I'm about to enter the world of blended families and I feel like I have a million questions every day. I wish I had a friend or mentor that I could just email to get her opinion on. My BF and I are both new trying to blend two families. Things seem to be going well so far, but we are definitely still in the "honeymoon" phase plus I am not fully moved into his place yet. Anyone out there with some experience willing to be a sort of "mentor" for me? Here's a little about me:
I'm 35, live in southern WI with my 3.5 year old daughter. I have her 100% of the time and her father is not involved at all,so I am able to make all the decisions regarding her. My BF is 33, has an 8yo girl and a 6yo boy. He has them 50-65% of the time. His ex-wife is non-cooperative for the most part. I "met" her for the first time last night, but she pretty much pretended I did not exist, so I'm not sure I could call it a meeting. We're having issues with her right now because before I came around, my BF just did whatever she asked and now he has been telling her no a lot (basically because we make plans with the kids and she wants to keep them longer, so he tells her no instead of just handing them over. He's not saying no because I'm asking/telling him to). Mostly what my questions are about are dealing with my emotions surrounding his ex and dealing with her and dealing with our different parenting styles and ideas about how we want to deal with things.
Thanks in advance :)