a cavity in my life! This is THE most inopportune time to have a cavity and the worst possible tooth to have it in. Blah! If you could all send some positive thoughts my way for tomorrow, it would be much appreciated. For quite a few reasons we are really hoping we do not have to delay our (already started) cycle!!!! Thanks all!
 

 

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Originally Posted by handerson003 View Post

Hey ladies, so we did our insemination. We did it at home with 10 ml syringe and it was full. I put a lil preeseed around the syringe just to give a little more wetness. Have any of you used preeseed or are? whats your thought on it? Also I had a question, we were kinda giggly and when the syringe was in she laughed and it came out. I had already inserted all the sperm but I just want to make sure we are ok. since the syringe was all slippery due to the wetness it came out like 2 times but i didnt see anything come out if it did. But i figured we probably are ok right since we inserted so much? Now shes at home with her legs up for as long as she can keep them up lol well her butt propped lol. We going to insert one more time tomorrow to cover us. But im hoping for this one to be a good one and good timing due to the temp dip and usually after a temp dip she will O that night so to me this is good timing what do you think????

 

Carmen- I hope so


10ml and it was full?? Really?! The most we've ever seen from our KD is 4 or 5 one time but usually it's closer to 2 or 3.

 

post #205 of 277

Ours gave us maybe 8 ml? I'm not sure if it even matters how much there is. I do know that when we froze his sperm it made like, five or six vials per sample, but the samples didn't necessarily have high counts. But maybe lots of semen equates to lots of sperm total? 

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Were you using fresh KS? Wow, that seems like so much. I've gotten pregnant 5 times now with our KD so I'm not worried about the amount...but I am surprised at the difference in amounts!

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Invitin: First of all I would like to say Welcome.gifI hope that your stay is short and sweet! You have found a wonderful group of women to share your joys & pain with! As far as your friend is concerned I think I echo what everyone else has already said, just make some clear boundaries and realize that this is not a lottery and your fate is not determined by someone else's good fortune or lack therof! All of my close friends have managed to get oops pregnant in the year + that DP and have been TTC, but I have tried my best to just be genuinely happy for them because I would want the same positive energy when it happen for us! I wish you lots of luck in your journey!

 

Desert: That thought is EXACTLY what has me wrestling with whether to test or not... I'm always thinking I don't want it to be negative, but what if? As far using 3 vials, I feel as though it may be overkill, 2 is usually optimal, but as you can see Sara & a few others were able to get pregnant from 1 vial. Are you guys temping? That would be an effective way to chart ovulation and thus reduce the need for more vials. YAY for FS walking!! Now you won't be able to slow him down lol!

 

Ad Astra: I was sitting here debating whether it would toughen my skin to see a BFN or AF to arrive eyesroll.gif I am so happy that you were able to hear the heartbeat!!! I know that you have to be over the moon!

 

Krista: clap.gifVery impressive!

 

Carmen:  You & me both! I am just downright petrified! My monitor was on high for over a week before it gave me a peak day, so don't fret just yet smile.gif

 

KsDoula: Thank you for the link! I can add this to my Doula CD

 

MrsPP: I am so happy for you I wish I could reach out and just hug you! I always get worried about timing, I think it is a normal part of the process.Welcome to the dreaded 2WW also know as the "Let's analyze every movement, bump, gas bubble, and burp for the next 2 weeks" I am hoping that you have some GREAT Beginners Luck!!

 

AFM: Well we are at 10DPO almost 11DPO and I am FREAKING OUT! So I have been trying to coax DP into letting me test in the morning before I leave for vacation, but I don't think she is going for it irked.gif which means that I have to wait until I get back home which isn't until SUNDAY! That means I can't test until Monday of next week!! UGH! That will be 16DPO and at that point all suspense will be gone anyway because AF is due either Saturday or Sunday *pouting* I have not really had any symptoms that are significant. I have been having creamy/lotion CM (TMI sorry) for the past week or so, my temps are still high but AF is not due yet either. My breasts are kind of sore but that is normal the week before AF. I have been having these cramps for the past 2 days that kind of feel like a mix between AF & Ovulation cramps like this achy feeling so who knows maybe AF is coming early or gearing up. But as mush as I want to test I am terrified of whether it will be positive or not. DP did have a "spirit baby" dream last night so maybe that is a positive sign. I guess we will know 1 way or another tomorrow, Saturday, or Monday uhoh3.gif

