Hello all! Coming out of lurkdom to ask for some advice...
I have a spirited 7yo who's in first grade and is having trouble on the school bus.
He's not new to the school bus or to this school, but he's having a really hard time controlling himself lately.
It started the first week of school when the principal called to tell me that my son wouldn't stay sitting down. So, I talked to my son and we discussed the dangers of distracting the bus driver and all the other kids with his behavior.
After that he was behaving on the bus, but then acting out in class. So, we had another talk and removed some of his priviledges. That seemed to work for the last couple of weeks. I even got a "brag" call from his teacher to tell me how well he's been doing.
Then this past weekend he went on a misbehaving "rampage". Just general defiance, a lie he got caught in and an incident that resulted in his outside distance restricted and some stricter house rules put in place. He was upset, but seemed generally back to normal. Even the last couple of days at school were decent.
But this morning, even after I gave him a reminder about bus behaviour and that he needed to sit in one of the first three bus seats, I got another call from the school that my son was fighting with another kid and tried to physically lash out. Now, I know this isn't all my son's fault, but he knows better than to put his hands on another kid. I'm dismayed.
I don't know what to do next. I'm a single mom and his daddy lives 700 miles away so I know he's missing him after summer visitation, but DS "says" he's alright about that. Says he knows how visitation works. If I restrict the kid anymore I feel like that would take a backwards approach. And, plus, when he's good on the bus then he has trouble in class, but when he's good in class he has trouble on the bus....so it's not like he's a total problem...he just only seems to have so much allotted behaviour. Lol.
We talk, we play games, we go places. We spend all our weekend time together and whatever time we have after nightly chores is together...it's not like this is stemming from not spending enough time with mom. (*I* don't think).
Does this sound just something all kids drudge through and have to get in trouble for?
Where do I go next with him? He's already been put in school suspension for the day and the next incident would lead to banning him from the bus which I cannot have...as I don't have flexibility to take him everyday.
Thanks for reading all that and any advice ya'll can give!