Bajingo Juice into the Fall - TTC #1 in our 30's - September 2011 thread - Page 3

[lilacvioletiris]

My temp jumped today.  Now I have to wait two more days to see if it really is my O day.  Felt some pain in the right ovary today.  Waiting, waiting.

[reelala]

hi everyone, i'd love to join you guys! i am 30 and dh is 25 - that's right, i'm almost 6 years older than him.  i've been charting for 4 months.  last month we threw caution to the wind but this month we decided to ttc! we just celebrated our one year wedding anniversary and cannot wait to start a family. looking forward to sharing this journey with all of you lovely ladies!

[TickleToes]

Got the results of my progesterone test today. My number is 13.9 and my doc was really pleased with it, so I don't need to worry about a lack of progesterone being the cause of my miscarriages. It makes me feel a little more hopeful about maintaining my next pregnancy. I also feel better knowing that I couldn't have done anything to prevent losing the last two. So, as things stand now, I'm just going to keep trying and will contact my doc as soon as I find out I'm pregnant so she can start doing some early monitoring. I'm feeling pretty good about the process.

AF is due Friday or Saturday. This is the first month in more than a year that I haven't charted... so I'm a bit at loose ends. In some ways it is less stressful, in others it is more so. I gave up stressing about getting good sleep to make sure my temps are accurate and exchanged that for not having a clue about how many DPO I am or whether I can anticipate AF with certainty. My temps during the last few days of my cycle typically keep me sane and grounded in reality... slowly falling temps mean I am not pregnant, then I can deal with that. High temps are something to be excited about. At the moment... I'm just in the dark and trying not to overanalyze my breast sensitivity and how tired and thirsty I feel.

Oi. Just a few more days of not knowing. I think I might temp again next cycle to avoid this.

[lilacvioletiris]

Yesterday was a sobbing mess.  My temp dropped again.  What is going on?  This is CD 27!  I should have ovulated by now.  My DH is like "maybe you should give up using pregnancyAnonymous.org if it causing you this much stress?" but my response was what TickleToes just mentioned, not knowing when my period is going to come or having hope that my temps will stay high and be pregnant would be stressful for me too!

What put me over the edge was having to tell a good friend of mine I couldn't participate in a singing group (which I had been a part of since 2006) because driving 1.5 hours each way each weekend was financially out for us, because I really want to stay home once I have a baby.  Giving up something I love to do - sing with friends and perform at different venues - for something I would love to do - stay home with my children - is such a hard decision.  Delayed gratification?  Maybe.

I should have just stayed off facebook after I emailed her.  A friend of mine (a couple years older than me) just had her NINTH baby on 9/9!  Another one of my former students (who graduated in 2007) is going to have a baby this year and just posted "It's a girl!".  Another former student had photos of himself putting together his little girl's crib and decorating her room with his wife (they are having a "honeymoon baby" due in November).  The one lady who is my age in my area and has a baby isn't really someone I click with.  I feel out of sorts and without female friends nearby who are at a similar stage of life.  I love my DH and he is a great man, but he isn't a "girl friend" to chill and do things with.  I was just in a puddle of tears last night. 

End vent.

[TeamViddy]

Hi SarahFaith- nice to meet you!

TickleToes, so glad to hear. I hope everything works out!

Lilac, sorry, that sounds so difficult. Those lady friendships are so important in life. One of my good friends is moving overseas today and I was a weepy mess this weekend. Is there a singing group you could join that is closer?

Pitch, any news?! I am on the edge of my seat-- how are you feeling?

AFM- CD27, somewhere around 13DPO. My temp dropped a little this morning but nothing too dramatic. I don't have a strong feeling that I am pregnant or am not- there are things going on in my body that could indicate either way. I swear my nips got darker, but I thought that last month too. On Sunday I got out of the shower and one looked darker than the other, and dramatically so. I saw my sister later in the day and since we're thaaat close I was like, "Look at my nips! Aren't they different colors!?" she just laughed and told me not to show her one month old baby because he would go bonkers over those boobs. Hahaha. I am just glad I am SO close to being done with the 2WW psychosomatic insanity.

[calpurnia7]

lilac - i'm so sorry for what you're going through right now.  That's frustrating, when you want something so much, you don't have it yet, and everyone else around you does.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

[ValH]

TickleToes - Yay for the good progesterone numbers, and a positive attitude!  

