I'll make this short and sweet. I need tools, badly. And I want them to be as gentle as possible as we are going through an extremely hard time in our family life right now. DH and I have been separated and living together since March but the upheaval dates way back, most specifically to about 1 1/2 years ago. I know this is a long time for our DD's ( 5 and 2) to be living in uncertain circumstances and I'm really starting to see some effect on DD1. Lots of aggression towards me and DD2. My formerly sweet, easygoing babe has turned into someone who is hard to reason with when problems arise.
I hate time outs and don't use them. What DO I do when she gets aggressive or out of control? Time ins don't particularly work for us, she's too worked up most of the time. Logical consequences don't work i.e.-if you're going to hit your sister, then you can't play with her. This is something I never had to worry about with her before, EVER. She is a bright, very athletic kid who has always been way ahead of her peers in most things. She was always spirited but fairly easy to manage. Now I just feel helpless. Please, please help-I feel like she's slipping away and I want to maintain our wonderful bond.