My 7yo DD has just started second grade. She finished last school year reading at the eight grade level. DP and I have been struggling with our daughters and I picked up some parenting books. I put one in the bathroom one morning, where DP is more likely to make progress reading. I found some time to read, so I went in there to get it. It was missing.
I looked for the book throughout the day and couldn't find it. My daughters seemed to have no idea where it went. I checked in with them all that evening, describing the cover. I told them it was a parenting book. 7yo DD perked up. "Oh---- You mean How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk?" She went right over to her bed and dug it out from beside her mattress. She handed it to me. "You've already tried most of this stuff." She gave me an example of something I'd tried. I can't remember what it was. I was so surprised.
I admit that I laughed later when I told DP what had happened. We both thought it was funny, but also made us a little nervous. DD has picked up my cookbooks and magazines - natural living, cooking sorts - but she has never been interested in this type of reading. She must have been drawn in by the title. I can't say it is necessarily bad that she read some of this particular book. She only had it for a day, so she couldn't have read it all. (I think) Anyway, it comes from an angle of respecting children's feelings and I'm glad that she knows that is our goal. It will probably be good to discuss it with her once DP and I have talked about it.
Our problems with this particular DD stem from her challenging our rules/decisions. DD's sensory issues have come into play as well. I want her to feel like a kid -- I want her to trust that her parents can protect her and that we do have at least some of the answers. When I was a child, I didn't feel like a kid and I really wanted to.
I wonder, too, about how much information she might be exposed to that is age-inappropriate for her. We have parental controls on the computer and I don't keep my adult-appropriate reading around generally. What else should we be doing?
On a side-note: I'd love some parenting book suggestions that might be helpful for our family.