Lilac - 

[pitchounette]

Lilac, I'm so sorry about your temp, and also your frustration.  I completely understand.  I found out today that a parent at my school (who already has 3 undisciplined kids from 3 different dads under the age of 7) is expecting TWINS in the spring.  I mean, really?!  Delayed gratification is a good concept in theory but very difficult to do in life.  What are you thinking about your temps?  Any clues why they are so low this month for so long? 

Tickle, yay for good numbers!!  It's also good to know that the next time you get pregnant (which could be soon, yay!) you will get monitored right away.  That would help put my mind at ease.  I'm considering not charting and taking the month off.  I don't know why.  I'm tired of a number on a thermometer determining the mood of my day.  :(  It's devastating, confusing, bewildering at times... yet I'm scared of the alternative and the NOT knowing for certain if/when I O, and if/when I get pregnant and knowing when to test, etc.  So jury's still out.  ;)

Welcome sarahfaith!! 

Hey Val!  You're getting so close to your due date!!  How are you feeling? 

Viddy, well, I haven't started AF yet, but I just *feel* her right around the corner.  Today is 14 dpo and this will be my longest LP if I don't start till tomorrow!  My temps are hovering just above the coverline.  Really thought it would've dropped bigtime today and AF would start.  I honestly do NOT feel pregnant and I'm 99.99% certain I will start AF tonight or tomorrow.  :(  Which is a colossal bummer and honestly makes me want to burst into tears.  Your symptoms sound very promising!  I'm pulling for you... you'd be my second cycle buddy (Rosie was my first) to get pregnant before me!  ;)  But I'm like you---just ready to know either way.  The 2WW is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.  And I'm doing it over and over!!

I've always heard that LP doesn't change from cycle to cyle, but mine has routinely varied from 12-14 days.  I know that's not a big variation, but when you're waiting to see if pregnancy has occurred, those extra couple of days are killer.  :(  It's also made me question my O date, but I have a VERY clearly defined temp spike every month. 

[CA Country Girl]

Hello All (sorry for no personals this time)

I have been very busy with school.  I am trying to ignore the 2ww this cycle ( I am DPO 6 I think, although FF says 3).  Anyone know why FF doesn't consider anything besides temperature when determining ovulation?  My chart is wacky this month because I was sick 7-9.  I had to take away all my high pre-O temps before it would even tell me I ovulated, despite all the other signs I had put in (ie CP and CF), then drew the crosshairs at a 2nd slight dip, rather than the big one that aligned with the other signs. Kind of frustrating, but as I said, I am trying not to think too much about it this time.

Hugs to everyone.

[reelala]

Lilac - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.  The first thing i thought of is what my gram and mom always say "good things come to those who wait" you're going to be a great momma i'm sure and you won't take anything for granted.

Viddy -  How goes the wait?!

As for me - We start the BD in less than a week! I've been charting for 4 months now and I typically O on CD13.  Last month I O'd  a day early and then AF came a day early so I am not worried too much about my regularity. Even though this is our first time really TTC, I've decided not to chart this month because I've found myself analyzing my temps every morning and then was really disappointed when I saw my temp starting to go down.  I've had 4 ovulatory cycles in a row so here's to hoping that this month is too!  Any words of wisdom??  I did start with the red rasberry leaf tea last night and I am hoping that a couple of cups a day will get my body nice and ready for a sweet little nugget!

[PoorUglyHappy]

Sarahfaith, It sounds like you are a dedicated chart-er!  It seems to me like you are super prepared.  My charting is pretty lazy, so I am trying to be better about it. 

CACountry,  I am super busy with school too.  It does make time go faster though, doesn't it?

Lilac, I am totally with you on the girlfriend thing.  All of my closest girlfriends are still running around doing the bar thing, focusing on their careers and dating around.  In LA, this seems to be the norm.  I guess because we are all just struggling to pay the rent.   It would be nice to just have one live friend to share this stage of my life with.  

As for me, I am enjoying not being in a 2ww.  DH and I BDed about 3 days before O and then he went out of town for the next 5.  So I guess there's a chance but after 15 months of timing it right and it not working out, I am not so hopeful.   I believe FF when it says my chances are low.  :) 

[TeamViddy]

Pitch, sorry to hear. I hope everything is OK-- have you figured out why you didn't feel well the other day?

AF is supposed to start today according to my normal cycle length and my temp didn't drop this morning, soooo I felt justified in the POAS. It was clearly negative. I'm not that surprised since my temperature has been creeping down the past week.

I've had lower appetite than usual I am thinking it is because of the prenatal vitamins. I started taking some samples I got from the doctor. I am both active and heavy (according to the BMI I am morbidly obese, and I also fit into "straight sized" clothes and am very physically active, biking, running, dancing all the time), and I have always had a big appetite. I am wondering if I had a vitamin deficiency that the prenatals are addressing, and therefore I am not hungry alllll the time... this could be a life-changer.