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So my DPs temp only rose like .4 this morning and last month it jumped up like .8 degrees last month. Can and does it take a few days to rise or ?? Becuz yesterday morning it dropped .4 degrees which told me shes going to ovulate soon so we inseminated yesterday morning and this morning its back at the normal temp cuz it rose back up .4 degrees. Do you think it will keep rising???? I really hope so.  

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Were you using fresh KS? Wow, that seems like so much. I've gotten pregnant 5 times now with our KD so I'm not worried about the amount...but I am surprised at the difference in amounts!

Yes, that is how much there was when we used fresh. I knew it seemed like a lot at the time, but when we were freezing his sperm before his move overseas this summer, the cryobank said usually one sample can be made into 2-3 vials to freeze. He went in 4 times and we have a total of 29 vials... if you do the math that is an average of 7.25 vials per sample, which had me floored. So... I know the actual amount of semen he creates is a lot. (Boy, I suppose he might be mortified to know that I am sharing this information! Haha.)
 

 

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Carmen- He did have to add some yolk buffer since he ships it so the sperm stays alive so it may have actualy been only 6-7 mls ???

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Poking my head out of a huge de-cluttering project:

 

Invitin: I so know what you are going through. I was the first person in both my local and my online circle to start trying to have or adopt a kid. Now, almost five years later, everyone has either birthed a baby or completed their adoption. Even my therapist became pregnant and had a kid since I've been ttc! I've become distant from most of my local friends and took a two year break from any ttc forums. I've been lucky enough that my friends understand. I didn't go to one baby shower, just sent over gifts, and no one was the least bit offended. I know this is not the case with everyone. Even though I took a break from forums it wasn't from lack of sympathy or support from the wonderful people I've met there. This is a good place to talk to people who understand what you are going through. 

 

My ttc experience has been the hardest thing I've ever been through. (And I haven't exactly had smooth sailing before this!) I've found that breaks in trying are necessary for my mental health. I just got back in to ttc from a 7 month break where I made huge changes in my life. My ttc breaks give me a chance to get a less wrenching perspective on trying. The first 2 years I was ttc I had the hardest time letting go. I couldn't stand even taking one cycle off. I always felt like I might loose my one shot if I skipped. I still have to remind myself that isn't how this works. 

 

I hope you find the support you need on this forum. Take care of yourself and hang in there. :)

 

AFM: (Now that I know what that means!) I'm half way through my 2ww. I'm fighting off a cold so it is hard to tell if I'm just sick or if something else is making me so tired. I'm due next Thursday, which happens to be the day I leave for a vacation full of concerts in Seattle. I think I'll test that morning to get it over with. 

 

Off to get rid of more stuff!! Best wishes to all!

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Handerson: her temp will probably rise more tomorrow...sometimes there is a delay or a slightly slower rise. I forgot to mention too that I used (and still use) pre seed....it works well smile.gif

Brite: your symptoms sound promising!! I would NEVER last until 16dpo....you're stronger than I am wink1.gif

Yeledov: a cold in the 2ww! That can be a good sign smile.gif

KS: I wonder if freezing it increases the amount somehow....fascinating stuff!

Afm: I'm kicking myself because I forgot to bring an opk with me to work. More ewcm today but no peak on the monitor yet. I want to O by Saturday!!!
post #213 of 277

This month is confusing me. So yesterday morning our temp rises .4 degrees and that to me indicated a O plus we know by the 2nd day after a +opk we will O. Well this morning it went back down .4 degrees. Why would it do that? I know now I gotta wait til tomorow to hope it goes back up but why did it drop again??? 

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Well I read that on the 2nd day past O there can be a dip but it should raise again tomorrow. and should stay high. Any of you experience this?  

