So excited for you!!!!!!!!!! Yay!!!!! Congrats!!!!!
Pink AND Blue! Liam Edward and Maisie Faye are looking perfectly healthy and are very active. Liam is very proud to be a boy and was showing his junk off proudly. There is no doubt he's ALL BOY. Maisie spent most of the u/s kicking Liam in the head. (Maisie is pronounced MAY-zee)
Yay Kewpie! One of each!!!!
Yay kewpie, I war right! where is my prize? j/k.
Blue, my little ones are doing great growing big and making me hungry all the time. I get to see them on the 15 maybe we'll find out the sexes then, right now I'm thinking it's 2 girls.
Hi all, I'd like to join this thread. Well, you know what I mean... wish I wasn't in this situation in the first place, but since I am, I figure I may as well get a support system in place before I really get riding on this ttc rollercoaster. I've been on here reading posts for the last couple of weeks, and I'm still trying get to know everyone well enough and where they are at on their journey, and understand all the IVF stuff-- so I won't do any personals yet. But, I will say that I have been very touched by the experiences of everyone, the trials and tribulations, and I can see how encouraging and understanding everyone is of each other. So, I'm happy I have this place to come to. I wish we all didn't have to go through this.
So, Renavoo, please add me to the list under the one where it says "In waiting". I don't know what my little blurb beside my name should say... Basically, I'm on our clinic's IVF waitlist (2-4 months), awaiting 'the call'. Hopefully I can get started in November... fingers crossed...
Thanks!
Welcome Tenzins! Sorry you have to meet us here, but it really is a great group of ladies!
Kewpie, YAY for team purple!!!!! Love the names!
Sorry, I can't stay long...cause I am at work and they monitor everything!! But we just met with the new clinic and have our plan. It isn't as soon as I would like but they seem to micro-manage every detail which fits my personality well. There FET process is about 8 weeks, including BCP, Lupron, Estrogen (IM shots) and PIO. So it looks like my transfer will be the end of October or Early November. I wish it was sooner, but they have a strict system and would let me do a quicker natural cycle, but don't believe it is in my best interest. So I will do exactly what they say. He also said he would want to thaw all my day 3s and let them grow to blast and transfer the best 2, if needed he would thaw the day 4s and blasts too. Then vitrify anything remaining for use later. I like that he had the same plan that I thought I had made up in my head :)
The only bummer is the cost. I am having 3 tests done in 2 weeks that will cost $1,000. 1 is using saline to look for polyups, 1 is a "mock transfer" (not sure I really need that one), and then they are doing a blood flow study with sonogram to my uterus. It's a 30 min appointment...how is that even legal!
Copy from another thread because you ladies might know...
April, that is very reassuring. Yes, the clomid was so hard on me, I had so many nasty side effects that were physical, mental and emotional, and I seemed to get many of the ones that were considered 'rare'. And then the effects seemed to last for such a long time.
I'm just starting to get AF, should be full flow by tomorrow and then I get to call my period date into our clinic and then get officially put on the waitlist. It's 2-4 months. Now that we've made the decision to go ahead, I just want it to happen sooner rather than later. Our RE gave us a quick run-down on what to expect in terms of the protocol, but I'm still not really sure of the time process. I know that our clinic closes for a week in December for the Christmas break, so I don't know what they do when people are cycling through things and it comes time to do a transfer or whatever else is time sensitive-- can they tweak meds so that it coincides with when they are open, I wonder...?
I would assume they would adjust your timeline to account for their time off (ie. make you take BC and go through supression longer?) but I also know other clinics do not use BCP's so not sure. Wow - 2-4 month wait list? I know what you mean about once deciding just wanting to jump in...
I had a 'mock' transfer and wasn't sure that was needed as I did IUI's in the past. My RE did this at the same time as the saline procedure and it tells him exactly where to transfer the embryo's, we are all different and I think it helps reduce the chance of egtopic pregnancy. Congrats on having a plan! Sounds like this is a good fit/move for you.
Welcome Tenzins! Sorry you have to meet us here, but it really is a great group of ladies!
Kewpie, YAY for team purple!!!!! Love the names!
