DD is 14 months and we are expecting number two this March. She has slept with DH and myself since day one and doesn't even nap without being on/wtih me or him. I really don't have a problem with her in our bed, actually I love it and am really not ready to give it up, but I don't know how things are going to work with a newborn and a toddler. DD is pretty much attached to the booby at night so even if she falls asleep on the other side of DH she'll sleep crawl to the boob, she's also a huge thrasher. I've tried gentle night weaning, but after she woke up the first time she refused to go back to bed. Sadly, I even attempted to put her in the pack in play by our bed and let her CIO and it went horrid. She actually kept herself up screaming until I gave in at 5:30am, she was beside us and at one point I even got in it with her to try and comfort her and she wouldn't have it.
My problem is I can't expect her to not crawl over a newborn in the middle of the night even in one of those sleep nest. I've considered a arms reach co-sleeper for the baby, but I'm still afraid she'd crawl into it. I'm really lost as what to do. I don't want to make new baby sleep in a crib or bassinet and deprive him/her of the amazingness that is co-sleeping but I'm going to feel terible about making DD sleep on her own and I worry she'll feel replaced.
Sorry if this is pointless,but I'd love to hear any suggestions you may have or about others experiences with similar situations.