Originally Posted by APToddlerMama
A 5 page essay to be allowed to shave her legs? I understand the values you're trying to raise her with, but maybe you've forgotten how brutal junior high and high school can be. Not allowing her to do things like shave her legs is more likely to lead her to rebel from your ideals than embrace them if you ask me. At some point, we need to start turning over some control and responsibility to our kids.
Ditto. I wasn't allowed to shave my legs until my MOM thought I was ready. This resulted in lots of embarrassment, me wearing jeans through all of 6th grade (which also got me picked on & made fun of, since it was often over 90 degrees), and ultimately going behind her back & just shaving on my own, even though I was generally a very very very obedient 'perfect' child. I had a really visceral reaction to reading about the 5-page-essay thing.
Originally Posted by karne
Not saying that the OP's dd needs braces, just that sometimes it's important to meet your child's concerns with empathy, and leave it there for a while. Overthinking it through whatever lens you use (feminism, AP, etc.) doesn't always lend anything to the situation because that's not what it's about for your child.
I agree with this too. I don't know, this thread is actually really triggering for me to read, that feeling of being so controlled by my parents and my feelings so minimized & ridiculed... I am not saying the OP is anything like my parents, just that it brings up similar feelings for me, things I think contributed to an eating disorder & other really serious issues... Maybe I'm just sensitive, IDK.
And I can't tell you how much easier it is for me to eat food because I had braces. I don't know how bad my teeth were, maybe they were really bad, all I know is I was never able to eat apples, corn, popcorn, etc. until after I'd had braces. But I guess if the dentist says they are fine then your DD's teeth probably aren't that bad.
Oh and I was weaned by 9mos and I have never had a single cavity (though I did need braces!)