Sorry, I can't stay long...cause I am at work and they monitor everything!! But we just met with the new clinic and have our plan. It isn't as soon as I would like but they seem to micro-manage every detail which fits my personality well. There FET process is about 8 weeks, including BCP, Lupron, Estrogen (IM shots) and PIO. So it looks like my transfer will be the end of October or Early November. I wish it was sooner, but they have a strict system and would let me do a quicker natural cycle, but don't believe it is in my best interest. So I will do exactly what they say. He also said he would want to thaw all my day 3s and let them grow to blast and transfer the best 2, if needed he would thaw the day 4s and blasts too. Then vitrify anything remaining for use later. I like that he had the same plan that I thought I had made up in my head :)
The only bummer is the cost. I am having 3 tests done in 2 weeks that will cost $1,000. 1 is using saline to look for polyups, 1 is a "mock transfer" (not sure I really need that one), and then they are doing a blood flow study with sonogram to my uterus. It's a 30 min appointment...how is that even legal!
Tenzins, based on my experiences with a fresh and several FET's at a clinic with limited "open" time, they know exactly how to take that into account. Like April said, they would probably extend the BCP or supression if you get started at the beginning of December. Our old clinic only did IVF/FET for 2 weeks every other month, so they can definitely make sure everyone is "on time".
AFM, HELP! So I called my "old" clinic and asked if my embryos could be prepared for a move to the new clinic. Yesterday was the last day the old clinc was open doing IVF/FET...but when I called over, they said they had put my aside since I was asking for my records, assuming I would be changing clinics. Well, then the RE says that he would make an exception and use space at a local hospital (that also does ART), to do a transfer for me at the end of the month if I wanted! WHAT!?! It went from December to September!?! It's an "exception", but still, I didn't know that was an option. What do you think? The cost would be WAY less, like $5000 less, but I am not sure that I will get a different result, if I just do the same thing again...especially with doing it at a different place that isn't the standard clinic, it would be a different embryologist too.
I like the plan the "new" clinic made (although it's a long protocol that will put my transfer late October/early November), and I feel confident about it, but then I also feel bad since I told the old RE I was leaving since he couldn't get me in until December. Now he changed his date, what do I say? Or should I try him again? Please feel free to offer advice, I kind of told my mom a little about it today (she doesn't know we have done IVF, FET) just because I needed someone to listen and give their opinion.
Lyndi, Keria, and Kewpie, thanks for checking in! Kewpie, I love your names...and i love the fact that your little boy is going to be a rambunctious one!
RCR, I'm so happy you're starting! I really envy your time off, by the way...sometimes I feel like i want to do that too. Just take some time and not worry about it. But i know i'd worry about it anyway because my brain is defective that way. 
I'm really really sorry we started the discussion about cancer. I'm sure during your searches you found that they haven't been able to find definitive evidence that cancer risk is increased. Also, according to the clinical studies, EVERYTHING causes cancer. I mean, my typing on this keyboard probably showers me with radiation and leads to cancer. hehe seriously, please don't worry!!
Belly, YAH TO HAVING A PLAN!! I'm excited for you! Can you get the saline sonogram covered? Does your insurance not even cover diagnostics? I know my RE also used my saline sonogram as a "mock transfer"- they just like to have a plan of the uterus. By the way, what a regimen for your FET. I wonder why you need the Lupron. You know, I'm a little worried because I wonder if injectible estrogen and PIO is a more effective way to go. I asked my RE and he said that it was the same but it does look like more people (including him) prefer the injectibles...or at least, start out with them!
Ooph, i typed this up and then read your second post. the question is, would this new doctor put you on the same regimen and also, allow for the blastocyst development? If so, it may be worth it to go forward. Although, then again, it really is only an additional month and a half...do you feel like you'd have any regrets rushing? i mean, if you don't end up with a BFP, will you blame this? If not, I would go for it! (incidentally, I would probably go with the quicker route, just because i'm impatient like that.)
April, how are you doing? how's everything going for you so far?
AFM, on day 6 of BCPs out of 9,820,983 days. Or at least, it feels like I'll be on them that long :o) I went to my new gyn this morning and I really like her. I get in there though and the nurse measures my height and my weight and suddenly, I'm shorter and heavier. I told the nurse and the doctor that this is not a good way to start off the appointment. hehe at least my blood pressure was ok. Seriously, I did gain like 5 pounds though. i really need to go on a diet. I'm sure the dunkin donuts muchkins I ate afterwards didn't help. Maybe i'll start my diet tomorrow. I'm happy i like my new gyn though!
Renavoo, yay for a great ob! I really like mine too, and it just makes things so much better. Love your comment about suddenly being shorter and fatter :) I hope they laughed too!