[andaluza]

I've been lurking a lot because of work issues and I feel like I'm way behind on everyone here.

Tickletoes, that is such a relief about the progesterone! Sometimes I wonder myself about the temping, but I tend to be kind of controlling about these sorts of things and I am sure, as you say, it can be stressful from either angle.

Welcome Sarahfaith! I hope that your stay here is short. I drank rrl tea in June/July and kind of think that it helped my cycles at the tail end of being on bcp to regulate my irregular cycle; since then I haven't had any midcycle bleeding or wonky spotting. 

I am sorry about how you are feeling, lilacvioletiris. I am only sharing some information with family about ttc and not with any friends or acquaintances and it is hard to keep it all in sometimes.

TeamViddy, sorry about the bfn :( Until AF arrives, however, there is still room for hope! Very interesting things were going on with my nipples last month, but I have a feeling that it was due to higher progesterone as a result of clomid, which also lengthened my cycle a bit.That is interesting about the vitamins and your appetite. I am using prescription prenatals now and think that the higher amounts of certain b vitamins and dha are keeping away fatigue.

Pitchounette, that stinks that you think af may be arriving soon. Your chart was looking so nice last time I peeked at it. 

CaCountryGirl I think it is possible to modify your chart on ff for different kinds of symptoms in the following area: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/odetector_module.php (manual override and expert settings). However, it has a caution about changing the settings.

I hope that the timing is better for you next month, pooruglyhappy!

AFM, cd10 and I start opks and even-day bd (these are my gyn's orders because of the clomid). However, I am considering daily bd once I start to see evidence of an LH surge. I am still unsure about this, but I've read in several places (TCOYF and ff.com) that if there is no issue with partner's semen, that daily gives you better chances.  Opinions?

[ValH]

Pitch -   I hope AF stays away.  Thanks for asking how I'm feeling!  I'm doing okay, just waiting anxiously!!  I'll make sure to let y'all know when it happens.  I got so much support from this thread during the year we were TTC, it kind of feels like "home."  

  Fingers crossed for all those in the 2WW!  

andaluza - As for the frequency of BDing... when I was on Clomid, we did every day (or more) during O-time.  So to me based on personal experience, if DH has good sperm, frequency is not an issue.  However, I have friends that did the every-other-day thing, and they swear that's what helped them.  My issue with every-other-day was I felt like I was missing an opportunity.  Although, honestly, in the end I just gave up for the month and it was up to DH to determine when we BD'ed... of course, he opted for every day, lol.  But it worked!

[pitchounette]

So my temp is WAY UP this morning, 98.5, at 16 DPO.  No sign of AF.  Took a test and there's a verrrrrrrry faint line.  I'm cautiously optimistic that I may actually be pregnant.  Going to test again when I get home.  Will update asap.  Meanwhile here's this morning's test: 

WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[andaluza]

That looks clearly positive to me, Pitchounette!!!! Way to go!   That's fantastic news. I knew that there was something special about your chart.

[reelala]

Originally Posted by pitchounette 

So my temp is WAY UP this morning, 98.5, at 16 DPO.  No sign of AF.  Took a test and there's a verrrrrrrry faint line.  I'm cautiously optimistic that I may actually be pregnant.  Going to test again when I get home.  Will update asap.  Meanwhile here's this morning's test: 

WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I SEE IT!  Faint but there!  I am so saying a little prayer for you and keeping my fingers crossed!
 

[ValH]

I see it, too!!!  Sending you lots of sticky baby dust!  Keep us posted.  

BTW - do you have any FRER?  I've heard those are better than the blue-dye tests, so you might be able to get a better line on one of those.  So excited for you, pitch!!

[TeamViddy]

Pitch- CONGRATULATIONS!!! So happy for you!! The line is definitely there.

[mexilady]

Hi ladies,

I am new to this site and would like to join your group.  I am 29 and my husband and I are ttc#1. I am currently on cycle #5.  This journey has been so much harder than I thought it would be. We are a healthy couple with no known issues. I am starting my nursing internship on a larbor and delivery unit next week, as I am really passionate about birth, however being around brand new babies does not help! You seem to be a very supportive group of women and I think it is so important to have an outlet to share in the struggle as a lot of people just "don't get it". Thanks.

P.s: I am 8dpo and trying to hold out to test! Crazy ttc brain has totally taken over!