I had another thread about fighting with my OB over cervical exams and ended up trying a new OB. Well...the new one wasn't any better. I mentioned to her that I had a 3rd degree tear with baby #1 and she said that they offer c-sections to all women who have had a third or fourth degree tear. I left the office thinking she was crazy, but the more I think about it, the more I am considering taking her up on that.
DS was born at 35 weeks and after pushing for 2.5 hours, they had to use the vacuum (heart rate dropping). The tearing was horrible. I literally did not drive anywhere for two full months because I couldn't sit flat on the seat to drive. Didn't have sex for six full months... Ended up in physical therapy for months, and quite frankly, I have never been the same down there. I guess if you have had one bad tear, another is more likely. The other thing is that I don't have a lot of confidence that if I am lucky enough to have this baby go full term that I will be able to get an even bigger baby out without worse tearing. Also, like DS, baby is measuring big (even bigger than DS) and I am very very small.
Just wondering what others thoughts are. I do really want a natural childbirth but not if I end up with another third or fourth degree tear.