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post #21 of 27
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I have to laugh at this, because I keep telling my husband that and I swear to god he still kisses like a guppy.

 

Pelvic relaxation is so important, but kissing isn't mandatory. being in the birth tub was enough for me. 
 

 

Haha! Mine too! What's up with that?!

@hildare- I totally understand your viewpoint. Good points made. It really sucks for the women concerned with this because it's like pre-existing physical issues, thats a tough one. I wonder: WWIMD? What would Ina May do? smile.gif
post #22 of 27

I spoke to the OB-GYN yesterday and he doesn't see a valid reason for me to need a C-Section. I am so happy.

post #23 of 27
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I spoke to the OB-GYN yesterday and he doesn't see a valid reason for me to need a C-Section. I am so happy.



Yay! Please trust that it's less about size and more about parity and position.

post #24 of 27

Hope all turns out well for you OP. 

 

I had a 3rd degree tear with my dd (posterior birth) and subsequent retained placenta that had to be manually removed.  Things were pretty uncomfortable for me for a year and then I went to the most amazing women's health PT who fixed my entire life, well at least part of life ;)

 

PT combined with doing Pilates 3 times a week resolved all my troubles with sex and incontinence. 

 

She has a book called Wild Feminine that is life-changing and a must-read for any postpartum woman  http://www.wildfeminine.com/

 

 

post #25 of 27

So sorry you're in this position mama, and so sorry that you have had permanent issues from your tear.

 

I had a 4th degree tear (from forceps) during my first birth.  Healing was very painful and difficult.  However, a full year after the birth, I was about 95% back to normal.  By 18 months postpartum, I was 100% back to normal.  I can honestly say that, other than an actual visible scar, everything about that area is back to normal.  I had my 2nd baby at home in the water, and had just a very superficial abrasion with him.  I realize how fortunate I am and I wish the same were true for everyone.

 

My point is, though, that even a 3rd or 4th degree tear is not a guarantee of permanent injury or lifelong issues.  Moms like myself have had severe tears and have been able to heal and recover normally without problem.  Maybe you had a poor repair job done, or maybe just bad luck, I don't know.  But I wanted you to know that even if you were to choose another vag birth, and if you were to tear badly again, it's not a guarantee that your recovery would be as bad as it was the first time.  

 

Thinking back to my bad tear, and thinking about that vs. a c-section, I would choose the 4th degree tear a hundred times over.  But I had a good outcome and you did not.  And there's no way to predict which way it's going to go.  I hope you are able to make a decision you are comfortable with.  Good luck to you!  

 

 

post #26 of 27
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Sorry for the delay everyone.  I was hospitalized for preterm labor, which is where I remain.... Anyhow, thank you all for your replies!  I appreciate it. 

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i never had a vaginal birth or a tear, so i can't compare, but i really want to avoid a c-birth this time.  not just because the recovery was difficult, that was actually the least difficult part for me (i never took any meds besides what was in the spinal and toredol). 


Thank you for your perspective.  I would definitely like to avoid the c-section for all the reasons you described.  On the other hand, I am torn (no pun intended) because I do believe the seemingly endless pain from the terrible tear I had also impacted my mental health greatly after DS was born.  I think I may have held up better to all the breastfeeding pressure (he was preterm so lots of issues), had I not had such terrible pain for so many months.  Tough call.  You had a thread on c-section medication choices, right?  If that was you, you had lots of good questions and that has helped me with my c-section fall back birth plan.  I am also demanding that they do not give me narcotics. 
 

 

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Originally Posted by LuminosaJane View Post

I had a 3rd degree tear with my dd (posterior birth) and subsequent retained placenta that had to be manually removed.  Things were pretty uncomfortable for me for a year and then I went to the most amazing women's health PT who fixed my entire life, well at least part of life ;)

 

PT combined with doing Pilates 3 times a week resolved all my troubles with sex and incontinence. 

 

She has a book called Wild Feminine that is life-changing and a must-read for any postpartum woman  http://www.wildfeminine.com/



Thank you for the suggestion!  DS was posterior as well, which I am guessing did not help my tearing at all.  Anyone know if you have one posterior baby if you're likely to have another? 

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So sorry you're in this position mama, and so sorry that you have had permanent issues from your tear.

 

I had a 4th degree tear (from forceps) during my first birth.  Healing was very painful and difficult.  However, a full year after the birth, I was about 95% back to normal.  By 18 months postpartum, I was 100% back to normal.  I can honestly say that, other than an actual visible scar, everything about that area is back to normal.  I had my 2nd baby at home in the water, and had just a very superficial abrasion with him.  I realize how fortunate I am and I wish the same were true for everyone.


That is the hard thing...there is no way to predict if I will be back to normal.  That is fantastic that you didn't tear badly with your second!  Was there much of a size difference between your kids?  Anything besides a water birth that helped you not tear?  I don't know if my hospital allows water births or not, but I cannot see feeling comfortable sitting my butt down to give birth in the same tub someone else did...I am a total germ-phobe and would be worried that they hadn't properly cleaned the tub.  If that wasn't such a hang up for me, or if I could have a home birth, I would do it. 
 

 

post #27 of 27

Totally DDCC.  Baby #1 was posterior, Babies 2 and 3 were not.

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