So I guess the debate for me is just deciding if I should change RE's now that mine said he would do the FET sooner for me. I feel like my chances at the new clinic are better and I think they have the skills/expertise to thaw my Day 3s and let them grow to blast...I mean they brought it up! Even though I have been thinking about it for weeks. I guess I am more worried about hurting my old RE's feelings now that he offered to get me in sooner. And the cost of course, I mean a $5000 difference for an FET isn't chump change. Why must things be so complicated!?!
Belly, that's hard, I don't know what I would do, Is your old RE doing something different this time? What did he say about the cycle not working?. It sounds like you feel good about the new clinic's plan if you can afford it maybe you should go with them.
Belly, I would switch to the clinic with better statistics. We switched clinics when we started IVF, although it was mainly because the doctor at the old clinic was awful, it was also because the clinic we switched to has the best stats in the country. I would feel like their protocol must be better, even if it is longer. And FWIW, my clinic's protocol will be about 6 weeks from day 1 to FET. That is crazy expensive though, our FET will be $1000 plus meds.
Renavoo - Can you please add me to waiting? Waiting for karyotype results, DH's urologist appt, my perinatologist appt, and the new year to free up some insurance coverage.
Belly - Sorry about the perfect cycle and BFN. I sympathize since that was my last cycle too. As for which clinic to choose, that is a tough one. Statistics are one thing, but your peace of mind/comfort is just as important, IMO. Probably not very helpful, but there you go...
Kewpie - Congratulations again. You are so lucky!
April - I noticed your signature includes a school age child. If you have any advice on dealing with a fresh IVF with a curious kid, please share. My daughter started kindergarten yesterday.
rcr - My RE totally agrees with the hormone weight gain theory. I already liked her, but when she said that I could have kissed her. I've lost 10 pounds since being artificial hormone free since the end of May. I am guessing these last 10 pounds will take actual effort...just in time to start all over again this January. LOL!
Laggie - I am sorry for your loss. After my D&C, my RE recommended at least 3 cycles before FET and I am glad we waited. I needed time to heal physically and the waiting also helped my mental state too. I didn't want to start a cycle mourning. I wanted to be positive about it and also totally separate. That might just be me though, I'm a pretty linear person.
Well I'm out this cycle...BFN! 
I'm not sure what's next for us...we had a lot of hope and expectations wrapped up into this cycle. My RE won't do another cycle until October...fresh or frozen. I may look at changing insurance so that I can change RE's, the only other RE that my current insurance covers is 2 1/2-3 hrs drive from where I live. The RE that I have now is 1 1/2 hours away right now...so I really don't want to travel too much further than that. I'm just not sure my current RE is the one that can get me pregnant.
Gelly - so sorry to hear about the BFN!!!
I think it is very important to feel confident that you are with a good RE. I forget if you have frozen embies and how many?
Julieven - did they telly you how long it would take to get your results back?? Keep us posted.
Belly - I'm the same way about switching Drs... don't want to hurt feelings (also the same way about the hair-dresser too - LOL), but i think in this situation I'd go with whoever you feel is going to be able to get you that BFP and not worry about feelings. $5000 difference for a FET is crazy!!! - That is huge. You need to do what is best for you and not what is nicer for other's feelings. Drs are used to people switching or getting different opinions, so I don't think he'd hold it against you especially since you have tried so many already with him and it hasn't worked. If you feel like your protocol should be switched (I think that would be a good idea since you've been doing the same thing and it isn't working) and you old Dr is willing to switch which in turn will save you $ then maybe stay with him and make sure they follow the other drs protocol. Maybe letting them go to blast will help, but what if they all don't make it then what, and you spent all that extra $. I mean at least you would know then that it is something with those frozen embies and a fresh cycle is really necessary. How many frosties do you have left again? Everything is complicated with IF, it is so not fair!!!
Renavoo - IF makes us shrink and get wider.... so not nice! 
rcr - yay for good numbers!!!
Tenzins - Welcome!!! I hope your stay is short and sweet!!!!
Keria - good to hear that all is going well!!!! Can't wait to hear about your U/S now!! Keep us posted!!
AFM - I'm just waiting for AF and trying to figure out all this insurance crap. With DH new work we have a big deductible, so i'm trying to figure out if the drugs are on the formulary and if so then if they will go towards our deductible and then I'll wait to order the main ones until we switch insurances, but if it doesn't go towards the deductible then i'll order them before we lose his old insurance even though they only pay for like the antibiotic and valium. Talk about complicated!!!!!! So hard to figure those things out when you don't have a new insurance card or any numbers. So before the last wk of Sept I need to have it all figured out.
