DS1 is having a really hard time adjusting to his new preschool and DH and I are really confused about what we should do. Last year he attended a play-based preschool 2 days a week in the 2 year old class. This year we switched to a Montessori school 5 days a week. He is almost 3.5 years old. It has been pretty bad. He had very few issues at his school last year but we think he might have learned some aggressive behaviors there because he started hitting/kicking/pushing his brother at home. He and his brother have sibling disputes on a regular basis but I figure that this is normal and we put them in time out for any abusive behaviors. So, he started this new preschool three weeks ago and he has bitten the teacher, thrown plates, and hit other children. I can't believe this is my child!!! The only thing I can think of is that he is overtired from the new schedule and environment, he will not nap anymore. He is also pretty sensitive so the change may be stressing him out. He has started saying that he doesn't like his new school, and has even said multiple times that he wants to go to the old school. He says he had fun at the old school. The last thing I want to do is stress out my 3 year old!! We were so excited about the Montessori method and environment and thought it would be a great fit for him. I am wondering if the strict Montessori "rules" aren't a good match for his personality. The teacher is giving me the impression that she has not had to deal with this kind of behavior before, and she has been there for 30 years. It's making me fear that something is wrong with him even though I logically don't think his behavior is outside of the norm. There have been great days there, and then there are horrible days. I have noticed that the days seem to get worse as the week goes on, which leads me to believe it is fatigue that is causing this. He has made some great leaps just since he started this school. He is much more independent. He is dressing himself, washing himself, using the adult potty, helping me cook, etc. He also comes home after a good day wanting to do things they did at school like planting flowers and he is cleaning up his messes.
So, we are seriously considering taking him out of this school and finding out if there is still space at his old school, or just keeping him home until we can find another situation. I am torn because I don't want to pull him out if it will get better soon, but I don't want to put him under any stress at this age. I just want him to be happy and have fun and if he learns at the same time that's great too.
Any input would be appreciated.