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Priorities (Evening student with 6 month old

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I'm a mom to a six-month old boy. I'm in Canada so I still have a bit more than 3 months of maternity leave to enjoy.
When I was 4 months pregnant, I started a full-time evening course in Commercial Photography. It's a 4 semester program and I have completed 1 semester. Photography is my passion and I have been doing it for 11 years now. I did some
classes in University (artistic photography) and assisted commercial photographers. The program I'm in is perfect for gaining advanced technical knowledge and learning from experienced top-notch local photographers and is unique to the city of live in. The problem is that they're strict on full-time status as it's gouvernment funded. It's on average 4 nights a week for 3-4 hours. I just started last week but I already knew it would be too many evenings away from my baby. I have to leave the house at 6 and he goes to sleep at8:30. Another thing is homework. I have no one to babysit him during the day and truth be told I don't even really want to send him yet to a drop-in daycare. Therefor I'm depending on naptime to get homework (along with everything else) done.
My real question is how I can deal with this change in priority in my life. I love my baby and being a mom. At the same time, my passion for photography hasn't dwindled and this program I think will give me the skills to build a career. I'm 34 and would like a 2nd child so postponing my studies doesn't feel like an option. I have ideas on how I might convince them to do the program part-time but I'm not sure yet it will work...
I know you can't have it all. I'm trying to find options. How can I be a mom that's present yet still not give up my dream of pursuing a career I'm passionate about?

post #2 of 3

All I know is I can relate. You said it...you can't have it all.

 

dig deep into your heart to know what is right for you and your baby and your family and future.

 

Get your nerve up and ask if they will take you part time with your proposed ideas.  All they can say is yes or no.

 

I know for sure that you can not postpone your baby growing up. That first year the change so much and many parents say that parents are a vital touchstone for little ones. So it is a very emotional decision.

 

Good Luck!

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Thanks olliemi. They said I can't be expelled for withdrawing from classes so it looks like a found an unofficial way to be part-time for now. Have to take it one day at a time. :)

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