Oh Gelly I am so sorry. I know it is the absolute worst feeling in the world. I cried for 3 days straight and then decided it was time to start looking forward. I am strongly considering switching RE's as well. If you can I would at least meet with the other RE and see what they have to say. Do you have any frosties you could try with your current RE or move to a new one?
Blue, I hope you can find out a way to get the best deal between the insurances and you drugs! I would do the exact same thing :) If all my embies are bad, it would cost $5000+ for either clinic, since my old clinic would just keep putting them back every other month at $1800 a month. So now that I think about it like that at least I would find out quick at the new clinic.
Keira, I can't wait to find out your genders! So exciting!!!
rcr, yay for lower FSH levels!!!
Renavoo, can you move me to Waiting - "FET late October, early November". I think I still have my old transfer/beta up there. Thanks! I am NOT excited about starting BCP next week...I am actually jealous you are already on day 7 
Julie, so will you be doing a fresh cycle in the new year? So far with all of my FETs everything has been really easy to hide from my toddler, but everyday she gets a little smarter and more curious. This next cycle everything will be shots instead of orally/vaginally and I think that will be a lot harder to "hide"...and I don't want her bringing it up with my mother in law that babysits her a couple times a week! I hope you get some good advice on going through this with a school age child because I am sure it's entirely different!
Kewpie, I am just so excited for you!!
April, I am glad others have done a mock transfer, it seems like a money maker to me, but I would hate to have another ectopic and if it makes them more confident during transfer I guess it's worth it! You start stims tomorrow right!?! It's really getting started!!!!
AFM, DH and I decided last night we plan to change clinics. My old RE said he would use the same protocol and although it could work (luck) I am more confident with the other office that is crossing their t's and dotting every i. This first cycle would be the most expensive because it has the extra testing they require for $1000 and they plan on refreezing (using vitrification) any of the leftover embies $1500 (we have 15 frosties right now - started with 24). These costs probably wouldn't come up again if we have enough for another FET. Dr. B at the new clinic wants to give me the absolute best chance this time and if we have to use all our frosties to get 2 at their top grade that's what he wants to do. We agree, because we have gone the slow/conservative route for the past 8 months and time is really becoming an issue for us. I just wish we would have done this 6 months ago :(
Belly - with this new clinic will you have to still wait every other month if things don't work for some reason. That is a real pain to have to wait when you have waited so long for this to happen. I think you are making a wise decision and it has to feel good to finally have things figured out. I have a good feeling about this new RE... I think this will be what you need!!!
Blue, Yes and No on the wait. I could start another cycle right away, but their protocol is twice as long as the other clinic so it ends up being 8 weeks between transfers either way. I really hope we all get our BFPs during this Fall thread!!!! We can hit the DDC togethr :) There is going to be a lot of action in October/November!!!!
gelly - I'm so sorry you got a BFN 
Blue - I hate all the insurance crap too. DH's work switched insurance in between our cycle last fall and the one in the spring. What a headache! I feel your pain.
Belly - I'm sure doctors are used to patients switching and I wouldn't worry about feelings. You need to do what is best for you. (hugs)....now I just read your update saying you're switching... I think you're making a smart choice!
Tenzin - Welcome to the group! I wish you didn't have to be here, but welcome all the same. Like blue, I hope your stay is very short.
Hello Ladies,
Just made it over and I am getting caught up with everyone.
Belly: So sorry about your results. I am thinking of you.
Kewpie: What a blessing. You should listen to the Colin Raye song One Boy One Girl. :)
Rcr: It is amazing how these injectibles take over our lives. I had to miss out on several events because of the same.
Lyndi: Congrats on the ultrasound!
renavoo: So happy you are moving forward with the BCP.
April: I know what you mean about being intimate with your husband. Since the BFP we haven't been because of the spotting they put me on pelvic rest. :(
Blue: Thinking of you. Were are you at right now?
AFM: Anxiously waiting for my first ultra on September 15. The spotting stopped for two days but I had a little more this morning. I know this can be normal but I am still very nervous. It seems like it would be a cruel joke. I tried not to tell anyone but I ended up telling a few people. I hope that wasn't a mistake. Glad to be on here with you ladies.
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