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Originally Posted by handerson003 View Post

Well I read that on the 2nd day past O there can be a dip but it should raise again tomorrow. and should stay high. Any of you experience this?  



Sometimes there can be a dip after O, yes. See what happens tomorrow!

 

 

Afm: Peak on the monitor! Eek! I usually O on peak day and we haven't even insem'd yet! Argh. Opk was still negative yesterday so I didn't think I'd O today. We'll insem today anyway in hopes that we can catch it. (I'm still in shock that I might O before CD20!)

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Handerson/Carmen - I'm having the same thing! I thought I o'd on Monday - Tuesday had a temp jump, yesterday it went down again but today it had a HUGE jump. Now I'm second guessing myself and thinking we AI'd too early and that I actually o'd yesterday. But maybe not...? I can see how this wait makes people crazy! dizzy.gif

 

Yeledov - I hope your cold gets better soon! Have a great time on your trip!

 

KS - How did the dentist go?! I saw something on facebook that made me think you can still move forward....I hope so!

 

SweetRainbow - You really ARE sweet!!! I wish I could hug you too! hug2.gif that will have to do for now :) Thank you for all your support and encouragement - it truly means a lot. Did you end up testing today?!?! I'm dying to know what's going on in there! 

 

Desert - Thank you for your kind words and congratulations! It feels weird yet great and somewhat...normal? comfortable? I don't know the word...but it feels awesome to finally be in this place! As much as the wait sucks and I am totally second guessing everything I'm also just so happy to actually be in a tww! 

 

wave.gif to everyone I missed! I hope you are all having a wonderful week!

 

AFM - Like I mentioned above - HUGE temp rise this morning. Which of course I am taking to mean that I O'd yesterday and that we totally jumped the gun with the insems. I also had ewcm yesterday and the day before. UGH. I am flipping back and forth between thinking I am totally out and gearing up for October and then thinking...well, maybe something could still happen... DW said she won't be convinced of anything until AF shows. I did just read a success story where a woman had AI'd too early and had a confirmation of O on her chart 4 DAYS after she insemed...with frozen...and still got pg! A small ray of hope.

post #217 of 277
Mrs.PP: It could just be a fallback temp....you may have still O'd when you thought you did!

Afm: after getting the peak on the monitor this morning I also tested with an opk....very positive within 2 minutes. More ewcm too! I hope I O tomorrow and not today....I'm worried we've missed it!
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Carmen - You just gave me a renewed sense of hope! I had no idea what a fallback temp was so I just googled the hell out of it - and my chart seems to fit the description! Thank you for that!!! smile.gif I'm sending you 'O tomorrow' vibes thumb.gif

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KS - How did the dentist go?! I saw something on facebook that made me think you can still move forward....I hope so!

 

 

I was slow about updating here because I was feeling lazy. My dentist (who I love!) said he can't do a filling because of the position of the cavity- he wouldn't be able to get the drill in without damaging the adjacent tooth. However, he took a panoramic xray of my mouth and we looked at the cavity and its position in relation to the root. It looks like it is just a small cavity and he said there is almost no possible way for it to grow so much in the next year that it would reach the root where it would cause problems. His opinion is worst case scenario there's an infection that can be treated with antibiotics while I'm pregnant, there is almost 0% chance of needing surgery in the next 12 months. He gave us the go-ahead to do the IVF cycle, I passed the information on to IP's and the RE, and we are a go for this cycle! I start estradiol valerate and dexamethasone and antibiotics tomorrow... and the real fun begins! (Haha)

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Hi all: just dropping in to say that I had my uterine surgery yesterday and all went well. The doc saw a septum and removed it. Hopefully this will help if the embryo was in fact implanting on the septum and not getting the nutrients it needed. I will be healing for the next four weeks with the support of hormones and then bringing my period on. So next ovulation, we hope to be ready to inseminate with our KDs! For now, I'm laying on the bed with the pup and watching stupid movies and trying to be a good patient (which is very hard for me).

 

Krista

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